Child Maintenance - when does it stop?
Discussion
SydneyBridge said:
Moonhawk said:
SydneyBridge said:
....as we were never married though I have no parental responsibility
Are you not named on the birth certificate?
twing said:
My sympathies OP, is there any chance that she'll go to the CSA and back-date?
You can't. CSA can only claim from the time they are contacted by the resident parent.So if she claims today and it isn't sorted for six months they can back claim six months, but they can't go backwards to before they were contacted.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Kentish said:
And you'd probably never see your kids again and have no input into their lives from that point on. Apart from handing over the cash each month via the CSA if the child went back to education after 16.
It's not about wining and losing when you have kids.
No, it's about making sure you do the best for your kids. Not dealing with neglect out of fear of the unpleasant consequences is not doing the best for your kids.It's not about wining and losing when you have kids.
Stamping your feet is akin to walking into a gunfight armed with a pea-shooter...
Ari said:
You can't. CSA can only claim from the time they are contacted by the resident parent.
So if she claims today and it isn't sorted for six months they can back claim six months, but they can't go backwards to before they were contacted.
Thank you, that dispels a lot of the nonsense I've heard/seen on the internet, also might help a friend of mine a bitSo if she claims today and it isn't sorted for six months they can back claim six months, but they can't go backwards to before they were contacted.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
You do not need PR to report a child being neglected. And failure to educate is neglect. I wouldn't sit by if it was my sisters son going uneducated from 13-16, or my neighbours son. I would make a nuisance of myself to get the authorities to act.
'Thank you for your concern sir, I can assure you the matter will be looked into, but data protection means I cannot furnish you with any details. Thank you for your concern, goodbye'.Next?
twing said:
Ari said:
You can't. CSA can only claim from the time they are contacted by the resident parent.
So if she claims today and it isn't sorted for six months they can back claim six months, but they can't go backwards to before they were contacted.
Thank you, that dispels a lot of the nonsense I've heard/seen on the internet, also might help a friend of mine a bitSo if she claims today and it isn't sorted for six months they can back claim six months, but they can't go backwards to before they were contacted.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
No, it's about making sure you do the best for your kids. Not dealing with neglect out of fear of the unpleasant consequences is not doing the best for your kids.
The most likely outcome of doing that will be no contact with the child, the mother will keep custody and the child will still have no education but will hate you for not being in their life.All the while you will still pay maintenance but also have a large legal bill from first trying to stop the mother and then from trying to get access.
WinstonWolf said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Kentish said:
And you'd probably never see your kids again and have no input into their lives from that point on. Apart from handing over the cash each month via the CSA if the child went back to education after 16.
It's not about wining and losing when you have kids.
No, it's about making sure you do the best for your kids. Not dealing with neglect out of fear of the unpleasant consequences is not doing the best for your kids.It's not about wining and losing when you have kids.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
WinstonWolf said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Kentish said:
And you'd probably never see your kids again and have no input into their lives from that point on. Apart from handing over the cash each month via the CSA if the child went back to education after 16.
It's not about wining and losing when you have kids.
No, it's about making sure you do the best for your kids. Not dealing with neglect out of fear of the unpleasant consequences is not doing the best for your kids.It's not about wining and losing when you have kids.
k it. Principles are far more important than seeing your own kids...You appear to be in the fortunate position of not having a f
king clue what you're talking about in this case.SydneyBridge said:
bloody hell..
Lets hope they agree that I don't have to pay anything until he is back in full time education
They are supposed to encourage parents to pay direct, but time will tell if they actually do. 20% (plus another 4% deducted from the payment to the mother) is a big carrot for them to collect ....Lets hope they agree that I don't have to pay anything until he is back in full time education
PurpleMoonlight said:
SydneyBridge said:
bloody hell..
Lets hope they agree that I don't have to pay anything until he is back in full time education
They are supposed to encourage parents to pay direct, but time will tell if they actually do. 20% (plus another 4% deducted from the payment to the mother) is a big carrot for them to collect ....Lets hope they agree that I don't have to pay anything until he is back in full time education
Ari said:
From December 2003 in England, if the father jointly registers the birth with the mother.
It is pretty bonkers that even today - a father can have no parental responsibility unless he is named on the birth certificate - or that a woman can effectively block a man from having parental responsibility by registering the birth without him.twing said:
Ari said:
You can't. CSA can only claim from the time they are contacted by the resident parent.
So if she claims today and it isn't sorted for six months they can back claim six months, but they can't go backwards to before they were contacted.
Thank you, that dispels a lot of the nonsense I've heard/seen on the internet, also might help a friend of mine a bitSo if she claims today and it isn't sorted for six months they can back claim six months, but they can't go backwards to before they were contacted.
I know in my case which started around 10 years ago; despite having paid informally.
My ex went to the CSA and completely stopped any visitation and the CSA asked for payments from the day he was born (2 years of back payments).
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