Photos of your kids on your work desk
Discussion
MLH said:
Is this just one big willy waving contest or do parents really miss their kids that much during the space of 8hrs that the need a reminder of them all day long?
12 hours for a standard day: You missed off the commute.Yes, miss mine very much, so have a picture on the lock screen of my phone - call me unreasonable, but I realise everyone else near my desk is probably (hopefully) not missing my offspring.
I have a picture of my two daughters; 15 and 22 and my grandson on my PC desktop but tbh it's more there as a conversation piece than anything; I'm in sales, I get asked who they are, I tell people and I get the whole "oooh, really, you don't look old enough to have a 22 yo daughter and a grandson" and it goes on from there.
I love my daughters and grandson to bits, however I don't "need" them to be with me whilst I'm at work.
My phone background is a photo of my feet hanging over the side of a boat in the Med, it used to be my dog.
I love my daughters and grandson to bits, however I don't "need" them to be with me whilst I'm at work.
My phone background is a photo of my feet hanging over the side of a boat in the Med, it used to be my dog.
northwest monkey said:
Shaw Tarse said:
spooderman said:
It's pretty weird IMO. Personally I don't understand why people would intentionally get pregnant.
Did your mum think the same?His dad paid extra for bareback.
Mannginger said:
Nice, one different opinion and straight into personal attacks, well played PH.
Not everyone likes children. Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
Mobile Chicane said:
Mannginger said:
Nice, one different opinion and straight into personal attacks, well played PH.
Not everyone likes children. Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
spooderman said:
It's pretty weird IMO. Personally I don't understand why people would intentionally get pregnant.
Show a frightening lack of empathy to the species. Why wouldn't people intentionally reproduce?As for your point about resentment, again, it part of operating and living in a society. Sure, some people take the piddle. But many don't and are doing their best to raise a family and provide the best for their kids.
MLH said:
(i hope they are their kids!)
MLH said:
To start with i don't have any kids so my views may be a bit biased.
Is this just one big willy waving contest or do parents really miss their kids that much during the space of 8hrs that the need a reminder of them all day long?
You don't have kids, do you?Is this just one big willy waving contest or do parents really miss their kids that much during the space of 8hrs that the need a reminder of them all day long?
See, I knew it!
Mobile Chicane said:
Not everyone likes children.
Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
Try 5 years of maternity leave Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
. They take it in turn at my place, currently up to 6 kidsMobile Chicane said:
Not everyone likes children.
Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
I have to confess my cubicle is plastered with pictures of monkey, it used to be the cars (they're still there) and MOH but I back on to a window/wall so shouldn't bother anyone. Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
I have 9 staff (soon to be 10 again) under me and in the 3.5 years I've managed them I've had 1 period of sick leave (2 days) and had to leave early for my 2.5 yr old once.
One member of the team had 2 ops last year with a total of 8 weeks out, plus days off ill, another got married and had a 3 week honeymoon, another 3 weeks for an op and I don't think any of them didn't have 1 day off at least ill last year. (Yes I wish I could include a health questionnaire in interviews!)
I take up the slack generally. In addition to monkeys cheeky face to remind me why I'm there is the card from my mother with "some days the best thing about my job is the chair spins."
So yes, if you can get me a part time job that's not below my skill set I would happily take it.
Depressingly 70% of part timers are women and about the same again are doing jobs below their qualifications/experience.
bint said:
One member of the team had 2 ops last year with a total of 8 weeks out, plus days off ill, another got married and had a 3 week honeymoon, another 3 weeks for an op and I don't think any of them didn't have 1 day off at least ill last year. (Yes I wish I could include a health questionnaire in interviews!)
If you add that together, isn't that less than the average maternity leave?bint said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Not everyone likes children.
Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
I have to confess my cubicle is plastered with pictures of monkey, it used to be the cars (they're still there) and MOH but I back on to a window/wall so shouldn't bother anyone. Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
I have 9 staff (soon to be 10 again) under me and in the 3.5 years I've managed them I've had 1 period of sick leave (2 days) and had to leave early for my 2.5 yr old once.
One member of the team had 2 ops last year with a total of 8 weeks out, plus days off ill, another got married and had a 3 week honeymoon, another 3 weeks for an op and I don't think any of them didn't have 1 day off at least ill last year. (Yes I wish I could include a health questionnaire in interviews!)
I take up the slack generally. In addition to monkeys cheeky face to remind me why I'm there is the card from my mother with "some days the best thing about my job is the chair spins."
So yes, if you can get me a part time job that's not below my skill set I would happily take it.
Depressingly 70% of part timers are women and about the same again are doing jobs below their qualifications/experience.
In my (vast) experience, my conclusion is that some occupations are simply incompatible with parenthood, unless one has squadrons of nannies / extremely supportive family nearby.
But try telling that to the wimmins who want the salary that comes with a demanding job, but aren't prepared to accept that the requirements of said job come before anything else.
Meanwhile, smug and self-congratulatory photographs: Ah, so that's the reason I'm doing your work as well as my own. Gee, thanks.
Mobile Chicane said:
Not everyone likes children.
Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
More fool you then. If this is happening with such regularity as to cause you upset, then you should be feeling resentment towards the company, not a colleague whose commitment to their offspring is such that they don't put in the additional unpaid hours that you feel are appropriate.Those who don't have them end up picking up the slack when their colleagues have a cast iron excuse to leave at 5 'because they have to pick up their child from nursery' or have to 'work' from home because it's ill. Understandably, it causes resentment.
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