Playful slaps with OH - Is it on?

Playful slaps with OH - Is it on?

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mikerons88

239 posts

114 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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TwigtheWonderkid said:
But women by and large aren't equal when it comes to force. They are usually physically smaller and weaker than men.

Also, I don't think equality requires someone to stoop to someone else's moronic level. If you were going to dump her anyway, why hit her too?
why not?

Don1

15,952 posts

209 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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blindswelledrat said:
In his defence you definitely implied that you slapped and then dumped her. In fact you didn't imply it, you actually said it.
I did slap then dump her. The implication that I was planning to dump her before my retaliation is incorrect.

CountZero23

1,288 posts

179 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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ruggedscotty

5,629 posts

210 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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Its unhealthy and not at all nice - in all seriousness have a discussion with her and lay out your concerns about it. Violence is not to be tolerated in any shape or form.

This is a major relationship issue.

groucho

12,134 posts

247 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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J4CKO said:
Do this,

We used to had a teacher who used to rap us on the forehead, Mr murray, not a bad bloke all things considering but the rap thing hurt, anyway, he used to do it pretty often for pretty much anything and one day he did it to "Bonehead" who was a likeable deviant, anyway, Bonehead wasn't that smart and in an uncharacteristically well planned act (normally was all purely reactive) he, on being rapped rolled his eyes back in his head and started shaking, then fell on the floor convulsing, his mate Colin goes "Aw sir, didn't you know Bonehead has a Brain Tumour", meanwhile Bonehead was doing a virtuoso performance, had us and Mr Murray completely fooled.

Anyway, Mr Murray looked very worries, 30 odd accusatory glances coming his way, didn't know what to do and meekly suggested someone get the school nurse, at this point Bonehead had decided to end the ruse and sat up and got back in his chair with a big daft grin, Mr Murray realised he had been taken in so the only reaction he could muster was another extra hard rap on the forehead for Bonehead !

So, next time your missus slaps you, you know what to do....
We had a teacher at infant school that would back punch us in the solar-plexus.

Jaroon

1,441 posts

161 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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How can she slap??!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V4akMaeZ0-k

NSFW smile


Edited by Jaroon on Monday 15th December 19:17


Edited by Jaroon on Monday 15th December 19:18

groucho

12,134 posts

247 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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Jaroon said:
I don't know what to say about that.

BTW...NSFW

johnxjsc1985

15,948 posts

165 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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groucho said:
We had a teacher at infant school that would back punch us in the solar-plexus.
ah the good old days we just used to have a blackboard rubber hurled at us..

pherlopolus

2,088 posts

159 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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I think the OP is under a patio now....

gpo746

3,397 posts

131 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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Is a donkey punch too much ?

anonymous-user

55 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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blindswelledrat said:
Don1 said:
I didn't say how hard I slapped her - if it was full force then I could have caused serious damage (naturally I'm a powerfully built company director etc). It wasn't full force - I can regulate power, strangely enough.

Who on earth said I was going to dump her before she attacked me?

Seriously, stop trying to embellish something you don't know anything about.
In his defence you definitely implied that you slapped and then dumped her. In fact you didn't imply it, you actually said it.
hehe



TwigtheWonderkid

43,408 posts

151 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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mikerons88 said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
But women by and large aren't equal when it comes to force. They are usually physically smaller and weaker than men.

Also, I don't think equality requires someone to stoop to someone else's moronic level. If you were going to dump her anyway, why hit her too?
why not?
Just because she doesn't behave like a lady, it's no reason for you to stop behaving like a gentleman. But I guess I comer from a different era.



pork911

7,187 posts

184 months

Monday 15th December 2014
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groucho said:
Jaroon said:
I don't know what to say about that.

BTW...NSFW
'i'll punch you in the gooch' lol


anyway OP from your post, you feel a lack of respect, protests at slaps have gone ignored and latest one resulted in you going for a drive waiting for an apology that never came? hmmm. game over i think?

mitzy

13,857 posts

198 months

Tuesday 16th December 2014
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blindswelledrat said:
mitzy said:
As a woman it's not a knee jerk :-)
Its more to do with having respect for yourself , life is too short to be with someone who takes the mick.
Seems like the OP was already having doubts about her anyway - hence why he posted on here.
Which thread are you reading? Have you got a boyfriend?
Op's bird has just developed an irritating habit, that's all.
Amazed he's posted it rather than just saying to her "Don't do that any more you wretched slut" which I am sure would stop it, but as for your advice- jesus.
An Irritating habit to me is biting your nails or leaving the bog seat up.
Happily Married and have a husband who does not go in for slaps playful or non playful
You may think my advice is OTT your choice,
Perhaps the OP does need to man up.


Thunderace

759 posts

246 months

Tuesday 16th December 2014
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Pkh72 said:
Nipple twist followed by a Chinese burn should sort it.
You forgot the wedgie to finish off biggrin

mitzy

13,857 posts

198 months

Tuesday 16th December 2014
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Thunderace said:
Pkh72 said:
Nipple twist followed by a Chinese burn should sort it.
You forgot the wedgie to finish off biggrin
And a Monkey Scrub

Captain Benzo

442 posts

139 months

Tuesday 16th December 2014
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maybe i dont want to know, but WTjudderingF is a monkey scrub?

Jasandjules

69,945 posts

230 months

Tuesday 16th December 2014
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If this was a woman asking about her boyfriend slapping her, I think we know what the answers would be.

So why is this any different?!

paranoid airbag

2,679 posts

160 months

Tuesday 16th December 2014
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Jasandjules said:
If this was a woman asking about her boyfriend slapping her, I think we know what the answers would be.

So why is this any different?!
Erm, what TwigTheWonderKid said. Generally, a woman is not going to be able to inflict really serious injury on her boyfriend against his will, at least not without assistance (aka sharp or heavy things). It sickens me to even think about it, but if I (M) wanted to seriously harm my OH (F) I could.

Certainly anything that is safe, sane and consensual between adults I'm fine with, but generally I would expect a far greater likelihood that even a "playful" slap from a male to a female would at least be perceived by the female as an implied threat of greater violence. One that generally is not there when the roles are reversed.

Personally I'd say: never ever hit back unless you're in serious danger - you'll become the bad guy, period. If it's bothering you, say, and if she continues - I normally think that losing your rag and shouting is a great way to fk just about anything up, but your OH ignoring something they're doing that really bothers you be one of a few situations where it's appropriate.
If she still doesn't stop, that's when to get lawyers/BiB involved.

LeftmostAardvark

1,434 posts

165 months

Tuesday 16th December 2014
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paranoid airbag said:
If she still doesn't stop, that's when to get lawyers/BiB involved.
If you're getting lawyers / BiB involved, the relationship is over.

Only you know your own mind, OP. The skill (and courage) is in knowing when to walk away, knowing that it won't change or will always be hovering in the background.