different rules for the girlfriend

[B.J.W]

HTP99 said:

B.J.W said:

She has very strong feelings about lap dancing clubs and has made it clear that she would consider it to be on the cusp of cheating if I went back to one and had a dance. On this basis I trust her to behave when she is out and about.

Oh how naive you are.

I personally know two women who hated the thought of strip joints and made their husbands aware that they were not to be visited by them; under any circumstances, they were degrading to women, men are bds visiting them etc, one is now divorced after she was shagging around and the other is still married; still had an affair though.

Edited by HTP99 on Monday 22 December 12:41

I'm sorry, but that proves nothing. I would guess that the majority of women would not be happy with the idea of their partner going to a lap dancing club. Are they all having affairs too? My wife was not happy with the idea of a naked woman thrusting her private parts in my face, not withstanding all of the other shenanigans that go on in lap dancing clubs (she is aware of the latter as well). I don't see an issue with that.

[singlecoil]

It baffles me why anyone would want to go to a strip joint or a lap dancing club anyway, permission or not.

[DannyScene]

singlecoil said:

It baffles me why anyone would want to go to a strip joint or a lap dancing club anyway, permission or not.

I've never been

Don't know many people who have tbh, aren't they just for fat ugly people who can't get actual attention of girls they don't have to pay?

That is the view that is held in my circle of friends and in wider circles it seems

[kiseca]

B.J.W said:

I'm sorry, but that proves nothing. I would guess that the majority of women would not be happy with the idea of their partner going to a lap dancing club. Are they all having affairs too? My wife was not happy with the idea of a naked woman thrusting her private parts in my face, not withstanding all of the other shenanigans that go on in lap dancing clubs (she is aware of the latter as well). I don't see an issue with that.

HTP is right. The more protective they are, the more likely it is they will cheat. We empathise - or seek to understand or explain someone's actions, by putting ourselves in their shoes. Doesn't mean they all will cheat, but rare is the rule that has no exceptions. That goes for men and women by the way. Beware the jealous ones.

[HTP99]

B.J.W said:

HTP99 said:

B.J.W said:

She has very strong feelings about lap dancing clubs and has made it clear that she would consider it to be on the cusp of cheating if I went back to one and had a dance. On this basis I trust her to behave when she is out and about.

Oh how naive you are.

I personally know two women who hated the thought of strip joints and made their husbands aware that they were not to be visited by them; under any circumstances, they were degrading to women, men are bds visiting them etc, one is now divorced after she was shagging around and the other is still married; still had an affair though.

Edited by HTP99 on Monday 22 December 12:41

I'm sorry, but that proves nothing. I would guess that the majority of women would not be happy with the idea of their partner going to a lap dancing club. Are they all having affairs too? My wife was not happy with the idea of a naked woman thrusting her private parts in my face, not withstanding all of the other shenanigans that go on in lap dancing clubs (she is aware of the latter as well). I don't see an issue with that.

I wasn't saying that they are all like that, however I know from experience that the ones that get jealous and don't like their partners doing this and that and make a big thing about it, tend to be the ones that aren't whiter than white themeselves; they only trust their partner as much as they trust themselves.

Myself and my wife trust each other implicitley (sp?) I can go to a strip joint or a lap dancing club; I have never been and I'm not fussed if I go or not, however I know that she would have no issue whatsoever with it and the same for her; she can go and she has been, doesn't bother me, she even goes out with the mate that has had an affair and alot of her married friends are always out for a bit of fun, she tells me this if it happens on a night out, doesn't bother me as I trust her.

Edited by HTP99 on Tuesday 23 December 12:18

[singlecoil]

doogz said:

singlecoil said:

It baffles me why anyone would want to go to a strip joint or a lap dancing club anyway, permission or not.

I like beer.

I like beer and tits more?

I've only ever been on stag nights. Including my own. I really didn't want to, I could sense the impending ritual public embarrassment.

But it's generally a bit of harmless fun. Guys seeing tits, women getting paid, club owners making money, everyone wins.

I wasn't trying to suggest that it might be harmful, and I expect there are some that find it fun otherwise such places wouldn't exist. But there are no imaginable situations in which I would visit one even though my liking for tits is a great as anyone else's. It just that such places are to me the wrong context in which to enjoy tits, just as a brothel wouldn't be the place for me to enjoy sex.

[B.J.W]

HTP99 said:

B.J.W said:

HTP99 said:

B.J.W said:

She has very strong feelings about lap dancing clubs and has made it clear that she would consider it to be on the cusp of cheating if I went back to one and had a dance. On this basis I trust her to behave when she is out and about.

Oh how naive you are.

I personally know two women who hated the thought of strip joints and made their husbands aware that they were not to be visited by them; under any circumstances, they were degrading to women, men are bds visiting them etc, one is now divorced after she was shagging around and the other is still married; still had an affair though.

Edited by HTP99 on Monday 22 December 12:41

I'm sorry, but that proves nothing. I would guess that the majority of women would not be happy with the idea of their partner going to a lap dancing club. Are they all having affairs too? My wife was not happy with the idea of a naked woman thrusting her private parts in my face, not withstanding all of the other shenanigans that go on in lap dancing clubs (she is aware of the latter as well). I don't see an issue with that.

I wasn't saying that they are all like that, however I know from experience that the ones that get jealous and don't like their partners doing this and that and make a big thing about it, tend to be the ones that aren't whiter than white themeselves; they only trust their partner as much as they trust themselves.

Myself and my wife trust each other implicitley (sp?) I can go to a strip joint or a lap dancing club; I have never been and I'm not fussed if I go or not, however I know that she would have no issue whatsoever with it and the same for her; she can go and she has been, doesn't bother me, she even goes out with the mate that has had an affair and alot of her married friends are always out for a bit of fun, she tells me this if it happens on a night out, doesn't bother me as I trust her.

Edited by HTP99 on Tuesday 23 December 12:18

I think we are roughly on the same page. My wife and I trust each other - she has no issues with me heading off for 3 nights with the boys shooting in Scotland, or going away for the weekend etc. Overall, she's pretty easy going, but as far as lap dancing goes she has strong feelings about it - which I respect. You say you've never been to a lap dancing club.... trust me, a lot more goes on in these establishments than simple lap dancing if you go looking for it. My wife knows this, which is why she feels the way she does.....

[Hooli]

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