Strange work colleague

[DanielSan]

N Dentressangle said:

Is his name Frank Grimes?

Does the OP keep calling him Grimey?

[HewManHeMan]

The big question here is; why do you care?

[TheDoggingFather]

Maybe you're just a ?

[Pkh72]

Do you work in engineering? If so this is fairly typical behaviour, does he also hide behind a beard?

[Mr GrimNasty]

Let him have his stapler back?

[RobinBanks]

Some people just don't like some other people. There's not always a reason for it.

[BigsimonY]

HewManHeMan said:

The big question here is; why do you care?

Its just a strange office environment at the moment. At lunch he just sits and plays games on his phone, mind-craft and such. Never says good morning, good bye. One of the folk in the office gave me a huge tin of heroes, so i opened them and put them in the middle of our desks. Has not touched a single one, but buys sweets from the shop. Wife bought me a new tassimo machine and i brought the old one in with about 50 pods. Told him to help himself, Yip you guessed it. He pops of to the kitchen to make a cup of Costco's finest !! I've never been in such a unfriendly environment. Rest of the office are great!

[DWS]

Just f****** ignore him/her. Plenty of C**** I work with are like this. Not worth the trouble. Do your job, leave and forget about him/her. It's their problem, not yours.

[Jer_1974]

Are you any of these people:

http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=9&a...

[226bhp]

Ask the other colleagues if they have any idea, if they won't tell you sober then take them out and feed them lots of alcohol until they do.
Good luck.

[Gareth79]

226bhp said:

Ask the other colleagues if they have any idea

I was about to ask the same. I'd have thought the OP knows a few people he can mention it to knowing they won't tell the office-mate.

That said, I think there are a small % of people who simply hate socialising with anybody except very specific people, and completely overlook the basic politeness that most of us take for granted - ie. asking how people are, whether they want anything from the shops, how bad the weather is etc. It's not that the person hates you, they are just not even interested in learning if they might like you.

[speedtwelve]

BigsimonY said:

At lunch he just sits and plays games on his phone, mind-craft and such.

Well there you go. He's a social-skills-free nerd. Ignore him, speak to the rest of the office. Minecraft...... Is he 12?

[Tribal Chestnut]

Time to start sabotaging his desk/work-station. Nice and gentle at first - lower his chair, fix the back in an awkward position, etc, jam spread under his desk. Then tell him that in return for his friendship, you'll protect him.

[LikesBikes]

Mr GrimNasty said:

Let him have his stapler back?

You didn't put it in a jelly did you?

[Megaflow]

I work with a guy a try to avoid speaking to where possible, for the very simple reason he won't use one word/sentance/paragraph if a thousand words/sentences/paragraphs can be used.

Seriously, the guys mouth doesn't stop all day, he's either talking out of it or putting food in.

But, it's not just me other in the department think the same, he is know as FIGJAM.

Stands for fk I'm Good. Just Ask Me.

[RobinBanks]

Megaflow said:

I work with a guy a try to avoid speaking to where possible, for the very simple reason he won't use one word/sentance/paragraph if a thousand words/sentences/paragraphs can be used.

Seriously, the guys mouth doesn't stop all day, he's either talking out of it or putting food in.

But, it's not just me other in the department think the same, he is know as FIGJAM.

Stands for fk I'm Good. Just Ask Me.

I hate people like that.

You've heard that his daughter is ill so you ask how she is and get a long story from the last few weeks up to the present moment in which no detail is relevant.

[wildcat45]

About a deade ago, I was given a Chap to work with and we just did not get on. He wasn't a bad bloke, he just annoyed me.

We had to work closely and had to communicate to do the job.

One day he just said "You don't like me much and I feel the same about you". We had a decent grown up non argumentative conversation about it. The things that irritated me about him, we're more or less the same things that irritated him about me.

We worked it out and although never mates he became a good colleague.

He left and some time after came back to visit making a bee line for me to shake my hand.

We just got off on the wrong foot.

I'm so glad we got it sorted as he died tragically young, early 30s.

I would try having a word. Ask him why he appears antagonistic towards you and see if it something simple. Explain to him if you can how his behaviour impacts on the working environment and how it makes you feel.

Is he still on probation period? If so, it might be worth making a casual comment to you boss?

Keep a little log of what he does. Could his behaviour towards you be construed as a form of bullying or victimisation?

Alternatively, have a bit of a ruck with him in the QT. "What's your problem? You are rude boorish passive agressive bully. Change you attitude or you and I will fall out etc etc".

[RobinBanks]

Megaflow said:

I work with a guy a try to avoid speaking to where possible, for the very simple reason he won't use one word/sentance/paragraph if a thousand words/sentences/paragraphs can be used.

Seriously, the guys mouth doesn't stop all day, he's either talking out of it or putting food in.

But, it's not just me other in the department think the same, he is know as FIGJAM.

Stands for fk I'm Good. Just Ask Me.

I hate people like that.

You've heard that his daughter is ill so you ask how she is and get a long story from the last few weeks up to the present moment in which no detail is relevant.

[northwest monkey]

A few years back, I was working in a massive office & I happened to get hold of the master key for all the little sets of drawers people had for storing bits and bobs in. For about 18 months, I used to cut the heads off jelly babies, open the drawer, put the headless jelly baby in (along with its head) then lock the drawer. This used to freak people out. A lot.

Try doing this to the bloke - if nothing else it may end up with violence & then you could ask HR to move him.

[AudiSport]

Stop pandering to him. Just crack on, with headphones on if it helps!