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[snood]

CountZero23 said:

Alway's good meeting up with decent girls to remind you they are out there - even if you did dump them

Made that mistake myself with a lovelly girl, swapped her for an absolute nutter. Would probably be happily married and settled if I'd stuck with her. Still you don't get through life without making a few epic cock-ups.

Had the ex over to drop off the car which I lent her to go and visit her dad, all the thanks I got was a tirade of how crap her life is and drama over money, friends, family, job etc...

I really am being a numpty by being so 'nice' (pushover).

Still got a lovelly girl coming over tonight who I met on the weekend, smart, level headed, same sense of humour and as much of a wino as me so can't feel too bad.

Does feel a bit odd hanging out so soon after splitting, hope this doesn't end in some rebound fireball!
Right now I've just got to find a way of hiding the fact I've still got all my ex's stuff here as she's still sofa surfing and cocking her life up as per...

Likewise - happpy Christmas to you and everyone else who are still getting over someone.

Edited by CountZero23 on Tuesday 23 December 16:55

Mine went to ground over three months ago. Couple of chance meetings in town; otherwise, no contact except via solicitors and e-mails concerning the joint business.

I've been pulled up for being too 'nice' in the past. Then again, I've had the other thing too. It's called you can't win

I hope you have/had a pleasant interlude with the lovely girl. I've stopped boring others with tales of my ex. She chose to light out, therefore she isn't worthy of consideration. Polite, cold and formal works a treat

So here it (nearly) is, Merry (free) Christmas

[StuntmanMike]

CountZero23 said:

Alway's good meeting up with decent girls to remind you they are out there - even if you did dump them

Made that mistake myself with a lovelly girl, swapped her for an absolute nutter. Would probably be happily married and settled if I'd stuck with her. Still you don't get through life without making a few epic cock-ups.

Had the ex over to drop off the car which I lent her to go and visit her dad, all the thanks I got was a tirade of how crap her life is and drama over money, friends, family, job etc...

I really am being a numpty by being so 'nice' (pushover).

Still got a lovelly girl coming over tonight who I met on the weekend, smart, level headed, same sense of humour and as much of a wino as me so can't feel too bad.

Does feel a bit odd hanging out so soon after splitting, hope this doesn't end in some rebound fireball!

Right now I've just got to find a way of hiding the fact I've still got all my ex's stuff here as she's still sofa surfing and cocking her life up as per...

Likewise - happpy Christmas to you and everyone else who are still getting over someone.

Edited by CountZero23 on Tuesday 23 December 16:55

I made this mistake in the 90s, you need to toughen up a bit and tell the ex to sling her hook.
Seriously you will not move until she stops popping back, think of it as picking a scab.

[CountZero23]

snood said:

Mine went to ground over three months ago. Couple of chance meetings in town; otherwise, no contact except via solicitors and e-mails concerning the joint business.

I've been pulled up for being too 'nice' in the past. Then again, I've had the other thing too. It's called you can't win

I hope you have/had a pleasant interlude with the lovely girl. I've stopped boring others with tales of my ex. She chose to light out, therefore she isn't worthy of consideration. Polite, cold and formal works a treat

So here it (nearly) is, Merry (free) Christmas

Cheers snood, had a really great time with the new lass. Little conflicted between being quite excited about the new girl and still not over the ex. New lady is off on holiday for 3 weeks so hoping I'm all sorted by then

olly22n said:

No. Just be who you are and remember where the line is.

Happy Christmas ( coming from someone who did 6 months with the (now ex) wife while the house sold)

Thanks fella, had a few weeks of living with the ex and that was difficult to say the least. Dropped her off at her dads place for Christmas and was easier than I thought it would be. Really need a clean break and made it clear I need a good few months. Fresh start for 2015

StuntmanMike said:

I made this mistake in the 90s, you need to toughen up a bit and tell the ex to sling her hook.
Seriously you will not move until she stops popping back, think of it as picking a scab.

Good advice, feeling pretty ok now though when I do have to see her it pulls me back in again.


Really appreciate all your posts, happy christmas guys!

[dave0010]

Just been re-directed to this thread and it's kinda great therapy to read.

Currently at the start of all this and its very fresh, i.e. the start of the week. I'm not going to go into the circumstances behind it all but it was a case I had to walk away. I was being used and made a mug out of. My feelings for her are very real. I genuinely think at this moment she is "the one" but I've seen she doesn't look at me the same way I look at her.

Being open with all my closest friends has helped me with the decision. Now I'm just trying to plug the whole. We shared pretty much all the same hobbies and some are very much 2 person so not going to be able to do them for a while.

I refuse to allow myself to feel s**t for any longer. I'm glad I have done it now as further down the line It would only have been worse. Currently just trying to see friends as much as possible and occupy myself. I have a 3 week holiday in February planned. I'm just a little worried I may spend the time away feeling more lonely than ever, being on the other side of the world and away from all my friends and family.