How Would You Feel If I Did This To Your Child.
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WestyCarl said:
So you're teaching kids an emotional response. i.e. if they don't like something shout and scream.
I am assuming a stern word was given not some emotional gesticulating mad man losing his cool, we have spent many decades where a 'nice little talk' has been seen as weak and therefore the cocky " you can't touch me" has grown out of proportion. Bring back the good old days.
WestyCarl said:
Sorry, too harsh in my opinion. Maybe I'm a sotfie liberal but kids shouldn't be shouted at to be turned into snivelling wrecks. (in my opinion it teaches them how to be abbusive themselves)
Plenty of kids turn into snivelling wrecks after dropping ice cream. So I'm not sure that's a fair standard.Sounds fair OP. Definitely be mindful of the fact that not everyone may think you have the best intentions though - like it or not, some adults don't and they're exploiting the exact same authority you are. I wish I could say there was some foolproof way you could demonstrate that, but there isn't, especially with parents.
WestyCarl said:
So you're teaching kids an emotional response. i.e. if they don't like something shout and scream.
Sounds like he explained to the kid in no uncertain terms what he had done wrong and what it said about him. That's not teaching that it's OK to throw a tantrum or that emotional outbursts work. I was on the receiving end of a few b
kings that left me in tears as a kid, and it wasn't because I was feeling frightened, or hard done by. It was because I was feeling ashamed of myself ... i.e. I'd got the message. GOG440 said:
hornetrider said:
Tannedbaldhead said:
The result was convulsive sobbing and snot bubbles.
Don't get me wrong, I'm with you. You were right to intervene. A mild bking was probably called for. However ^^^ that probably tells me you went a bit too far.That is now a lesson he will never forget,and if it makes him consider his actions a bit more in the future then this is a good lesson for him to learn.
Sounds thoroughly justified to me. Just watch out for the parents; apples, metaphorically, don't usually fall far from the tree...
I once thoroughly bked a scrotey lad of about 8 who for some reason had decided to play in the toddlers' ball pool at a play area.
The hyperactive little st had been running riot, knocking other kids over while his thick chav mother left him to it. The final straw came when he jumped off the edge and was about an inch from flattening my then-2-year-old daughter.
Having firmly and loudly told him he was in the wrong place for stupid rough behaviour, I received a tirade of abuse from the mother, who had finally torn her gaze away from her iPhone.
Needless to say she got both barrels...
I once thoroughly b
ked a scrotey lad of about 8 who for some reason had decided to play in the toddlers' ball pool at a play area.The hyperactive little s
t had been running riot, knocking other kids over while his thick chav mother left him to it. The final straw came when he jumped off the edge and was about an inch from flattening my then-2-year-old daughter.Having firmly and loudly told him he was in the wrong place for stupid rough behaviour, I received a tirade of abuse from the mother, who had finally torn her gaze away from her iPhone.
Needless to say she got both barrels...
Sounds fair to me. Plenty of kids (and adults) cry like babies when taken to task over something they've done wrong. In some cases it's the first time they've been taken to task and in many others it's just a front to try and wriggle out of the situation or pacify you as quickly as possible. Any teasing and cruelty towards animals is a dangerous trait that needs to be addressed at the earliest opportunity so your action may have long term benefits. What happened is extremely worrying behaviour from an 11 year old who really should know better by that age. I'm struggling to think what the negative effects would be unless I go into purple hair, sandal wearing social worker mode, in which case I guess the little darling will suffer from damaged self esteem and not trust adults for the rest of his life.
I'm glad I didn't witness it. Not sure I could control myself when cruelty and animals is involved. I might well have emptied any liquid to hand over the kid in question.
Awaits outraged parent telling me they'd kill me/bum my dog, impregnate my lawn etc if I laid a hand on their little darling...
I'm glad I didn't witness it. Not sure I could control myself when cruelty and animals is involved. I might well have emptied any liquid to hand over the kid in question.
Awaits outraged parent telling me they'd kill me/bum my dog, impregnate my lawn etc if I laid a hand on their little darling...
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