Friends with people who are bad when drunk
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I have 2 friends like this.
One gets drunk and then starts trying to fight people having never been in a fight in his entire life then tries to run back to us as a group to back him up,ended up meeting another friend over in Ibiza and was chatting away when my stupid mate came up and slapped him for no reason, I ended up giving him a kicking for it and haven't spoke to him since, have very little time for him now and he still thinks what happens to him is everyone else's fault.
My other mate keeps to himself when sober, works hard etc but suffers from wee man syndrome when drunk. I wasn't there but 2 weeks ago he went to a family party, got leg less and filled himself with marching powder, ended up stabbing holes in every wall in his house, threatening his mum and stepdad while holding the knife and drove away drunk, he's now homeless and funnily enough staying with my friend from the first part of my post.
Admittedly I've had one or two nights where I've been a little b*****d when I was 18 but got a kicking and learned from it, but they two just seems to think it's not there fault
One gets drunk and then starts trying to fight people having never been in a fight in his entire life then tries to run back to us as a group to back him up,ended up meeting another friend over in Ibiza and was chatting away when my stupid mate came up and slapped him for no reason, I ended up giving him a kicking for it and haven't spoke to him since, have very little time for him now and he still thinks what happens to him is everyone else's fault.
My other mate keeps to himself when sober, works hard etc but suffers from wee man syndrome when drunk. I wasn't there but 2 weeks ago he went to a family party, got leg less and filled himself with marching powder, ended up stabbing holes in every wall in his house, threatening his mum and stepdad while holding the knife and drove away drunk, he's now homeless and funnily enough staying with my friend from the first part of my post.
Admittedly I've had one or two nights where I've been a little b*****d when I was 18 but got a kicking and learned from it, but they two just seems to think it's not there fault
My SIS's fiancée has a mate like this.
Most people acquire and move away from friends in life, but not in this case.
I was introduced to the friend at a house party and told "He's as good as my brother". Fair enough but this guy drank and drank before becoming an obnoxious loud t
t. He's a big bloke so having a quiet word with him in the back garden would probably backfire though I feel sure a hiding or two would help him reset his standards of behaviour.
Sadly the only way we couod deal with it was when we next met the fiancée and pulled no punches about what a cock his mate is. Like a good mate, he defended his pal, but conceded he could get a bit lairy.
I hope it's sorted now. Months later we were invited to an event by them, asked if the annoying intimidating drunk was invited and when we were told he was, we declined, making it obvious he was the reason.
The SIL was delighted, as it was ammo in her campaign of persuading her fiancée to drop him, citing the fact that her family weren't impressed with his mate and that there would be no wedding if he was there.
Not seen or heard of the guy since. They are still engaged, so I presume it's sorted.
I had a university pal who not on the same level, would cause problems when drunk. Silly problems over nothing. Always the "victim". Someone in a kebab queue wasrudeto him, someone pushed in at the bar, always a similar story. Years after Uni, I was visiting him and got invited to some sort of school reunion. They were a decent bunch of people and we all had a good night except him. He started raging that I was getting in with so and so who he'd fallen out with in fith form or whatever.
A lively bloke sober and after a couple of beers. A wker when drunk.
Next day his housemate - one of the old school crowd - apologised for him. Told JE a few familiar tales while my pal was chucking up in the bog upstairs.
Said my goodbyes and left. No contact after that until a call a couple of years later asking me to be his best man. I was honest with him, telling him that there was no way I was taking responsibility for him with all his hang ups, his stag night and his wedding day.
Surprisingly, he said he understood and that mine was not he first knock back. Even his brother had said no.
A shame because out of drink he is a funny observant deeply intellegent and likabile bloke.
Most people acquire and move away from friends in life, but not in this case.
I was introduced to the friend at a house party and told "He's as good as my brother". Fair enough but this guy drank and drank before becoming an obnoxious loud t
t. He's a big bloke so having a quiet word with him in the back garden would probably backfire though I feel sure a hiding or two would help him reset his standards of behaviour.Sadly the only way we couod deal with it was when we next met the fiancée and pulled no punches about what a cock his mate is. Like a good mate, he defended his pal, but conceded he could get a bit lairy.
I hope it's sorted now. Months later we were invited to an event by them, asked if the annoying intimidating drunk was invited and when we were told he was, we declined, making it obvious he was the reason.
The SIL was delighted, as it was ammo in her campaign of persuading her fiancée to drop him, citing the fact that her family weren't impressed with his mate and that there would be no wedding if he was there.
Not seen or heard of the guy since. They are still engaged, so I presume it's sorted.
I had a university pal who not on the same level, would cause problems when drunk. Silly problems over nothing. Always the "victim". Someone in a kebab queue wasrudeto him, someone pushed in at the bar, always a similar story. Years after Uni, I was visiting him and got invited to some sort of school reunion. They were a decent bunch of people and we all had a good night except him. He started raging that I was getting in with so and so who he'd fallen out with in fith form or whatever.
A lively bloke sober and after a couple of beers. A w
ker when drunk.Next day his housemate - one of the old school crowd - apologised for him. Told JE a few familiar tales while my pal was chucking up in the bog upstairs.
Said my goodbyes and left. No contact after that until a call a couple of years later asking me to be his best man. I was honest with him, telling him that there was no way I was taking responsibility for him with all his hang ups, his stag night and his wedding day.
Surprisingly, he said he understood and that mine was not he first knock back. Even his brother had said no.
A shame because out of drink he is a funny observant deeply intellegent and likabile bloke.
Rickyy said:
I have a mate like this, he isn't so bad now that he is married and I don't often go out anymore, so rarely see him.
But he was a nightmare. Nicest guy ever when sober, but he went through three stages when drinking.
They were:
Happy, funny drunk
Quiet, wide eyed and stumbly drunk
Pain in the arse, confrontational and aggressive drunk
If you intervened early enough when he was at the second stage, you could prevent the third. But if he did reach the third, your night was ruined.
I've wrestled him from an upstairs window because he was trying to jump out of it into the garden, I've stood between him and a twenty stone nut case, carried him home numerous times and apologised more times than I care to mention for him being naked in public places!
Are you a friend of mine? I am exactly that person when I drink!But he was a nightmare. Nicest guy ever when sober, but he went through three stages when drinking.
They were:
Happy, funny drunk
Quiet, wide eyed and stumbly drunk
Pain in the arse, confrontational and aggressive drunk
If you intervened early enough when he was at the second stage, you could prevent the third. But if he did reach the third, your night was ruined.
I've wrestled him from an upstairs window because he was trying to jump out of it into the garden, I've stood between him and a twenty stone nut case, carried him home numerous times and apologised more times than I care to mention for him being naked in public places!
lord trumpton said:
Alcohol should be far tighter controlled and regulated. I know I'm up against the masses here but if I could wave a magic wand, alcohol would follow smoking in being slowly closed down and finished off.
Well that's certainly the modern 21st Century Nanny State way of things isn't it? Forget personal responsibility, counselling, and moderation... just regulate, control, restrict, and dictate. One day everything will be a utopia. 
JonRB said:
lord trumpton said:
Alcohol should be far tighter controlled and regulated. I know I'm up against the masses here but if I could wave a magic wand, alcohol would follow smoking in being slowly closed down and finished off.
Well that's certainly the modern 21st Century Nanny State way of things isn't it? Forget personal responsibility, counselling, and moderation... just regulate, control, restrict, and dictate. One day everything will be a utopia. The trouble is common sense isn't that common nowadays, so some people get this "ban it all" idea.
Lord Trumpton, do you seriously think banning everything would change anything?
Edit for misattribution.
hora said:
The Beaver King said:
Still, she is only 22 so I'm hoping it will pass.
It never passes. You grow out of certain music, certain fashion but you never change your personality.. Every few months she would make some big gesture; councelling, hypnosis, quit drinking, whatever it was. But it would always end the same way.
We split up; and I now couldn't be happier.
Sorry to say, but preparing for the worst
S11Steve said:
I used to work with a guy who was a workshop receptionist - stocky build, but a bit short, quiet and unassuming. He spent a lot of time at the gym but didn't look like a bulbous meat head.
He wasn't one for drinking, but when he did come on a boozy night out, he was an animal. He'd help himself to drinks by going behind the bar, throwing full pints of lager in the air, pulling the plugs out of the DJ booth, throwing women over his shoulder and running out of the pub with them, and his crowning glory was getting refused entry into a nightclub, so he stripped naked and kicked the crap out of the three doormen.
He warned them that it would be more humiliating for them to be beaten up by a small naked bloke, but they didn't take him seriously. Two of them ended up in hospital, the third ran away, and he spent a night calming down in the cells.
I'm sorry but that is hilarious.He wasn't one for drinking, but when he did come on a boozy night out, he was an animal. He'd help himself to drinks by going behind the bar, throwing full pints of lager in the air, pulling the plugs out of the DJ booth, throwing women over his shoulder and running out of the pub with them, and his crowning glory was getting refused entry into a nightclub, so he stripped naked and kicked the crap out of the three doormen.
He warned them that it would be more humiliating for them to be beaten up by a small naked bloke, but they didn't take him seriously. Two of them ended up in hospital, the third ran away, and he spent a night calming down in the cells.
I have a mate, who i used to work he was part of our group & really would do anything for anyone when sober.
However he was an absolute fking liability when he'd had a few beers, instances would include:
Getting absolutely st faced, being incredibly rude to people, chatting up women who he knew were stood next to boyfriends, dancing like some sort of Techno Viking & generally just being an ahole.
He got away with it for years without getting a kicking as everyone could see he was just a drunken idiot & we'd usually rescue him before it got too far.
However Xmas eve a few years back he left a local nightclub, decided to chat up a girl, who was having a huge row with her boyfriend, boyfriend, obvsiouly hacked off by this the launched an attack on said friend, fracturing his eye socket, breaking his nose, cheek bone, jaw & a couple of teeth & left him in a pool of his own blood.
My problem when drinking is once i start i never want to go home, i always want to carry on the party!
However he was an absolute f
king liability when he'd had a few beers, instances would include:Getting absolutely s
t faced, being incredibly rude to people, chatting up women who he knew were stood next to boyfriends, dancing like some sort of Techno Viking & generally just being an ahole.He got away with it for years without getting a kicking as everyone could see he was just a drunken idiot & we'd usually rescue him before it got too far.
However Xmas eve a few years back he left a local nightclub, decided to chat up a girl, who was having a huge row with her boyfriend, boyfriend, obvsiouly hacked off by this the launched an attack on said friend, fracturing his eye socket, breaking his nose, cheek bone, jaw & a couple of teeth & left him in a pool of his own blood.
My problem when drinking is once i start i never want to go home, i always want to carry on the party!
There's a girl in a our group of friends who is a terrible drunk. She's quite and a little shy normally and dotes on her boyfriend. A couple of glasses of wine and she's sitting on laps, grabbing groins and generally acting like a male 1970's TV presenter. It's all rather awkward with her boyfriend being in attendance. Needless to say the other wives/girlfriends in the group are not too keen on her anymore.
HorneyMX5 said:
There's a girl in a our group of friends who is a terrible drunk. She's quite and a little shy normally and dotes on her boyfriend. A couple of glasses of wine and she's sitting on laps, grabbing groins and generally acting like a male 1970's TV presenter. It's all rather awkward with her boyfriend being in attendance. Needless to say the other wives/girlfriends in the group are not too keen on her anymore.
What you need, is to get her out on her own.
Used to have a friend that was a pretty good bloke, a bit loud, but when he'd been drinking it amplified it badly.
If we went anywhere he'd do his usual of trying to chat up any woman that was around and if they turned him down he would then start calling them every name under the sun, not nice at all.
He started wrestling me in a crowded Harvester - bit embarrassing and what finally pissed me off was, while i was driving at 70 mph with a car full of people, he decided from the seat behind me to clamp his hands over my eyes.
Haven't seen him for years.
When we were teenagers and we all had motorbikes this lad sort of latched onto us and started hanging around. Very, very quiet person, so we thought , until we went to a friends local pub in a village one Sunday lunchtime.
Once he'd had a few drinks Ive never seen such a transformation . This is a quiet pub with a few people enjoying sunday dinner and he's now totally off his head and shouting at the top of his voice what his girlfriend had been saying to him one time while they were having sex. I don't think anyone appreciated hearing "C** up my A**e ! " over and over again. He then started throwing darts into peoples dinners and going nose to nose with one of the blokes at the bar. Last time he went out with us
If we went anywhere he'd do his usual of trying to chat up any woman that was around and if they turned him down he would then start calling them every name under the sun, not nice at all.
He started wrestling me in a crowded Harvester - bit embarrassing and what finally pissed me off was, while i was driving at 70 mph with a car full of people, he decided from the seat behind me to clamp his hands over my eyes.
Haven't seen him for years.
When we were teenagers and we all had motorbikes this lad sort of latched onto us and started hanging around. Very, very quiet person, so we thought , until we went to a friends local pub in a village one Sunday lunchtime.
Once he'd had a few drinks Ive never seen such a transformation . This is a quiet pub with a few people enjoying sunday dinner and he's now totally off his head and shouting at the top of his voice what his girlfriend had been saying to him one time while they were having sex. I don't think anyone appreciated hearing "C** up my A**e ! " over and over again. He then started throwing darts into peoples dinners and going nose to nose with one of the blokes at the bar. Last time he went out with us
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