Having no clue where to go in life.
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Sounds like you have depression.
If I were you first thing I'd do would be to quit the booze, sounds like you are drinking too much.
Then I'd figure out where I wanna be in 5,10 years etc and then I'd work hard to get there.
I would still enjoy life but I'd work hard too.
Mcdonalds will give you money and you could even work your way up there but I'd use it to pay for studying and, whilst you won't realise it, working there will make you more rounded and used to dealing with people of all ages.
If I were you first thing I'd do would be to quit the booze, sounds like you are drinking too much.
Then I'd figure out where I wanna be in 5,10 years etc and then I'd work hard to get there.
I would still enjoy life but I'd work hard too.
Mcdonalds will give you money and you could even work your way up there but I'd use it to pay for studying and, whilst you won't realise it, working there will make you more rounded and used to dealing with people of all ages.
You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You're a youngster with a job who's capable of much more, but lacks drive at this moment in time.
Things change, but only if you change it. Getting out of bed in the morning, every morning without a hangover is a good start.
Also - There are much better places in the world than waking up in Sheffield or Leeds (In fact maybe the hangover helps for these two cities
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Things change, but only if you change it. Getting out of bed in the morning, every morning without a hangover is a good start.
Also - There are much better places in the world than waking up in Sheffield or Leeds (In fact maybe the hangover helps for these two cities
)Lotus Notes said:
You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You're a youngster with a job who's capable of much more, but lacks drive at this moment in time.
Things change, but only if you change it. Getting out of bed in the morning, every morning without a hangover is a good start.
Also - There are much better places in the world than waking up in Sheffield or Leeds (In fact maybe the hangover helps for these two cities)
Listen to this bloke. I'm 25, didn't bother with uni as I couldn't thing of anything I wanted to do desperately enough to spend all that time and money on. Went straight into work and I've bounced through various jobs since then.Things change, but only if you change it. Getting out of bed in the morning, every morning without a hangover is a good start.
Also - There are much better places in the world than waking up in Sheffield or Leeds (In fact maybe the hangover helps for these two cities
)I've been bouncing off that brick wall for the last 7/8 years but you just have to keep throwing yourself at it, every now and again it hurts and you really wonder why you bother but other times it does start to crack and you realise you are getting there. Take a hobby and start applying for jobs for that. I assume you are into cars so try KwikFit or something like that, just to get your foot in the door, you will learn some skills with something you like and use those skills to progress. Or as you like computers do an OU course or something you can do in your own time in that area.
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You must have some sort of skills though bud. I got my first job at 18 because of a CAD module I did doing Automotive Engineering at college. Ended up working for a double glazing company doing basic doodling as that was the job going at the time. Working on it everyday got me better at it, started learning more technical and construction details (as well as giving me van driving, ground maintenance and site works experience) and (after a few months at Tesco) I moved on to a better paid (still barely above min wage though
) job doing more advanced CAD stuff (Telecoms). That job as a bonus gave me a basic electrical knowledge and (combining my car knowledge) I now work for an Auto Electric Supply company. Still don't have a particular path in life, still wonder when I go visit the GF in uni if I made the right call but I am where I am and I still don't know what I'd study.
I have very little motivation but I don't mind playing the long game, don't be afraid to ask questions, try new things or learn new (however basic) skills. It's all baby steps bud, you ARE still young (as am I) and there is plenty of scope to always improve.
And always remember this song, it may not be your genre but listen to the lyrics it's always put things in perspective for me (even though I'm not remotely religious)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QoqGUVOXmkU
Chin up OP. 
Poor sleep, excess consumption of alcohol, low mood. Do you think you need to see your GP? There may be a role for CBT here.
But seriously, you're 24! When I was 24 my life was a sad and empty sham and I was trapped in a vicious vortex of despair. But here I am, nearly 30 yrs later and my life is .........exactly the same!Hence explaining your post count.
Poor sleep, excess consumption of alcohol, low mood. Do you think you need to see your GP? There may be a role for CBT here.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
F1GTRUeno said:
Obviously I'm not made of money and neither are my parents (not that I wanted to lend the money off them )
OP, it's borrow money off them, not lend! I hope this helps you.But seriously, you're 24! When I was 24 my life was a sad and empty sham and I was trapped in a vicious vortex of despair. But here I am, nearly 30 yrs later and my life is .........exactly the same!
You've to do two things: See a shrink and then head off to the Army recruiting office.
You see the shrink so he can confirm that you're not mentally ill. You could be clinically depressed (or whatever), which is the underlying cause of your laissez-faire. Once you've got your "Not a mental" chit, head off to the AFCO.
Join the Army. Not the RAF, we're too nice. Not the Navy, they're too gay. Join the Army. You won't have the soft, laying in bed, can't be arsed, option. You'll do early morning PT, or guess what, you'll do double early morning PT.
6 months in grown up land and you'll have forgotten all about the life you lead now. You need a kick up the arse, my boy. Her Majesty is only too pleased to provide one.
Simon.
You see the shrink so he can confirm that you're not mentally ill. You could be clinically depressed (or whatever), which is the underlying cause of your laissez-faire. Once you've got your "Not a mental" chit, head off to the AFCO.
Join the Army. Not the RAF, we're too nice. Not the Navy, they're too gay. Join the Army. You won't have the soft, laying in bed, can't be arsed, option. You'll do early morning PT, or guess what, you'll do double early morning PT.
6 months in grown up land and you'll have forgotten all about the life you lead now. You need a kick up the arse, my boy. Her Majesty is only too pleased to provide one.
Simon.
ArsE92 said:
Thats brilliant. This helped me:http://youtu.be/1EY7lYRneHc
The op sounds depressed. Drinking to much won't help this. Comedy helped me smile when I got all woe is me in my mid 20s. It sorts itself out by the time you're 30 and have some direction and purpose in life. Don't try looking too hard for this. It kind of finds you.
Or have a kid. Nothing focuses your mind and attitude towards life and providing than having a baby
If you really want to get back onto the uni course then consider getting a job (any job) at the university in question. most have great CPD opportunities, including heavy discounts (or even free) access to their own products. Obviously you would be going down the part time study route, but if you are committed then it's worth it - I got my Masters this way, didn't cost me a penny.
I went through the exact same thing - tried uni, hated it, went back to dead end job, had anxiety and confidence issues, saw everyone moving on in life and felt left behind and worthless. Developed pretty bad depression and at the same age as you, kept getting told "you're young, enjoy yourself" which from what I remember really didn't help!
I went back to uni full time, got a first and turned my life around. Now life isn't a fairy tale, and it certainly ain't perfect but it is much better than it was and what you're going through now.
So having been though and understand exactly what you mean, my advice and tips:
- Ease up on booze. It's a depressant, and does NOTHING for your motivation
- Exercise. I like weight lifting, but do whatever you enjoy. There are so many benefits (endorphins, fitness yada yada) which I'm sure you know, but trust me, it is worth it
- Eat healthy. This makes a huge difference to your energy and general well being
- Sleep. Very important - eating right and exercising will make sleep easier. All three will improve your mental health
- Constantly improve yourself. This will help with confidence and to actually developing your usable skills. You like programming - excellent... Make time ten hours a week doing tutorials, building stuff, make it all externally viewable so you can show it to those interested. Join forums, communicate with like minded techies and throw ideas around
- Keep the job going, however pants it is. I've recruited people in my team with no previous IT experience but they improved their knowledge at home whilst holding down a job. This is not easy!
- You are unhappy where you are. See this as a positive, and use it to motivate yourself. Next time you feel a little pooped and can't be assed loading up Lynda.com to learn about Inheritance and interfaces, remember you don't want to flip burgers all your career!
- Finally, try and stay positive. This might seem difficult now, but things will improve IF YOU WANT THEM TO. Again, it might not seem it now but the world is your oyster, and there are exciting opportunities out there....
P.s. Sorry about spelling I'm on my phone. P.m if you want specifics on diet or exercise or IT stuff
I went back to uni full time, got a first and turned my life around. Now life isn't a fairy tale, and it certainly ain't perfect but it is much better than it was and what you're going through now.
So having been though and understand exactly what you mean, my advice and tips:
- Ease up on booze. It's a depressant, and does NOTHING for your motivation
- Exercise. I like weight lifting, but do whatever you enjoy. There are so many benefits (endorphins, fitness yada yada) which I'm sure you know, but trust me, it is worth it
- Eat healthy. This makes a huge difference to your energy and general well being
- Sleep. Very important - eating right and exercising will make sleep easier. All three will improve your mental health
- Constantly improve yourself. This will help with confidence and to actually developing your usable skills. You like programming - excellent... Make time ten hours a week doing tutorials, building stuff, make it all externally viewable so you can show it to those interested. Join forums, communicate with like minded techies and throw ideas around
- Keep the job going, however pants it is. I've recruited people in my team with no previous IT experience but they improved their knowledge at home whilst holding down a job. This is not easy!
- You are unhappy where you are. See this as a positive, and use it to motivate yourself. Next time you feel a little pooped and can't be assed loading up Lynda.com to learn about Inheritance and interfaces, remember you don't want to flip burgers all your career!
- Finally, try and stay positive. This might seem difficult now, but things will improve IF YOU WANT THEM TO. Again, it might not seem it now but the world is your oyster, and there are exciting opportunities out there....
P.s. Sorry about spelling I'm on my phone. P.m if you want specifics on diet or exercise or IT stuff
NeMiSiS said:
Start your own business, car tax disc holders sell well, I've seen lots of small press machines lately that knock out hundreds of aluminium holders, dead cheap as well.
Good luck.
Good luck.
NeMiSiS said:
This Tax Disc holder machine can punch and engrave 1000 units per hour, it's a designated machine only for this product.
To buy this 3 years ago was circa £25,000, yours for an unbelievable price of £500, it's worth more than that scrap.
It even engraves the back with go-fast emblems, I tell you, dip yer bread, instant money maker.
Posting jokes in a thread where someone is ending the end of the tether and asking for help is a bit crass even if the joke is sort of funny. Posting a played out, done to death Tax disc holder joke not once, but twice is the sign of a true dTo buy this 3 years ago was circa £25,000, yours for an unbelievable price of £500, it's worth more than that scrap.
It even engraves the back with go-fast emblems, I tell you, dip yer bread, instant money maker.
head.If you're going to troll either be funny or f
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