Being told " I don't love you anymore"
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TwigtheWonderkid said:
Wolfer, I really hope things work out between you but I'm going to be honest and say I won't be having any money on it.
Best of luck, I have a feeling you might be needing it.
What Twig said x 2.Best of luck, I have a feeling you might be needing it.
I can see a lot of your relationship as a mirror of what happened in mine. Few years ago, I woke up one day and considered for a moment that I had one life, and one life only. If I wasted it by being with the wrong people doing the wrong things at the wrong time, then that's exactly what it would be. A waste. So I stopped it there and although things were hard and a little lonely to begin with, now I am overall quite happy with my life.
I'll give it a month and you'll be apart again after rowing.
Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I'm with them! ^
I had a relationship where we were on/off and back on again and it didn't last.
She was absolutely mental (but fit as f
k!) and she didn't have a sane thought in her head.
Met my wife and she finally got me out of that pickle once and for all.
There was a reason she left you/you split up. That reason will rear its ugly head again, and you'll be fked off again quicker than you can say "But I still love you". You're already off to a bad start with the family issue...
All IMO of course, and sincerely hope I'm wrong.
I had a relationship where we were on/off and back on again and it didn't last.
She was absolutely mental (but fit as f
k!) and she didn't have a sane thought in her head.Met my wife and she finally got me out of that pickle once and for all.
There was a reason she left you/you split up. That reason will rear its ugly head again, and you'll be f
ked off again quicker than you can say "But I still love you". You're already off to a bad start with the family issue...All IMO of course, and sincerely hope I'm wrong.
I haven't read the thread in it's entireity, but it couldn't be more obvious from the start that she was fking someone else.
From the most recent update, that it's all gone sour.
However, it could well be that she's learned from the experience and is determined not to make the same mistake again. I'd give her one more chance, but only one.
Bag it until you're sure things have really changed - at least a year - in case of an 'accident'.
king someone else. From the most recent update, that it's all gone sour.
However, it could well be that she's learned from the experience and is determined not to make the same mistake again. I'd give her one more chance, but only one.
Bag it until you're sure things have really changed - at least a year - in case of an 'accident'.
Mobile Chicane said:
I haven't read the thread in it's entireity, but it couldn't be more obvious from the start that she was fking someone else.
From the most recent update, that it's all gone sour.
However, it could well be that she's learned from the experience and is determined not to make the same mistake again. I'd give her one more chance, but only one.
Bag it until you're sure things have really changed - at least a year - in case of an 'accident'.
Here endeth the sermon. king someone else. From the most recent update, that it's all gone sour.
However, it could well be that she's learned from the experience and is determined not to make the same mistake again. I'd give her one more chance, but only one.
Bag it until you're sure things have really changed - at least a year - in case of an 'accident'.
If this statement is not bang on I would eat my hat (if I had one).
Mobile Chicane said:
I haven't read the thread in it's entireity, but it couldn't be more obvious from the start that she was fking someone else.
From the most recent update, that it's all gone sour.
However, it could well be that she's learned from the experience and is determined not to make the same mistake again. I'd give her one more chance, but only one.
Bag it until you're sure things have really changed - at least a year - in case of an 'accident'.
Bang on.king someone else. From the most recent update, that it's all gone sour.
However, it could well be that she's learned from the experience and is determined not to make the same mistake again. I'd give her one more chance, but only one.
Bag it until you're sure things have really changed - at least a year - in case of an 'accident'.
Wolfer said:
Update for anyone interested.
We ended up back together, both of us happy as pigs in muck.
All going swimmingly, however, one issue.
She thinks my family hate her, and that they are only pleasant to her as we're back together. From my point of view, my family seem to be making a big effort, especially as she left me, but what do I know. If i explain how i think things are, she in turn thinks I'm not listening to her,
She thinks that they are all horrible to her, and that invites to a show/play are not genuine. I can't see that, and thought it was all going well. I think i may have been seriously misguided!
We used to be massively close to my family, and to a point still are, but this puts a strain on it all. I feel so sorry for her as i think she is paranoid, and seeing her upset kills me. But what do i do?
Hard to explain, but I feel so glad and happy we're back together, but feel so sick that this might come between us!
And to top it off, the M3 rear view mirror has decided to drip!
She probably can't deal with the fact that your family have the dignity to welcome her back with open arms and carry on as before. She'll use it as the next excuse when it all breaks down again, but at least in "her" head she can say she "tried".We ended up back together, both of us happy as pigs in muck.
All going swimmingly, however, one issue.
She thinks my family hate her, and that they are only pleasant to her as we're back together. From my point of view, my family seem to be making a big effort, especially as she left me, but what do I know. If i explain how i think things are, she in turn thinks I'm not listening to her,
She thinks that they are all horrible to her, and that invites to a show/play are not genuine. I can't see that, and thought it was all going well. I think i may have been seriously misguided!
We used to be massively close to my family, and to a point still are, but this puts a strain on it all. I feel so sorry for her as i think she is paranoid, and seeing her upset kills me. But what do i do?
Hard to explain, but I feel so glad and happy we're back together, but feel so sick that this might come between us!
And to top it off, the M3 rear view mirror has decided to drip!
It's another guilt defence mechanism I'm afraid.....
Well if she starts guarding her mobile phone & going out with her girlfriends on random weekday nights, suddenly needing 'me' time alone then the game is definitely up. If I'm right, I should imagine she'd settle back in for a month or so before beginning the search in earnest & adopting typical cheater mannerisms.
Hope I'm wrong though. Good luck OP.
Hope I'm wrong though. Good luck OP.
Hoofy said:
Wolfer said:
But what do i do?
I think it's time you take control of matters and properly prioritise things. Book an appointment with a BMW specialist.She will have learned many lessons this last year, not least how to use the guile you demonstrated in catching her. Next time, and there will be one, she won't make the same mistakes. And don't come crying here when you're left penniless...
Yeah, I know I took a risk and didn't listen to anyone. 
but I decided that if I didn't at least try, I would always regret it and have that "what if" hanging over me.
Of course I am more wary now, and in that sense it will probably be the unfolding of it all, but at least I can say I gave it a shot. I know there was no-one else, as I wouldn't have entertained getting back if there had been.
Moneywise i'd be fine, as it would be a case of house sold, split 50/50.
If it indeed all goes pear shaped, I'll update and confirm you were correct - I wouldn't be asking for support or advice if it does, as you could rightly tell me to fook right off!
but I decided that if I didn't at least try, I would always regret it and have that "what if" hanging over me.Of course I am more wary now, and in that sense it will probably be the unfolding of it all, but at least I can say I gave it a shot. I know there was no-one else, as I wouldn't have entertained getting back if there had been.
Moneywise i'd be fine, as it would be a case of house sold, split 50/50.
If it indeed all goes pear shaped, I'll update and confirm you were correct - I wouldn't be asking for support or advice if it does, as you could rightly tell me to fook right off!
Wolfer said:
If it indeed all goes pear shaped, I'll update and confirm you were correct - I wouldn't be asking for support or advice if it does, as you could rightly tell me to fook right off!
I don't want to be correct, so I hope that you don't have to come back to this thread. Good luck/Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff