Good Friends Owing Money

[Staplebug]

All,

This probably seems petty but its really bugging me.

To sum it up:
Group of blokes go camping every Nov. Just for one night to drink and get away from the wife and kids.

I booked and paid for everything in Aug.

3 of the guys have backed out today (and 2 done the same last year)

Its only £15pp so I am only down £45.

I have text the guys explaining that I am now out of pocket £45 and they need to pay and they basically said "yeah, I'll sort you out next time" which basically means that's its not going to happen.

How would you guys handle it?

[davepoth]

After you get back this year, tell everyone you aren't going to book the camping next year.

[Piersman2]

I'd have only got caught out with this the once.

Seems you struggle to learn lessons so not sure any advice we can give you will be of use.

More seriously though, suck it up and DON'T pay the next time until you have their cash.

Not much else you can do really.

[louismchuge]

fk em, don't invite them next time

Don't let a couple of flakes ruin something your other friends probably really appreciate you organising

[louismchuge]

fk em, don't invite them next time

Don't let a couple of flakes ruin something your other friends probably really appreciate you organising

[NiceCupOfTea]

They're not friends.

[Animal]

Not invite them again.

[GG89]

Tell them they owe the booking fee as you paid it for them.

Just noticed you said this to them, do you see them often? I'd be telling them to pay up when I saw them although it's not a lot of money it is fking cheeky to expect you to foot the bill for them cancelling.

[HonestIago]

NiceCupOfTea said:

They're not friends.

+1

Any friend of mine would fall over themselves to pay me back and I'd be the same were I in that position. It shows a complete lack of respect even if it is only £15.

[B17NNS]

NiceCupOfTea said:

They're not friends.

This. It shows a complete lack of respect.

[Oldandslow]

For £45 I wouldn't get all biblical or cut them off but if they want to come next year or to anything else I was organising it'd be cash up front or "sorry, maybe next year"

[hornetrider]

Just tell them not next time, now. It's no drama to make a bank transfer.

[Petrolhead95]

I'm in the same situation with one of my best friends; she owes me £48 but I'm yet to see any of it two months later. Normally it wouldn't bother me but as I'm saving up for a Corsa VXR, I need every penny possible.

[SpydieNut]

HonestIago said:

NiceCupOfTea said:

They're not friends.

+1

Any friend of mine would fall over themselves to pay me back and I'd be the same were I in that position. It shows a complete lack of respect even if it is only £15.

I'd have to agree with that. I'd also not be inviting any of those 3 in the future.

[markcoznottz]

Who needs enemies?? As mentioned people do this because a) they think you are a soft touch, or b) because they simply don't give a fk, and 'it's only a small amount don't worry about it'. No respect.

[Vocal Minority]

People are very quick to say 'its only a small amount' or 'chill out man' when they are not the one out of pocket. £45 is not a large amount of money, but neither is it a small one.

They are being wkers (because it doesn't affect them) and should be informed thusly.

[omgus]

B17NNS said:

NiceCupOfTea said:

They're not friends.

This. It shows a complete lack of respect.

It doesn't matter how much it is, their actions are plain rude.

If you invite them next time get the money upfront.

[226bhp]

If they ask to go next year charge them £30.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

Just send them a nice message saying things are a bit tight at the moment and you really can't afford to be out of pocket, and you would appreciate it if they could each pay their £15.

Trouble is, most people like others to think they are doing well and successful, so would be reluctant to say they were short of money. I'm the opposite, and I like everyone to think I'm far poorer than I am. That way, I don't get tapped up for money in the first place.

[glenrobbo]

The best one I had was:
"Can you lend me twenty quid, so I can pay back the tenner I owe you."

WTF??? Just NO.


Any trips like yours, it has to be cash up front or they don't get on the list. Simples.