Sexlife as parents..frequency. what's 'normal'?
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Adenauer said:
AyBee said:
Adenauer said:
Case in point.
Yesterday afternoon after I got home from work, youngest daughter is upstairs with her BF. After about 5 minutes she comes downstairs to say hello. All is fine. She is normally dressed.
20 minutes later the phone rings, I answer it but it's for her so I call her, she comes down after a couple of minutes, in her bloody pyjamas!!
When she's off the phone I say that we are eating at seven and that I want her to be properly dressed when she comes down for tea.
She looked at me like I'd just sentenced her to death.
And also - your daughter doesn't have a mobile?!Yesterday afternoon after I got home from work, youngest daughter is upstairs with her BF. After about 5 minutes she comes downstairs to say hello. All is fine. She is normally dressed.
20 minutes later the phone rings, I answer it but it's for her so I call her, she comes down after a couple of minutes, in her bloody pyjamas!!
When she's off the phone I say that we are eating at seven and that I want her to be properly dressed when she comes down for tea.
She looked at me like I'd just sentenced her to death.
AyBee said:
I was assuming that all kids had mobiles these days and therefore nobody phones the house phone asking for them...
Aha!She does, but it was the fitness studio and they called on our landline, I thought it would be interesting to make her have to come downstairs to take the call as I had my suspicions as to what was going on upstairs.
Impasse said:
Daily Mail - Dr Cox clicky
18-24 - 35 per cent have sex two to three times a week, 24 per cent four or more times a week
25-29 - 48 per cent do it a few times a month, 35 per cent a few times a week.
30-39 - 50 per cent do it a few times a month, 21 per cent do it two to three times week.
40-49 - 47 per cent do it a few times a month, 20 per cent two to three times a week.
50-59 - 36 per cent do it a few times a month.
60-69 - 35 per cent do it a few times a month.
What do the balance do?18-24 - 35 per cent have sex two to three times a week, 24 per cent four or more times a week
25-29 - 48 per cent do it a few times a month, 35 per cent a few times a week.
30-39 - 50 per cent do it a few times a month, 21 per cent do it two to three times week.
40-49 - 47 per cent do it a few times a month, 20 per cent two to three times a week.
50-59 - 36 per cent do it a few times a month.
60-69 - 35 per cent do it a few times a month.
Wife was nervous in case her kids come in. Solved that. She told them not to come in. They asked why. She said "because we might be having sex". Worked a treat. The thing we teenage kids is there is nothing so repulsive to them as the thought of parents having sex, except seeing parents having sex.
Whenever I go out with my still married mates, they all complain that they are barely getting it at home and when they do it's if their wives have just decided to get it over with and done with so that they are not hassled for sex for a while. All have 2 or 3 kids.
Two of the guys I know have gone and got it elsewhere.
This seems to be the staple of all books, films and sit-coms so are the studs and their missus only existing on here to wind the rest of us up
Two of the guys I know have gone and got it elsewhere.
This seems to be the staple of all books, films and sit-coms so are the studs and their missus only existing on here to wind the rest of us up
croyde said:
This seems to be the staple of all books, films and sit-coms so are the studs and their missus only existing on here to wind the rest of us up
It's pistonheads, clearly everyone is going to be banging their younger model wife/girlfriend at least once a day, maybe twice a day if they're out on the yacht.Timmy40 said:
This is the nub of it. Like all machines men need regular servicing. Failure to service your man on a regular basis can result in an unexpected marriage breakdown.
Good analogy. It does beg the question is it Nature. Woman no nookie must look after children but then man must have nookie at all times. Makes a mockery of monogamy Kids in the house or not plus long days at her career. She was always up for it if it meant another kid.
croyde said:
Timmy40 said:
This is the nub of it. Like all machines men need regular servicing. Failure to service your man on a regular basis can result in an unexpected marriage breakdown.
Good analogy. It does beg the question is it Nature. Woman no nookie must look after children but then man must have nookie at all times. Makes a mockery of monogamy Kids in the house or not plus long days at her career. She was always up for it if it meant another kid.
when they decide it's time for another kid it's all back on again. It just basic primevil biology they are designed to mate when requiring another kid, we are designed to mate with as many females as possible. In our society we go to enormous lengths to supress this simple biological truth. Except the French, they seem to accept it and get on with it.
It's true about being 'brave' enough to split up. 6 years down the line I'm happy we did although I haven't found someone else. They say 1 in 3 marriages end in divorce but in our old friends cases, we are the only ones out of 11 couples that have split.
Many of the others are not happy but the major difficulties and expense of splitting up a home with 2 or 3 kids makes them continue with the sham. I bet a lot of people are like that.
I would have continued for the kids, mortgage and the expenses myself even though I was getting the bad end of the deal. It took her to make the move and like I say, at the end of the day
, I'm glad she did.
Many of the others are not happy but the major difficulties and expense of splitting up a home with 2 or 3 kids makes them continue with the sham. I bet a lot of people are like that.
I would have continued for the kids, mortgage and the expenses myself even though I was getting the bad end of the deal. It took her to make the move and like I say, at the end of the day
, I'm glad she did. croyde said:
It's true about being 'brave' enough to split up. 6 years down the line I'm happy we did although I haven't found someone else. They say 1 in 3 marriages end in divorce but in our old friends cases, we are the only ones out of 11 couples that have split.
Many of the others are not happy but the major difficulties and expense of splitting up a home with 2 or 3 kids makes them continue with the sham. I bet a lot of people are like that.
I would have continued for the kids, mortgage and the expenses myself even though I was getting the bad end of the deal. It took her to make the move and like I say, at the end of the day , I'm glad she did.
I once heard someone from an Asian background describing how in her view arranged marriages fundamentally entered into like a business deal start cold and over time warm up, whereas our marriages in the West based on random encounters and passion ( but without much logical thought ) start off hot and then go cold. I think as a whole we have unrealistic expectations of marriage, or rather have come to misinterpret what it's actually for/about. Many of the others are not happy but the major difficulties and expense of splitting up a home with 2 or 3 kids makes them continue with the sham. I bet a lot of people are like that.
I would have continued for the kids, mortgage and the expenses myself even though I was getting the bad end of the deal. It took her to make the move and like I say, at the end of the day
, I'm glad she did. With 2 teenage kids that NEVER GO OUT it's impossible so a couple of times a month at best because she's worried they'll hear.
I bet this guy didn't worry about the kids hearing, away at sea for 6 months, when he got home his wife had lost 4 stone.
He looks knackered in the 2nd picture.
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/sailor-return...
I bet this guy didn't worry about the kids hearing, away at sea for 6 months, when he got home his wife had lost 4 stone.
He looks knackered in the 2nd picture.
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/sailor-return...
wack said:
I bet this guy didn't worry about the kids hearing, away at sea for 6 months, when he got home his wife had lost 4 stone.
He looks knackered in the 2nd picture.
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/sailor-return...
The filthy bHe looks knackered in the 2nd picture.
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/sailor-return...
h, she must've been at it like a rabbit to lose 4 stone in that short time anonymous said:
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One thing I have always said is that, other than the odd required time when one is ill or overtly snorey or it was a particularly special argument you sleep in the same room and same bed as your partner. The day one moves into another bed without a medical reason it's over, let alone in a different room.Spent far too much time being a self pitying arse in the 'Being Told I Don't Love You Anymore' thread this one has been a real antidote. Bullet dodged and all that.
When I was dating a girl with a couple of kids even after 3 years we must of had it 3/4 times a week for the most part.
Having a three year old burst in on you mid passion does give you a whole new appreciation for the term awkward though.
When I was dating a girl with a couple of kids even after 3 years we must of had it 3/4 times a week for the most part.
Having a three year old burst in on you mid passion does give you a whole new appreciation for the term awkward though.
Was never great at relationships, but have experienced how wonderful sex can be with someone you love deeply. Been living with Mrs MVD 14 years, sex never that great even in the beginning, daughter born in 2005 had sex about 3 times since nothing for as long as I can remember:-(((( On a good week she might consent to a HJ if I'm lucky. To be fair she has a disability which has damaged her hip joints, legs are not very mobile. Relationship is stressed, she has no empathy with frustration I feel, moans that I'm miserable. Feel trapped. Go to sleep most nights longing for closeness I once felt.
True happiness I wish, I wish
True happiness I wish, I wish
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