Why can't women give a simple answer to a simple question?

[Johnnytheboy]

WestyCarl said:

I have accepted that the first 25mins of me being home form work will just be my wife telling all about stuff at her work, who she phoned, what they are doing, and loads of other crap I have no interest in.
Once this is over we then can have 2 way conversations

If she gets in first she spends 30 minutes telling me who (amongst a bunch of her co-workers I've never met) was a bh to who, etc. as soon as I've walked in.

If I get in first she walks in and spends 30 minutes telling me who (amongst a bunch of her co-workers I've never met) was a bh to who, etc.

If I attempt to speak in the latter situation she says "I've just walked in, let me at least get in the door before you start talking."

[toon10]

Pothole said:

toon10 said:

Pothole said:

You know you've just told us you're mugs, chaps? Why listen to the fluff? Interrupt and ask for the straight answer. What are you scared of? (or more to the point, what blinded ou to this flaw before you committed to such a frustrating life?)

Sex withdrawal.

So you've relaxed into the relationship and let yourselves go, making you scared you'll never pull again? Fools either way.

It's light hearted, relax.

[Ari]

hornetrider said:

I'm an engineer. I find problems with stuff and fix things. It's how I'm wired.

She tells me her problems. I offer practical solutions and alternatives. She never listens.

I think it is how they're wired.

Oh. And don't get me started on randomly talking about the shopping while I'm engrossed in a TV programme.

Good grief, have you not figured this one out yet!?

They don't want solutions. Solutions make the problem go away and then there's nothing to talk about, feel bad about, get emotional about, fret about, worry about. And what would be the fun in that?

Problems are there to be milked and enjoyed to the full, not dispatched by a mere practical solution.

[Tyre Tread]

WestyCarl said:

I have accepted that the first 25mins of me being home form work will just be my wife telling all about stuff at her work, who she phoned, what they are doing, and loads of other crap I have no interest in.
Once this is over we then can have 2 way conversations

After almost 25 years I have learned that when I get home and she asks me how my day was not to ask how hers was.

My answer will be "Fine" hers will be a minute by minute account of what happened, who said what to whom, why and what the repsonse was.

Really not interstested unless its news.

I just realised why the media News has gone from being fact based to being opinion based. Its now produced and consumed by women for women. Perhaps it should be renamed the early evening gossip.

Edited by Tyre Tread on Thursday 26th February 10:58

[PositronicRay]

WestyCarl said:

I have accepted that the first 25mins of me being home form work will just be my wife telling all about stuff at her work, who she phoned, what they are doing, and loads of other crap I have no interest in.
Once this is over we then can have 2 way conversations

In that 25mins they do catch you out however. Sometimes it requires a "no really" rather than just an "hmm"

[Studio117]

I either ask for bullet points/shortened version of the banal escapade or tell her I don't care.

[Hoofy]

What I've noticed is that women prefer to talk about people, men about concepts. That's why we duck women in the local pond for being gossipers and witches.

[Oldandslow]

Women like to talk.

Actual communication is secondary. Talking and being listened to is paramount. Facts and information can get to fk.

[Pothole]

toon10 said:

Pothole said:

toon10 said:

Pothole said:

You know you've just told us you're mugs, chaps? Why listen to the fluff? Interrupt and ask for the straight answer. What are you scared of? (or more to the point, what blinded ou to this flaw before you committed to such a frustrating life?)

Sex withdrawal.

So you've relaxed into the relationship and let yourselves go, making you scared you'll never pull again? Fools either way.

It's light hearted, relax.

I know, fk off.

[Hoofy]

Oldandslow said:

Women like to talk.

Actual communication is secondary. Talking and being listened to is paramount. Facts and information can get to fk.

[Sheepshanks]

Ari said:

..Solutions make the problem go away and then there's nothing to talk about, feel bad about, get emotional about, fret about, worry about.

Actually that's not true, there's always another problem.

I think the trick is for them to be consumed by a problem that genuinely isn't important, and doesn't matter at all to you.

[Soov535]

Miguel Alvarez said:

Mrs Alvarez this is your thread!!!!

I can tolerate this most of the time. But every once in a while she will realise I'm far too relaxed and comfortable and ups the irritaion.

I feel to order a pizza do you want one?
Where are you getting it from?
Dominoes
Ok
Do you want one?
What are you having on yours?
My usual. Do you want one?





I'm calling them now do you want a pizza?
I said yes.
No you didn't. What do you want on your pizza?
What do they have?
I don't know. It's Dominoes. The usual, ground beef, ham, pepperoni. It's a pizza FFS what do you want on it?
Are you picking it up?
WOMAN WHAT DO YOU WANT ON YOUR FECKIN PIZZA!?!?!?!!

Soov - I am getting a curry in - what would you like?
Mrs Soov - what are you having?
Soov - same as usual, what would you like?
Mrs Soov - can I have some of your rice?
Soov - no I am hungry I'll get two
Mrs Soov - it'll be too expensive then, let's share
Soov - OK I will order for you

Food arrives.


Mrs Soov - this isn't what I wanted
Soov - groan
Mrs Soov - OK I'll eat it - why is there only one rice? I'm starving.


FFS.

[Miguel Alvarez]

Soov535 said:

Soov - I am getting a curry in - what would you like?
Mrs Soov - what are you having?
Soov - same as usual, what would you like?
Mrs Soov - can I have some of your rice?
Soov - no I am hungry I'll get two
Mrs Soov - it'll be too expensive then, let's share
Soov - OK I will order for you

Food arrives.


Mrs Soov - this isn't what I wanted
Soov - groan
Mrs Soov - OK I'll eat it - why is there only one rice? I'm starving.


FFS.

Haha. I put a stop to that on our first date many moons ago when she wanted some of my chocolate fudge cake. I don't share food.

[moleamol]

PHers in 'don't like talking to women' shocker!

[HTP99]

Let's just face it; we will never understand women, I don't even think women, understand women.

[Insanity Magnet]

I appear to have chosen one that is the complete opposite of my mother.

Chances of my mother answering a question directly? About 1/100 and only when she's pissed off with something.
Chances of the O/H answering a question directly? 99/100 (just like her mother, funnily enough).

[TLandCruiser]

I must be one of the few on ph, who likes to talk to his wife it seems.

[Oakey]

john2443 said:

I also get this the other way round. I say "Bill had a heart attack when they were out for dinner, they had to call an ambulance and he's been taken to hospital". This is everything I've been told about it and includes the important points, so she'll ask what he was eating? where he was eating it? who was he with? which hospital?

I doesn't bloody matter what he was eating!

If I report any news to her I say at the start that I'm telling her everything I know, to try and head off the stupid questions, and sometimes just don't tell her at all because I know it will be more trouble than it's worth, she'll find out from someone else and they can put up with the questions.

Haha, I had something similar;

me: "mum went out of a meal with her friends and started choking on something, someone had to perform the Heimlich manoeuvre, apparently she nearly died"

her: "what restaurant were they at?"

me: "who gives a st?"

[Soov535]

Oakey said:

john2443 said:

I also get this the other way round. I say "Bill had a heart attack when they were out for dinner, they had to call an ambulance and he's been taken to hospital". This is everything I've been told about it and includes the important points, so she'll ask what he was eating? where he was eating it? who was he with? which hospital?

I doesn't bloody matter what he was eating!

If I report any news to her I say at the start that I'm telling her everything I know, to try and head off the stupid questions, and sometimes just don't tell her at all because I know it will be more trouble than it's worth, she'll find out from someone else and they can put up with the questions.

Haha, I had something similar;

me: "mum went out of a meal with her friends and started choking on something, someone had to perform the Heimlich manoeuvre, apparently she nearly died"

her: "what restaurant were they at?"

me: "who gives a st?"

[Cotty]

TLandCruiser said:

I must be one of the few on ph, who likes to talk to his wife it seems.

Talking is one thing. Listening to a one way conversation for half an hour is not talking.