Playful slaps with OH - Is it on?

[hman]

A long time ago a girl slapped me in the face pretty hard for a comment I made that at best that warranted a raised eyebrow.

My older sister and I used to fight quite a lot (and she fought like a man) so I instinctively and extremely quickly slapped the girl in the face.

The ststorm that followed from her friends, her and my own friends was enormous, " you cant do that" "you cant hit a girl" I said sorry, and told her that if you go around hitting people you have to expect that one of them is going to hit you back and you might not like it.

Anyway, to the OP - up to you, but personally I would walk away if it happens again. Lifes too short to allow people to keep physcially attacking you - especially bearing in mind the misguided opinion that Girls can hit boys but never be hit back

[blindswelledrat]

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

[TonyHetherington]

NateWM said:

Truth be told, no. Lots of tears, frustration and confusion, followed lately by lots of calls and texts begging to give her another chance, she'll never do it again etc. If I'm honest, I have wondered whether it was a mistake, but I think I'll get over that, and all I have to do in think of the stress she has caused and it fades away.

Don't get me wrong, she's not a BAD person. Beautiful, funny, (mostly) caring...I just think something changed, as she really wasn't the same person that I fell in love with. I will always love her, I just think it had ran it's course.

You'll be sad for a week, then have the best time of your life

[TwigtheWonderkid]

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

It's not really playful if you've said several times previously that you don't like it and you don't want it to happen again, is it?

[mitzy]

NateWM said:

pherlopolus said:

I think the OP is under a patio now....

:wave:

Well, thanks for the laughs and advice fellas. The image of BSR's idea about calling her a "daft wood pigeon" had me in tears.

Anyway, decided to call it off with her in the end. It really wasn't worth the grief she was causing, I feel like I deserve someone better. Now looking forward to some single fun, plus I get to return all the expensive Christmas gifts I bought her and spend it on nights out...Win win.

Easy now , sure that wasn't a knee jerk reaction

Good call, enjoy and finding a new non slapping model.

[steveo3002]

kick her out on xmas day

[hman]

So now you've dumped her, the possibility of no-strings filthy dirty fkfest with her is royally on the cards for you.


Indulge or hand in your man card now.

[Adenauer]

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

[Adenauer]

Fancy a Parrot, Twig?

[WinstonWolf]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

Calling someone a nasty name is verbal abuse which is also a crime...

[TwigtheWonderkid]

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

Calling someone a nasty name is verbal abuse which is also a crime...

It can be, yes.

[WinstonWolf]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

Calling someone a nasty name is verbal abuse which is also a crime...

It can be, yes.

If your wife ever calls you a name, even in anger, you need to leave her on principle...

[StottyEvo]

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

Calling someone a nasty name is verbal abuse which is also a crime...

It can be, yes.

If your wife ever calls you a name, even in anger, you need to leave her on principle...

I wouldn't call this domestic violence as people will begin to associate the term with your wife playfully slapping you. Which takes away from the real victims IMO.

Twig are you a lawyer/barrister perhaps?

[WinstonWolf]

StottyEvo said:

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

Calling someone a nasty name is verbal abuse which is also a crime...

It can be, yes.

If your wife ever calls you a name, even in anger, you need to leave her on principle...

I wouldn't call this domestic violence as people will begin to associate the term with your wife playfully slapping you. Which takes away from the real victims IMO.

Twig are you a lawyer/barrister perhaps?

Precisely...

[SilverSixer]

For the love of God will someone please tell us what a "Monkey Scrub" is?

[MYOB]

blindswelledrat said:

Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.

I wish I could

[mjb1]

StottyEvo said:

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

WinstonWolf said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

Calling someone a nasty name is verbal abuse which is also a crime...

It can be, yes.

If your wife ever calls you a name, even in anger, you need to leave her on principle...

I wouldn't call this domestic violence as people will begin to associate the term with your wife playfully slapping you. Which takes away from the real victims IMO.

Twig are you a lawyer/barrister perhaps?

I can see what you're saying, but turn it around - if a bloke slapped his missus and described it as 'playful', would that be seen in the same way?

Women's Aid website said:

What is domestic violence?

There are a number of different definitions of domestic violence. In Women's Aid's view, domestic violence is physical, psychological, sexual or financial violence that takes place within an intimate or family-type relationship and forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour. This can include forced marriage and so-called 'honour' crimes. Domestic violence often includes a range of abusive behaviours, not all of which are, in themselves, inherently 'violent' - hence some people prefer to use the term 'domestic abuse' rather than 'domestic violence'.

Where they say "and forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour.", does this mean that if it's not trying to be controlling, that it isn't technically domestic violence? Is it just 'regular' violence instead then?

It's only playful if the recipient is enjoying it.

[pork911]

hman said:

A long time ago a girl slapped me in the face pretty hard for a comment I made that at best that warranted a raised eyebrow.

My older sister and I used to fight quite a lot (and she fought like a man) so I instinctively and extremely quickly slapped the girl in the face.

The ststorm that followed from her friends, her and my own friends was enormous, " you cant do that" "you cant hit a girl" I said sorry, and told her that if you go around hitting people you have to expect that one of them is going to hit you back and you might not like it.

interesting

were you surprised by the ststorm?

[blindswelledrat]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Adenauer said:

blindswelledrat said:

StottyEvo said:

Its not really domestic violence if its playful is it.

Just start play fighting with her that's what I'd do anyway. Not storm off in a strop.

This FFS.
All this talk of domestic violence and calling in the army is lunacy.
Its like trying to get an injunction out on your wife for cooking you a st dinner.
Madness.

There speaks the voice of reason, rather than one step beyond, like most of you seem to be doing.

Really. Slapping someone in the face when you know they neither want it or like it is an act of violence. When it happens in the home it's domestic. Not sure how it isn't domestic violence.

It may not be serious domestic violence, and it may not be worth reporting to the police, but it is domestic violence and bad enough to make the OP end the relationship.

Yes, but there are a few steps in between, for crying out loud.
>slap< Ow. You bh
>slap< I mean it. That isn't funny
>slap< You're really asking for it now
>slap< Have some back you wretched fat cow >slap<
>cry< NOt actually funny is it?

The OP is actually mental
>slap< Don't do that, it's fking irritating
>slap< Leaves the house in fury. Returns and finishes with his bird
PH: Good for you. DOmestic violence is domestic violence.

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