Daughter ostracised at school

[Tonberry]

One thing some of you seem to be forgetting.

Children are not sts, people are.

I've seen grown adults reduced to wrecks by other adults. People do not change when they grow older.

OP, nip this in the bud before it destroys your little girl as it will follow her through life.

[MrBrightSi]

Cotty said:

http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/tomchiversscienc...

Hahah.

I feel that the term Banter is a misnomer sometimes, i'll be honest that i'm not fond of the word, but it fits and society has made it the norm.

Im talking about the gentle razzing you get at work/from mates out and about, not the bullst thats pedalled on vines/youtube/laddish big man in the pub and what not.

This however is not the place for such an argument. The article smacks of someone who cannot discern when someone is their mate having a little tease and someone who needs a tap on the nose/ignoring.

[entropy]

MrBrightSi said:

Bullied myself.

Always been the fat kid, still get the jibes now but banter is banter.

I was a chubby kid at secondary school and also on the timid side. I knew I was going to be in target even before I started so I made a priority to get on the rugby team, even if I wasn't very good but still played for the first team.

I told my brother to do the same thing and he was even more fatter than me.

We both got through school fine. The worst that could happen was the teasing. I really do think being on the rugby team helped with gaining some respect/credibility with peers.

[Cotty]

MrBrightSi said:

Cotty said:

http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/tomchiversscienc...

Hahah.
I feel that the term Banter is a misnomer sometimes, i'll be honest that i'm not fond of the word, but it fits and society has made it the norm.

Im talking about the gentle razzing you get at work/from mates out and about, not the bullst thats pedalled on vines/youtube/laddish big man in the pub and what not.

This however is not the place for such an argument. The article smacks of someone who cannot discern when someone is their mate having a little tease and someone who needs a tap on the nose/ignoring.

I prefer the ignoring bit.

[MissChief]

Just when I was growing sick of this place, the constant bickering, nitpicking, arguing for arguments sake etc. a thread like this comes along and remind me there are some great people on here.

P.S. So glad I have two boys. Not sure I could put up with this kind of behaviour if I had a daughter or two. In some ways this sort of behaviour can be more damaging than boys having a scrap. Ex wife has a 9 year old girl with a different partner but we're quite close as she often tags along when I take my boys out. She recently moved schools to get away from this sort of behaviour. unfortunately the school and head Teacher had the very blinkered view that 'there is no bullying in this school' and remained completely aloof. She changed schools at the start of this school year and is now much happier.

[iambeowulf]

"As adults we spend the rest of our lives getting over our childhood."

Can't remember who said it but it's quite true. Not just from our experiences at school but family life in general.
I wasn't bullied really. Just a couple of boys picked on me for wearing glasses but I soon realised they were weak.

I did pick on a couple of kids but only because they were gay and fat (but not both. That would be awful!) but they became good mates so I'm forgiven I guess!



(Turns out he wasn't gay after all just a bit camp. Apparently.)