Sexlife as parents..frequency. what's 'normal'?

[anonymous-user]

anonymous said:

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I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you anymore. I split with my wife about 18 months ago and in that time I have dated a fair amount of women in the 36 to 44 age range. I would say without exception they have all been absolutely gagging for it and are very naughty.

Quite a contrast to when they were married and told their husbands they were not interested in sex anymore.

Obviously when I first split with my wife I was absolutely devestated, but 18 months on I can see it as a blessing. Personally I see Marriage as a prison and would certainly not want to get involved in that now I am free. There are far too many women out there to want to get tied down to a sexless marriage with kids and a massive mortgage. If you want a drink of milk, you don't buy the cow......

[GT03ROB]

Joey Deacon said:

I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you.

This.....

[IvanSTi]

Monkeylegend said:

IvanSTi said:

The filthy bh, she must've been at it like a rabbit to lose 4 stone in that short time

Yep, plenty of lettuce and carrots.

Exactly

[TLandCruiser]

GT03ROB said:

Joey Deacon said:

I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you.

This.....

Unless hormone contraception is used, as these can severely reduce some womens libido to the point where they literally do not think about sex, with or without their partner full stop.

[firemunki]

Joey Deacon said:

When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you anymore.

Sadly true, most (all) of you are getting more in a week than I in a month(s) and I've no kids. Soul crushing.
And yes that is somewhat personal, but I need to vent.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

GT03ROB said:

Joey Deacon said:

I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you.

This.....

There are 3.5 billion women on the planet, and you think you can some up the sexuality of all of them in one line!

You don't think it's possible for a woman to be not interested in sex with you or anyone else? Just to lose her libido completely.

[AyBee]

To those who aren't getting any regularly and, from your response, where it bothers you - what have you done to try and reverse the situation or have you just resigned to not getting any? If the latter, does that not bother you?

[TwigtheWonderkid]

hora said:

different medication/etc affects different girls in different ways?

Exactly. Women aren't some homogenous mass, like the Borg. They are individuals. When people say women do/feel/say this or that, they show a very poor understanding of 50% of humanity.

[Timmy40]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

hora said:

different medication/etc affects different girls in different ways?

Exactly. Women aren't some homogenous mass, like the Borg. They are individuals. When people say women do/feel/say this or that, they show a very poor understanding of 50% of humanity.

Yes but they are all a bunch of nutters. Some appear less nutty but are just better at hiding it.

And they are a bit like the borg, they aquire a man, strip him of resources and assimilate him.

[AndStilliRise]

Last night.
Second time this week.

Birthday party and lots of running this weekend - so could be my lot.

[Monkeylegend]

AndStilliRise said:

Last night.
Second time this week.

Birthday party and lots of running this weekend - so could be my lot.

and what an appropriate user name.

[WinstonWolf]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

hora said:

different medication/etc affects different girls in different ways?

Exactly. Women aren't some homogenous mass, like the Borg. They are individuals. When people say women do/feel/say this or that, they show a very poor understanding of 50% of humanity.

Women, I don't know, pissing sitting down...

[R2T2]

No kids but 3/4 times a week, usually compressed into 1/2 days.

Or she'll wake me up at half 3 and we'll do it then. All good

[firemunki]

AyBee said:

To those who aren't getting any regularly and, from your response, where it bothers you - what have you done to try and reverse the situation or have you just resigned to not getting any? If the latter, does that not bother you?

Yes - have tried to reverse it, have talked (numerous times) when it's got too much for me. Change/effort is promised, none forthcoming. Resigned-ish and yes it bothers me greatly.

[Hasbeen]

GT03ROB said:

Joey Deacon said:

I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you.

I have known quite a few men who were complaining they weren't getting any, less than a year after moving a girlfriend in with them, with no kids involved. Evidently in some, the passion dies quickly.

I have also known a number of couples, where the man, after complaining they weren't getting any for some time, did something about it. They shot through with their secretaries, or some lady who had shown interest in them. Most men who aren't getting any are suckers for a little come-on, nicely applied.

Although I don't think the wives had been playing around before the man left, many became very sexually active once the bloke left them. For some this was with a new relationship, but some played the field very hard.

I never saw the long term result. I have now idea if the rediscovered sexuality lasted long term, or if the ladies returned to preferring platonic relationships fairly quickly.

I'm sure we would all be happier if men were born with just a little idea of what really makes women tick.

[The Moose]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

hora said:

different medication/etc affects different girls in different ways?

Exactly. Women aren't some homogenous mass, like the Borg. They are individuals. When people say women do/feel/say this or that, they show a very poor understanding of 50% of humanity.

And yet women do it about the other 50% of humanity...

[GT03ROB]

Hasbeen said:

GT03ROB said:

Joey Deacon said:

I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you.

I have known quite a few men who were complaining they weren't getting any, less than a year after moving a girlfriend in with them, with no kids involved. Evidently in some, the passion dies quickly.

I have also known a number of couples, where the man, after complaining they weren't getting any for some time, did something about it. They shot through with their secretaries, or some lady who had shown interest in them. Most men who aren't getting any are suckers for a little come-on, nicely applied.

Although I don't think the wives had been playing around before the man left, many became very sexually active once the bloke left them. For some this was with a new relationship, but some played the field very hard.

I never saw the long term result. I have now idea if the rediscovered sexuality lasted long term, or if the ladies returned to preferring platonic relationships fairly quickly.

I'm sure we would all be happier if men were born with just a little idea of what really makes women tick.

'ere I didn;t say that!!

[GT03ROB]

TLandCruiser said:

GT03ROB said:

Joey Deacon said:

I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you.

This.....

Unless hormone contraception is used, as these can severely reduce some womens libido to the point where they literally do not think about sex, with or without their partner full stop.

Agreed without an underlying medical issue which the partner should be aware of...... I stand by what I said

[stewies_minion]

Not a lot at all when I was married. Once a week at the weekends after a bottle of wine.

As someone said above, sex is the first thing to go when you're not completely happy.

On a more positive note, I'm no longer married and have had more sex in the last year than in the 10 year marriage.

When your wife / girlfriend isn't happy you don't get any.

[GT03ROB]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

GT03ROB said:

Joey Deacon said:

I agree with this 100%. When a woman says she isn't interested in sex, what she is saying is she isn't interested in sex with you.

This.....

There are 3.5 billion women on the planet, and you think you can some up the sexuality of all of them in one line!

You don't think it's possible for a woman to be not interested in sex with you or anyone else? Just to lose her libido completely.

Ok I may have over simplified, but I didn;t expect a mumsnet thread on here!

I'll stand by what I said though. Women are not quite so complex as we always think & it is a big red flag in a relationship if there is no sexlife.