Playful slaps with OH - Is it on?
Discussion
NateWM said:
Thanks all. This has actually happened twice before, with the last time being at my Dads birthday gathering in the summer. In fairness it had much less force to it, however I was still deeply embarrassed so I brought it up with her in the morning. She was very apologetic and seemed to see how much it irked me, and I thought that was that...obviously not!
I'll be heading home soon and having a good think tomorrow. It's just tough as she really is amazing and I love her to pieces, but I've been wondering if I should just finish, as she's really been testing me lately. I'm only 22 so feel like I shouldn't be having the stress that she causes me sometimes! I'm just very conflicted at the moment so will think about it more when I have a clear head!
Anymore comments are welcome. Thanks again btw.
Right, so this isn't your wife of 20 years or anything, I would be having a long hard think about my future, you are 22 and in a serious relationship, is this what you want? in what way is she testing you? TBH Nate, you come across like someone who is having second thoughts by the tone of your posts, you have got something right though, your 22 and shouldn't be having this amount of stress, I think you should do as your Quoted post says, I also think you post a picture of her, for the P.H massive, you know.;)I'll be heading home soon and having a good think tomorrow. It's just tough as she really is amazing and I love her to pieces, but I've been wondering if I should just finish, as she's really been testing me lately. I'm only 22 so feel like I shouldn't be having the stress that she causes me sometimes! I'm just very conflicted at the moment so will think about it more when I have a clear head!
Anymore comments are welcome. Thanks again btw.
My mrs did this to me. I returned the favour, not hard, just similar to what she has just done.
Her reaction, ow, that really hurts.
Yes, I know, stop f
king doing it to me then stupidarse.
If this were the other way round there would no doubt be calls of what a pig he is, ring police immediately, get him out the house, take the kids away because they could be hurt too. Sad thing is Police would happily go along with it if it was man on woman. Sadly stories I've heard of blokes reporting violence is just being laughed out of the station.
Her reaction, ow, that really hurts.
Yes, I know, stop f
king doing it to me then stupidarse.If this were the other way round there would no doubt be calls of what a pig he is, ring police immediately, get him out the house, take the kids away because they could be hurt too. Sad thing is Police would happily go along with it if it was man on woman. Sadly stories I've heard of blokes reporting violence is just being laughed out of the station.
Rick101 said:
My mrs did this to me. I returned the favour, not hard, just similar to what she has just done.
Her reaction, ow, that really hurts.
Yes, I know, stop fking doing it to me then stupidarse.
If this were the other way round there would no doubt be calls of what a pig he is, ring police immediately, get him out the house, take the kids away because they could be hurt too. Sad thing is Police would happily go along with it if it was man on woman. Sadly stories I've heard of blokes reporting violence is just being laughed out of the station.
Imagine this thread the otherway around on mumsnet......Her reaction, ow, that really hurts.
Yes, I know, stop f
king doing it to me then stupidarse.If this were the other way round there would no doubt be calls of what a pig he is, ring police immediately, get him out the house, take the kids away because they could be hurt too. Sad thing is Police would happily go along with it if it was man on woman. Sadly stories I've heard of blokes reporting violence is just being laughed out of the station.
Morning fellas.
Many thanks for all of the replays, it has given me lots to think about. I arrived last night to her being very apologetic, crying etc - the works. I listened to what she had to say, but mainly just went to bed and would rather discuss it when she wakes up. For those of you asking, yes I am having second thoughts. She has been incredibly testing this last 8-12 months, and considering it's not really something I should put up with, I am considering calling it off. Overall though I'm very conflicted, as I really do adore her and she isn't a bad person or anything like that, just has these couple annoying quirks that can really test your patience. And to answer the above, yes I do prefer an actual relationship, and yes we do live together however it's my house and I pay for it, so I wouldn't have any issues slinging her out. Oh and just to add, no I would never hit her or slap her back...pretty sure most of the replays suggesting such were joking anyway.
So that's me, a very conflicted fella wondering what to do about her. I must admit, I'm swaying towards the "sponge punch and fling out the door" option.
Many thanks for all of the replays, it has given me lots to think about. I arrived last night to her being very apologetic, crying etc - the works. I listened to what she had to say, but mainly just went to bed and would rather discuss it when she wakes up. For those of you asking, yes I am having second thoughts. She has been incredibly testing this last 8-12 months, and considering it's not really something I should put up with, I am considering calling it off. Overall though I'm very conflicted, as I really do adore her and she isn't a bad person or anything like that, just has these couple annoying quirks that can really test your patience. And to answer the above, yes I do prefer an actual relationship, and yes we do live together however it's my house and I pay for it, so I wouldn't have any issues slinging her out. Oh and just to add, no I would never hit her or slap her back...pretty sure most of the replays suggesting such were joking anyway.
So that's me, a very conflicted fella wondering what to do about her. I must admit, I'm swaying towards the "sponge punch and fling out the door" option.
I have had this with a relationship in the past. It is very difficult for a man to admit to other men, or even women, that they have been hit in a relationship.
Put simply it isn't on, if you feel uncomfortable with it it doesn't matter if every other bloke in the world disagrees with you or tells you to man up, they aren't the ones getting a slap round the face.
It is best if it is nipped in the bud now, because it could escalate into more than a slap round the face. Hopefully she will realise that it has upset you and will stop it.
Put simply it isn't on, if you feel uncomfortable with it it doesn't matter if every other bloke in the world disagrees with you or tells you to man up, they aren't the ones getting a slap round the face.
It is best if it is nipped in the bud now, because it could escalate into more than a slap round the face. Hopefully she will realise that it has upset you and will stop it.
DougMcC said:
I have had this with a relationship in the past. It is very difficult for a man to admit to other men, or even women, that they have been hit in a relationship.
Put simply it isn't on, if you feel uncomfortable with it it doesn't matter if every other bloke in the world disagrees with you or tells you to man up, they aren't the ones getting a slap round the face.
It is best if it is nipped in the bud now, because it could escalate into more than a slap round the face. Hopefully she will realise that it has upset you and will stop it.
I've heard DV to men, both physical and psychological, is far more widespread than reported for the above reasons - men are far less likely to admit it happens to them.Put simply it isn't on, if you feel uncomfortable with it it doesn't matter if every other bloke in the world disagrees with you or tells you to man up, they aren't the ones getting a slap round the face.
It is best if it is nipped in the bud now, because it could escalate into more than a slap round the face. Hopefully she will realise that it has upset you and will stop it.
Why does she do it? If she knows you don't like it then it's either something she really wants to do for some reason... either she just likes being dominant or she's secretly really pissed off with you all the time and is holding back the proper thump she really wants to give you, or she's just winding you up because she knows you don't like it.
If you don't like it it's not on of course but she has to know how much you really don't like it and that it's damaging the mood in the house or whatever. But whatever, it might still help to actually ask her why she's doing it and have a friendly two sided conversation about stopping rather than an argument.
EDIT: Dumb question... if it just started out of the blue at some point... would she benefit in any way from having you done on assault charges? Any exes in her history that have been done?
If you don't like it it's not on of course but she has to know how much you really don't like it and that it's damaging the mood in the house or whatever. But whatever, it might still help to actually ask her why she's doing it and have a friendly two sided conversation about stopping rather than an argument.
EDIT: Dumb question... if it just started out of the blue at some point... would she benefit in any way from having you done on assault charges? Any exes in her history that have been done?
Edited by kiseca on Sunday 14th December 11:52
NateWM said:
Thanks all. This has actually happened twice before, with the last time being at my Dads birthday gathering in the summer. In fairness it had much less force to it, however I was still deeply embarrassed so I brought it up with her in the morning. She was very apologetic and seemed to see how much it irked me, and I thought that was that...obviously not!
I'll be heading home soon and having a good think tomorrow. It's just tough as she really is amazing and I love her to pieces, but I've been wondering if I should just finish, as she's really been testing me lately. I'm only 22 so feel like I shouldn't be having the stress that she causes me sometimes! I'm just very conflicted at the moment so will think about it more when I have a clear head!
Anymore comments are welcome. Thanks again btw.
She knows how much it irks you, she's been 'testing' you lately and now she's slapped you harder. I'll be heading home soon and having a good think tomorrow. It's just tough as she really is amazing and I love her to pieces, but I've been wondering if I should just finish, as she's really been testing me lately. I'm only 22 so feel like I shouldn't be having the stress that she causes me sometimes! I'm just very conflicted at the moment so will think about it more when I have a clear head!
Anymore comments are welcome. Thanks again btw.
She wants out of the relationship but she wants you to be the ' bad guy' and finish it.
Ari said:
She knows how much it irks you, she's been 'testing' you lately and now she's slapped you harder.
She wants out of the relationship but she wants you to be the ' bad guy' and finish it.
Or if you want to be REALLY cynical, she wants him to hit her back, then plod will be round and he will be out on his ear, whilst she gets the house he's paying for...She wants out of the relationship but she wants you to be the ' bad guy' and finish it.
Jasandjules said:
Ari said:
She knows how much it irks you, she's been 'testing' you lately and now she's slapped you harder.
She wants out of the relationship but she wants you to be the ' bad guy' and finish it.
Or if you want to be REALLY cynical, she wants him to hit her back, then plod will be round and he will be out on his ear, whilst she gets the house he's paying for...She wants out of the relationship but she wants you to be the ' bad guy' and finish it.
StuntmanMike said:
Rick101 said:
My mrs did this to me. I returned the favour, not hard, just similar to what she has just done.
Her reaction, ow, that really hurts.
Yes, I know, stop fking doing it to me then stupidarse.
If this were the other way round there would no doubt be calls of what a pig he is, ring police immediately, get him out the house, take the kids away because they could be hurt too. Sad thing is Police would happily go along with it if it was man on woman. Sadly stories I've heard of blokes reporting violence is just being laughed out of the station.
Imagine this thread the otherway around on mumsnet......Her reaction, ow, that really hurts.
Yes, I know, stop f
king doing it to me then stupidarse.If this were the other way round there would no doubt be calls of what a pig he is, ring police immediately, get him out the house, take the kids away because they could be hurt too. Sad thing is Police would happily go along with it if it was man on woman. Sadly stories I've heard of blokes reporting violence is just being laughed out of the station.
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