Being told " I don't love you anymore"
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mr_spock said:
Amazingly, already got a good offer on the house and many more viewings booked over the rest of the week. We should be into the financial discussion next week, hopefully we can both be reasonable. It could all be over by the summer - but I still have to find somewhere to live, and that's turning out to be a hard decision. Do I stay near where I am now, and get something tiny and a bit crap, or move 30-45 mins away and get something nicer? It would still be within driving range of school, social life etc. Until we're though the initial financial discussion I don't even know what I can spend! Still, it's a better position to be in than a couple of months ago.
You could look for a 30-90 day block booking of a house via AirBnB while you consider options?mr_spock said:
I hadn't thought of that... will look, thanks! Right now, she has an idea of what she wants to spend on a house + fees + some contents. It's.... a lot. We'll see if there's a compromise to be reached.
Wait one. Post divorce and financial agreement, she spends what she wants on what she wants. It's not your problem. Your problem is bringing a sense of realism to the division of current assets. All of it is not an acceptable answer.Have merely lurked on this thread for ages but just wanted to add a word of warning.
Ok, wife had an affair a couple of years ago, marriage has been screwed ever since with me basically here because my kids are. She finally moved out to a rental a few weeks ago, have only missed her when folding the laundry, I hate that s
t.
Well, while we have been cohabiting in a dead marriage I have met a lovely little divorcee among my dog walking friends. Just friends, with her being a bit ambiguous about future possibilities, and me projecting forward to when I'll be single, she'll be ideal etc. A bit of hugging, mutual support chats, but nothing else.
Last week away for work, lonely in a Paris hotel room, chatting away by text to her and the silly cow tells me happily, we'd never work anyway as incompatible, and that she's signed up to a dating website and first date tomorrow night!
I am fking ripped to pieces, full on heartbreak hotel st, can't sleep, don't want to eat, and so on. Absolutely pathetic, thoroughly ashamed of myself, but can't help it. I'm shocked by how I have developed a deep, hidden stream of puppy love for this bloody woman with out even being aware of it.
So, the word of warning is beware of the bounce, I guess that's what I'd call it. In a subliminal hunt for the tenderness absent in a screwed relationship, it's far too easy to fixate on "a nice person" who has no intentions of going any further than the dreaded friendzone, thereby getting hurt a second time without even have benefited from a bit of pussy.
Be careful out there chaps.
Ok, wife had an affair a couple of years ago, marriage has been screwed ever since with me basically here because my kids are. She finally moved out to a rental a few weeks ago, have only missed her when folding the laundry, I hate that s
t.Well, while we have been cohabiting in a dead marriage I have met a lovely little divorcee among my dog walking friends. Just friends, with her being a bit ambiguous about future possibilities, and me projecting forward to when I'll be single, she'll be ideal etc. A bit of hugging, mutual support chats, but nothing else.
Last week away for work, lonely in a Paris hotel room, chatting away by text to her and the silly cow tells me happily, we'd never work anyway as incompatible, and that she's signed up to a dating website and first date tomorrow night!
I am f
king ripped to pieces, full on heartbreak hotel st, can't sleep, don't want to eat, and so on. Absolutely pathetic, thoroughly ashamed of myself, but can't help it. I'm shocked by how I have developed a deep, hidden stream of puppy love for this bloody woman with out even being aware of it.So, the word of warning is beware of the bounce, I guess that's what I'd call it. In a subliminal hunt for the tenderness absent in a screwed relationship, it's far too easy to fixate on "a nice person" who has no intentions of going any further than the dreaded friendzone, thereby getting hurt a second time without even have benefited from a bit of pussy.
Be careful out there chaps.
YankeePorker said:
Have merely lurked on this thread for ages but just wanted to add a word of warning.
Ok, wife had an affair a couple of years ago, marriage has been screwed ever since with me basically here because my kids are. She finally moved out to a rental a few weeks ago, have only missed her when folding the laundry, I hate that st.
Well, while we have been cohabiting in a dead marriage I have met a lovely little divorcee among my dog walking friends. Just friends, with her being a bit ambiguous about future possibilities, and me projecting forward to when I'll be single, she'll be ideal etc. A bit of hugging, mutual support chats, but nothing else.
Last week away for work, lonely in a Paris hotel room, chatting away by text to her and the silly cow tells me happily, we'd never work anyway as incompatible, and that she's signed up to a dating website and first date tomorrow night!
I am fking ripped to pieces, full on heartbreak hotel st, can't sleep, don't want to eat, and so on. Absolutely pathetic, thoroughly ashamed of myself, but can't help it. I'm shocked by how I have developed a deep, hidden stream of puppy love for this bloody woman with out even being aware of it.
So, the word of warning is beware of the bounce, I guess that's what I'd call it. In a subliminal hunt for the tenderness absent in a screwed relationship, it's far too easy to fixate on "a nice person" who has no intentions of going any further than the dreaded friendzone, thereby getting hurt a second time without even have benefited from a bit of pussy.
Be careful out there chaps.
Sorry to hear that but it was ever thus. The rebound after a failed marriage can be equally disastrous if you don't fully appreciate what is really going on.Ok, wife had an affair a couple of years ago, marriage has been screwed ever since with me basically here because my kids are. She finally moved out to a rental a few weeks ago, have only missed her when folding the laundry, I hate that s
t.Well, while we have been cohabiting in a dead marriage I have met a lovely little divorcee among my dog walking friends. Just friends, with her being a bit ambiguous about future possibilities, and me projecting forward to when I'll be single, she'll be ideal etc. A bit of hugging, mutual support chats, but nothing else.
Last week away for work, lonely in a Paris hotel room, chatting away by text to her and the silly cow tells me happily, we'd never work anyway as incompatible, and that she's signed up to a dating website and first date tomorrow night!
I am f
king ripped to pieces, full on heartbreak hotel st, can't sleep, don't want to eat, and so on. Absolutely pathetic, thoroughly ashamed of myself, but can't help it. I'm shocked by how I have developed a deep, hidden stream of puppy love for this bloody woman with out even being aware of it.So, the word of warning is beware of the bounce, I guess that's what I'd call it. In a subliminal hunt for the tenderness absent in a screwed relationship, it's far too easy to fixate on "a nice person" who has no intentions of going any further than the dreaded friendzone, thereby getting hurt a second time without even have benefited from a bit of pussy.
Be careful out there chaps.
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