Child Maintenance - when does it stop?

[StuntmanMike]

Would the boy come and live with you?

[Ari]

StuntmanMike said:

Would the boy come and live with you?

As I mentioned earlier in the thread, even if he did, how long do you think it would last once he realises that he can't play on his Playstation all day at dads, but he can at mums...?

[Rick101]

I don't know...I've always been very strict with my two whilst their mum has always given into them. It's evident now with the problems that she has with them whilst when they're with me, they know, no means no and that's the end of it.

They are quite happy being with me and hate the environment they are in with their mother. Kids need boundaries, in fact we all do. Though they might not appreciate it at first, in time everyone will benefit.

[Frimley111R]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Frimley111R said:

Isn't it? The government are only concerned about payments. Having been through all this I often tell guys that they're fked and just to deal with it. Its absolutely st of course but there's nothing you can do about it.

I'm at Court in a day or two because my evil ex says she thinks I am earning more than I say (I'm not!). I have had to provide just about every financial record of everything to disprove her and she only only has to accuse me based on what she thinks without a shred of evidence (she lives 100 miles away). I've been in the top 5 or 10% of UK wage earners most of my life and she's worked p/t plus I lent her £41k for the mortgage when we split saving her £24,000+ And she's till not happy! Oh, and access rights?? Don't make me laugh, not worth the paper they're written on!

/sorry, rant over

Without meaning to appear flippant, can I ask why you married a woman like this in the first place? Assuming she didn't undergo a complete personality change, which would be odd.

I read such dreadful stories of horrible women acting with such fury and vengeance and I really struggle to see why you would marry such a witch to start with.

I have a friend who is being put thru the ringer by his ex, but in his case, he turned her from a perfectly nice girl to a bitter and twisted woman thru his own womanising and all round appalling behaviour during their marriage.

I didn't. We met, moved in after a year or so as it was convenient for me at that time and then: 'Surprise! I appear to be pregnant". Hung on for a few more years but after a horrible incident based around the death of my father that was it. I left soon after but now battle her constantly. She's a horrible bh who is still single and always will be. She ruined my life from a family viewpoint and I'll never get that back. She manipulated my daughter and I battled to see her for years. She's 18 now and so we can communicate without the ex and we get on well but.. I'll stop now before I really lose it.

[StuntmanMike]

Ari said:

StuntmanMike said:

Would the boy come and live with you?

As I mentioned earlier in the thread, even if he did, how long do you think it would last once he realises that he can't play on his Playstation all day at dads, but he can at mums...?

Not necessarily, he may have an X box.

[SydneyBridge]

I am not sure which one he has, playstation I think. I know he spends most of the day on it

Although he has a bedroom at my house, with tons of his stuff in, I work full time and would not like to leave at home on my home.
Would you believe his mother does not really work and he stays round his grandparents most of the time anyway. They work from home and can keep an eye on him and more to the point, he can go to bed and get up when he wants

[Amateurish]

Get PR. Do it yourself. The courts won't deny you. Then you can have a real say over his "education".

[TwigtheWonderkid]

Frimley111R said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Frimley111R said:

Isn't it? The government are only concerned about payments. Having been through all this I often tell guys that they're fked and just to deal with it. Its absolutely st of course but there's nothing you can do about it.

I'm at Court in a day or two because my evil ex says she thinks I am earning more than I say (I'm not!). I have had to provide just about every financial record of everything to disprove her and she only only has to accuse me based on what she thinks without a shred of evidence (she lives 100 miles away). I've been in the top 5 or 10% of UK wage earners most of my life and she's worked p/t plus I lent her £41k for the mortgage when we split saving her £24,000+ And she's till not happy! Oh, and access rights?? Don't make me laugh, not worth the paper they're written on!

/sorry, rant over

Without meaning to appear flippant, can I ask why you married a woman like this in the first place? Assuming she didn't undergo a complete personality change, which would be odd.

I read such dreadful stories of horrible women acting with such fury and vengeance and I really struggle to see why you would marry such a witch to start with.

I have a friend who is being put thru the ringer by his ex, but in his case, he turned her from a perfectly nice girl to a bitter and twisted woman thru his own womanising and all round appalling behaviour during their marriage.

I didn't. We met, moved in after a year or so as it was convenient for me at that time and then: 'Surprise! I appear to be pregnant". Hung on for a few more years but after a horrible incident based around the death of my father that was it. I left soon after but now battle her constantly. She's a horrible bh who is still single and always will be. She ruined my life from a family viewpoint and I'll never get that back. She manipulated my daughter and I battled to see her for years. She's 18 now and so we can communicate without the ex and we get on well but.. I'll stop now before I really lose it.

Christ....she sounds like a real delight!!!

Although taking control of contraception yourself might have been wise in hindsight.

[Ari]

Amateurish said:

Get PR. Do it yourself. The courts won't deny you. Then you can have a real say over his "education".

And how do you see that working out in real life, exactly?

[Ari]

Frimley111R said:

I didn't. We met, moved in after a year or so as it was convenient for me at that time and then: 'Surprise! I appear to be pregnant". Hung on for a few more years but after a horrible incident based around the death of my father that was it. I left soon after but now battle her constantly. She's a horrible bh who is still single and always will be. She ruined my life from a family viewpoint and I'll never get that back. She manipulated my daughter and I battled to see her for years. She's 18 now and so we can communicate without the ex and we get on well but.. I'll stop now before I really lose it.

Gosh darn it, fancy that! Almost never happens between freeloading women and solvent men.

Sorry mate. You're not the first and you won't be the last...