I'm skint - Oh no your not.

[okgo]

OpulentBob said:

Welshy?

God, imagine it, if its not him I bet its still the kind of thing he would do.

[Emeye]

It's usually just an excuse to get out of paying for a round of drinks etc.

I have a "friend" who has really started to get on my tits recently as he will come out for a drink with the lads, happily join the round, moan all night about not having any money (he has plenty) and make sure that just before it is his turn to get the drinks in it's time for him to go home.

[RobinBanks]

okgo said:

OpulentBob said:

Welshy?

God, imagine it, if its not him I bet its still the kind of thing he would do.

I just hope it's not me!

[Pit Pony]

Countdown said:

Pit Pony said:

berlintaxi said:

How is it not immoral to deliberately reduce your earnings so that your kids get funded through university by others?

If I put it all into my pension would that be okay ?

Is it ok to claim benefits whilst working cash in hand?

Thanks for pointing out the difference between What's illegal and what isn't.

Edited by Pit Pony on Monday 23 March 19:42

[IvanSTi]

Emeye said:

It's usually just an excuse to get out of paying for a round of drinks etc.

I have a "friend" who has really started to get on my tits recently as he will come out for a drink with the lads, happily join the round, moan all night about not having any money (he has plenty) and make sure that just before it is his turn to get the drinks in it's time for him to go home.

Tell him / her where to go?

[Chris Type R]

I'd be a lot less skint if I wasn't paying 40p+ in every pound to the tax office.

[RobinBanks]

Chris Type R said:

I'd be a lot less skint if I wasn't paying 40p+ in every pound to the tax office.

It's worth paying it. I think I'd rather be in the attention of the KGB than HMRC.

[Moonhawk]

Emeye said:

It's usually just an excuse to get out of paying for a round of drinks etc.

Yep this.

Even if they do buy a round - it's with reluctance and they often pull stunts like ordering a "large" of wine or a double XYZ when somebody else is buying - then make it last through their round until its somebody elses turn to buy again - suddenly they will have miraculously finished their drink and freely accept a top up.

[MC Bodge]

"Rounds of drinks" as a concept is a bad one, especially for more than about 3 people. The fastest drinkers drag the slower ones along and there is a compulsion for everybody to buy the number of drinks that the fastest/booziest person wants.

It's a bit cheeky to get involved and then duck out at your own round though. Better to buy a "round" in even if you are not having a drink yourself -although it does seem to confuse/upset the boozier people....

"I'll stay on me own"

[Hasbeen]

I have never been skint, but I have always been saving for something, or doing something expensive that I wanted more than that night out or new clothes, so I acted like it I guess.

First I was saving for an MG. Then I was saving for a house. Then I was saving for a new Morgan, then I was saving to race prepare it, or rebuild it after a Bathurst meeting.

Then it was for a Lotus FJ, then a Brabham F2.

Then it was to buy a yacht, then a better yacht, then to put enough money together for a 12 month, [turned into 8 years] cruise of the Pacific islands.

Then it was to get back together financially after coming home.

It was only after I got to be too old to do much physically, that I was prepared to splurge on a good meal & a bottle of good wine. It may not be right for a lot of people, but it allowed me to do things most never do.

I deprived myself of a lot of things that others enjoy, but when you are howling down Conrod straight, or sailing through the Great Barrier Reef, you sure don't feel deprived of anything.

[Moonhawk]

MC Bodge said:

It's a bit cheeky to get involved and then duck out at your own round though. Better to buy a "round" in even if you are not having a drink yourself -although it does seem to confuse/upset the boozier people....

The confusion/upset isn't about them skipping a drink per-se (nobody should feel compelled to drink just to keep up with others). It's about people ordering a "large" when somebody else is paying then making it last so they don't have to buy when it's their round - but then are happy to receive another large drink on the round after (they are basically drinking at others expense). It's a bit cheeky especially when such people also ensure they are never first to the bar.

If you can't drink as fast as the boozier people, that's fine - but the decent thing to do is to either request a drink you know you can finish in the round (i.e. a small glass or a single), make sure you are first to the bar sometimes (so that other people occasionally buy the rounds when you aren't drinking), refuse to go into rounds at all, or only go in for one round each - then get your own from then on.

Intentionally and consistently drinking only on the alternate rounds you don't buy is a pretty stty thing to do IMO.

Edited by Moonhawk on Tuesday 24th March 12:20

[9mm]

IvanSTi said:

Emeye said:

It's usually just an excuse to get out of paying for a round of drinks etc.

I have a "friend" who has really started to get on my tits recently as he will come out for a drink with the lads, happily join the round, moan all night about not having any money (he has plenty) and make sure that just before it is his turn to get the drinks in it's time for him to go home.

Tell him / her where to go?

Just confront the tt with "right, your round sunshine" next time he turns up. If it doesn't work, stop telling him when you're meeting. Putting up with it is just daft.

[rossub]

Hasbeen said:

I have never been skint, but I have always been saving for something, or doing something expensive that I wanted more than that night out or new clothes, so I acted like it I guess.

First I was saving for an MG. Then I was saving for a house. Then I was saving for a new Morgan, then I was saving to race prepare it, or rebuild it after a Bathurst meeting.

Then it was for a Lotus FJ, then a Brabham F2.

Then it was to buy a yacht, then a better yacht, then to put enough money together for a 12 month, [turned into 8 years] cruise of the Pacific islands.

Then it was to get back together financially after coming home.

It was only after I got to be too old to do much physically, that I was prepared to splurge on a good meal & a bottle of good wine. It may not be right for a lot of people, but it allowed me to do things most never do.

I deprived myself of a lot of things that others enjoy, but when you are howling down Conrod straight, or sailing through the Great Barrier Reef, you sure don't feel deprived of anything.

Same here. I'm always doing something with my money - be it saving, or paying off debts. I always plan each month's expenditure very well, so there isn't really any spare cash just sitting there to spend on crap. Asset "rich" and cash poor its called.

Except I dont have a Yacht, or a race Car on my salary

[RobinBanks]

My mate's boyfriend is a fker for this. I don't think I've ever known him to buy a round. We usually drink in rounds and every so often he just nips to the toilet and comes back with another drink. Another thing I've seen him do is order an orange juice and pour his own vodka into it.
He also tried to do it with a gin and tonic just ordering tonic water and ice and a slice of lemon but they wouldn't serve it on the basis he would probably pour his own gin in.

Tight fker. I only put up with it because my mate is a very good mate and I would feel tight and look a tosser buying a round and excluding him.

[Moonhawk]

RobinBanks said:

My mate's boyfriend is a fker for this. I don't think I've ever known him to buy a round. We usually drink in rounds and every so often he just nips to the toilet and comes back with another drink. Another thing I've seen him do is order an orange juice and pour his own vodka into it.
He also tried to do it with a gin and tonic just ordering tonic water and ice and a slice of lemon but they wouldn't serve it on the basis he would probably pour his own gin in.

Tight fker. I only put up with it because my mate is a very good mate and I would feel tight and look a tosser buying a round and excluding him.

Does he use his own Vodka when you or your mate are buying?

[RobinBanks]

Moonhawk said:

Does he use his own Vodka when you or your mate are buying?

Nope. Then it's usually a large glass of red wine. He is a grade A tosser.

[Moonhawk]

RobinBanks said:

Moonhawk said:

Does he use his own Vodka when you or your mate are buying?

Nope. Then it's usually a large glass of red wine. He is a grade A tosser.

Yep - funny how that works.....

[Cotty]

Moonhawk said:

If you can't drink as fast as the boozier people, that's fine - but the decent thing to do is to either request a drink you know you can finish in the round (i.e. a small glass or a single), make sure you are first to the bar sometimes (so that other people occasionally buy the rounds when you aren't drinking), refuse to go into rounds at all, or only go in for one round each - then get your own from then on.

I do that but people get upset that you are not in their round. If people want to drink slow thats fine, but don't try to rope me into a round and slow me down to their pace.

[RobinBanks]

Moonhawk said:

RobinBanks said:

Moonhawk said:

Does he use his own Vodka when you or your mate are buying?

Nope. Then it's usually a large glass of red wine. He is a grade A tosser.

Yep - funny how that works.....

I really couldn't do it. I'd feel embarrassed.
Maybe he doesn't think that people have noticed? My mate has noticed and offered to reimburse me, but that's a bit far. I think he should just have a chat with him about social etiquette.

I don't know how much the guy earns but I know what my mate earns and I would say that we earn a bit more than the guy (we're certainly not rich though) so maybe he justifies it personally that way.

[IvanSTi]

RobinBanks said:

Moonhawk said:

RobinBanks said:

Moonhawk said:

Does he use his own Vodka when you or your mate are buying?

Nope. Then it's usually a large glass of red wine. He is a grade A tosser.

Yep - funny how that works.....

I really couldn't do it. I'd feel embarrassed.
Maybe he doesn't think that people have noticed? My mate has noticed and offered to reimburse me, but that's a bit far. I think he should just have a chat with him about social etiquette.

I don't know how much the guy earns but I know what my mate earns and I would say that we earn a bit more than the guy (we're certainly not rich though) so maybe he justifies it personally that way.

Doesn't matter, there's no way anyone in our group would get away with this without having the piss taken out of him or pulled for a round before he leaves.

Next time he slips off to the toilet and brings himself a drink back, just make a joke of it, but make sure everyone knows about it [reallyloudvoice]OH I SEE YOU MANAGED TO BUY YOURSELF A DRINK, IT'S LIKE A fkING DESERT IN HERE[/voice] <insert choking noises etc> - "I wish my lass' fanny was as tight as you" or similar.