Do you filter her out ?
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I quite like my girlfriend so don't mind listening to things she says as they're often quite interesting. I also find it quite easy to follow your average tv program plot line without having to devote myself entirely to it, so am able to converse with her and listen to the tv. If I needed to concentrate on something I'd probably just say "sorry, I'm concentrating on this - can I talk to you in a minute?"
steveatesh said:
Are you sure your second paragraph is actually true though? I am not convinced they make sense to each other, or even care as all they both(all the group l) want to do is say stuff relevant to them irrespective of the other person. If you watch women talking closely you will see lots of head nodding and minor vocal expressions ("eeeeee" "never" "AhHa" repeat ad nauseam) but I suspect they are more focused on how to get their own bit of tittle tattle into the conversation than actually hear what is being said.
I think the nodding and minor vocal expression is the interaction. When I hear the inconsequential drivel women exchange I'm reminded of chimps grooming each other. More about bonding than exchanging information/cleaningWe both work from home on occasions. I get home, see that she's busy on her laptop and leave her to it. Conversely I sit there trying to type a carefully worded email and she starts rabbiting at me. The more I try to concentrate, the more I fail until I end up putting my laptop down and shutting the lid as I'd prefer not to send some half baked message to a customer due to lack of attention. Only at this point does the waffling stop.
However, when I'm reading PH or other sites I can just tune out.
However, when I'm reading PH or other sites I can just tune out.
Edited by OldSkoolRS on Saturday 20th December 16:25
At the dinner table, I am often treated to a verbatim transcript of the day's meetings and interactions at Mrs Bodge's workplace.
There are more (unknown to me, for added challenge) characters than in War and Peace and the plot is often almost as complex, with a narrative arc stretches over months.
I used to offer my valuable opinions, but it was made clear that was not required or desirable. I now nod and say, "Hmm" at suitable junctures.
Thankfully she works part-time at the moment
Ps. I strongly draw the line at transcripts of her friends' workplace interactions
There are more (unknown to me, for added challenge) characters than in War and Peace and the plot is often almost as complex, with a narrative arc stretches over months.
I used to offer my valuable opinions, but it was made clear that was not required or desirable. I now nod and say, "Hmm" at suitable junctures.
Thankfully she works part-time at the moment
Ps. I strongly draw the line at transcripts of her friends' workplace interactions
Edited by MC Bodge on Saturday 20th December 19:04
MC Bodge said:
At the dinner table, I am often treated to a verbatim transcript of the day's meetings and interactions at Mrs Bodge's workplace.
There are more (unknown to me, for added challenge) characters than in War and Peace and the plot is often almost as complex, with a narrative arc stretches over months.
As above, my OH is similar. The added complication is that everywhere she has ever worked seems to have a preponderance of people with one name (currently it's Lisa), so even if I do try and follow it I get very confused.There are more (unknown to me, for added challenge) characters than in War and Peace and the plot is often almost as complex, with a narrative arc stretches over months.
When she worked at Royal Mail, she seemed to work entirely with people called Richard.
Johnnytheboy said:
As above, my OH is similar. The added complication is that everywhere she has ever worked seems to have a preponderance of people with one name (currently it's Lisa), so even if I do try and follow it I get very confused.
Same here. The subject can seamlessly change (and be difficult for an amateur to spot), with some different protagonists, but with possibly the same name(s) as the previous ones.... What is not required is "man solutions", though, just a sympathetic ear and expression.
stuttgartmetal said:
Sitting here watching a couple of programmes on the TV together
Now, they're quite interesting.
I'm sitting here listening to expert opinion and input
She keeps looking over and inputting a load of waffle, and statements that are frankly obvious
I'm filtering her out and focussing on the TV
She often goes into a long winded opinion on some issue, when I'm listening to an expert give opinion on talkSport.
Is this normal ?
I'm half agreeing with you, however my take is, she remembers at bedtime, and FFS Talksport must be the most dumbed down Daily Star/Sun/Mail sack of sNow, they're quite interesting.
I'm sitting here listening to expert opinion and input
She keeps looking over and inputting a load of waffle, and statements that are frankly obvious
I'm filtering her out and focussing on the TV
She often goes into a long winded opinion on some issue, when I'm listening to an expert give opinion on talkSport.
Is this normal ?
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KrazyIvan said:
I give Mrs Ivan my undevided attention, usually by pausing what ever were watching. This will normal happen about 3 or 4 times before she asks why I keep pausing it, all I say is "well darling I can listen to you or the tv". Silence normal ensues.
Exactly what I do with my housemate as well, it works every time but sadly only for that particular evening... never mind, the pause button's not broke (yet) on my video lolDisastrous said:
I quite like my girlfriend so don't mind listening to things she says as they're often quite interesting. I also find it quite easy to follow your average tv program plot line without having to devote myself entirely to it, so am able to converse with her and listen to the tv. If I needed to concentrate on something I'd probably just say "sorry, I'm concentrating on this - can I talk to you in a minute?"
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