I'm skint - Oh no your not.
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), sometimes we just had spuds for dinner as we couldn't'; afford anything else.IvanSTi said:
Doesn't matter, there's no way anyone in our group would get away with this without having the piss taken out of him or pulled for a round before he leaves.
Next time he slips off to the toilet and brings himself a drink back, just make a joke of it, but make sure everyone knows about it [reallyloudvoice]OH I SEE YOU MANAGED TO BUY YOURSELF A DRINK, IT'S LIKE A f
kING DESERT IN HERE[/voice] <insert choking noises etc> - "I wish my lass' fanny was as tight as you" or similar.
I have actually just remembered ONCE when he bought a round but it was because he had no cash on him and in order to make a card payment he had to spend over £5 Next time he slips off to the toilet and brings himself a drink back, just make a joke of it, but make sure everyone knows about it [reallyloudvoice]OH I SEE YOU MANAGED TO BUY YOURSELF A DRINK, IT'S LIKE A f
kING DESERT IN HERE[/voice] <insert choking noises etc> - "I wish my lass' fanny was as tight as you" or similar.
It's the way that he just casually adjusts his drinking pace to avoid getting a round when it's his turn but realigns it with us when someone else is getting the drinks.
The problem is that if I embarrassed in front of friends (or probably even privately), my friend would be quite upset and angry. That said, he's quite embarrassed about his boyfriend being tight and awkward with his mates (his mates definitely come first).
RobinBanks]My mate's boyfriend is a [snip said:
.... Tight fker. I only put up with it because my mate is a very good mate and I would feel tight and look a tosser buying a round and excluding him.
Funny thing is that I doubt many or any of us would stand for such behaviour from a g/f or partner before pulling them up and saying "Either you pay your way or you don't come out with me and the others because you are making not only you but also me look bad."ker. I only put up with it because my mate is a very good mate and I would feel tight and look a tosser buying a round and excluding him.Years ago I had a friend who for a number of years I considered to be my best friend. there were a few uni induced gaps but then we both ended up back in the same area, me at uni, him having dropped out and doing his own thing. We would met up a couple of times a week over his way (20 mile drive) for an evening of snooker or pool. His Mrs would always be there. Rounds were always them/me/them/me and when it came to paying for the tables it would be half me, half them although this didn't over bother me as she didn't always play. Now I wasn't too upset about this at first when I was aware how tight things were for them but was more bugged that they would be on pints and me on pop. After a few months she got a job as well and things were a lot better for them money wise, yet they still thought it fine to keep the cost of our evenings out as outlined above. I mentioned it a few times (didn't ever bring up the petrol money I was spending as they didn't have a car to get over to see me closer to home) and would end up with a sob story about how the kettle had broken or this or that. The final straw was when I noted that they had enough money to by a new TV they didn't need but were still claiming poverty. Other than two brief meetings about 2002 I haven't spoken to him for over 15 years now.
Rude-boy said:
RobinBanks]My mate's boyfriend is a [snip said:
.... Tight fker. I only put up with it because my mate is a very good mate and I would feel tight and look a tosser buying a round and excluding him.
Funny thing is that I doubt many or any of us would stand for such behaviour from a g/f or partner before pulling them up and saying "Either you pay your way or you don't come out with me and the others because you are making not only you but also me look bad."ker. I only put up with it because my mate is a very good mate and I would feel tight and look a tosser buying a round and excluding him."When you sponge off my mates, you make me look like a d
head. So stop it."We had a bit of a to-do with some family members over crap like this.
Arranged to go out for a meal with them which we did probably every few months. Turned up at the pub and the couple plus my wife went in whilst I parked the car up. Took me a couple of minutes to find a space - sort my st out and walk back round.
Was expecting the bloke to have got a round of drinks in on the understanding that we would likely be paying for the meal (as we tended to do). Got into the pub and rather than finding them at the bar - they were still stood in the entrance waiting for me.
Ordered drinks and food throughout the night, all going on a tab - and when the final bill came - everybody just sat there making no move to look at the bill or put cash on the table. I ended up pulling my card out and paying for the lot rather than make a scene.
I generally didn't mind paying a bit more towards the meal and we have often paid for the food in it's entirety as well as some of the drink because we know we are in a better financial position (they are far from on the breadline though) - but you know somebody is really taking the piss when they can't even put their hand in their pocket for a single round.
To top it off - my wife, having clocked what has gone on, quips "because we paid the bill - you can leave the tip" (we normally leave around 10% and the bill came to over £100). The guy throws about £4 on the table and says "that's enough". We were both livid.
We pulled them up on it a few weeks later, told them they had taken the piss and we would be expecting them to pay their way in future......strangely, they haven't suggested going out for a meal or drinks since. This was about 2 years ago.
Arranged to go out for a meal with them which we did probably every few months. Turned up at the pub and the couple plus my wife went in whilst I parked the car up. Took me a couple of minutes to find a space - sort my s
t out and walk back round.Was expecting the bloke to have got a round of drinks in on the understanding that we would likely be paying for the meal (as we tended to do). Got into the pub and rather than finding them at the bar - they were still stood in the entrance waiting for me.
Ordered drinks and food throughout the night, all going on a tab - and when the final bill came - everybody just sat there making no move to look at the bill or put cash on the table. I ended up pulling my card out and paying for the lot rather than make a scene.
I generally didn't mind paying a bit more towards the meal and we have often paid for the food in it's entirety as well as some of the drink because we know we are in a better financial position (they are far from on the breadline though) - but you know somebody is really taking the piss when they can't even put their hand in their pocket for a single round.
To top it off - my wife, having clocked what has gone on, quips "because we paid the bill - you can leave the tip" (we normally leave around 10% and the bill came to over £100). The guy throws about £4 on the table and says "that's enough". We were both livid.
We pulled them up on it a few weeks later, told them they had taken the piss and we would be expecting them to pay their way in future......strangely, they haven't suggested going out for a meal or drinks since. This was about 2 years ago.
Moonhawk said:
We had a bit of a to-do with some family members over crap like this.
Arranged to go out for a meal with them which we did probably every few months. Turned up at the pub and the couple plus my wife went in whilst I parked the car up. Took me a couple of minutes to find a space - sort my st out and walk back round.
Was expecting the bloke to have got a round of drinks in on the understanding that we would likely be paying for the meal (as we tended to do). Got into the pub and rather than finding them at the bar - they were still stood in the entrance waiting for me.
Ordered drinks and food throughout the night, all going on a tab - and when the final bill came - everybody just sat there making no move to look at the bill or put cash on the table. I ended up pulling my card out and paying for the lot rather than make a scene.
I generally didn't mind paying a bit more towards the meal and we have often paid for the food in it's entirety as well as some of the drink because we know we are in a better financial position (they are far from on the breadline though) - but you know somebody is really taking the piss when they can't even put their hand in their pocket for a single round.
To top it off - my wife, having clocked what has gone on, quips "because we paid the bill - you can leave the tip" (we normally leave around 10% and the bill came to over £100). The guy throws about £4 on the table and says "that's enough". We were both livid.
We pulled them up on it a few weeks later, told them they had taken the piss and we would be expecting them to pay their way in future......strangely, they haven't suggested going out for a meal or drinks since. This was about 2 years ago.
We got caught by a couple who drink wine at probably three times the rate we do, so whilst I'm happy splitting meal costs 50:50, regardless of who chooses what from the menu, I do object to subsidising their drinking habit. The first time, they got to the restaurant and had necked a £30 bottle of wine before we arrived - no attempt to pay for it themselves come bill time.Arranged to go out for a meal with them which we did probably every few months. Turned up at the pub and the couple plus my wife went in whilst I parked the car up. Took me a couple of minutes to find a space - sort my s
t out and walk back round.Was expecting the bloke to have got a round of drinks in on the understanding that we would likely be paying for the meal (as we tended to do). Got into the pub and rather than finding them at the bar - they were still stood in the entrance waiting for me.
Ordered drinks and food throughout the night, all going on a tab - and when the final bill came - everybody just sat there making no move to look at the bill or put cash on the table. I ended up pulling my card out and paying for the lot rather than make a scene.
I generally didn't mind paying a bit more towards the meal and we have often paid for the food in it's entirety as well as some of the drink because we know we are in a better financial position (they are far from on the breadline though) - but you know somebody is really taking the piss when they can't even put their hand in their pocket for a single round.
To top it off - my wife, having clocked what has gone on, quips "because we paid the bill - you can leave the tip" (we normally leave around 10% and the bill came to over £100). The guy throws about £4 on the table and says "that's enough". We were both livid.
We pulled them up on it a few weeks later, told them they had taken the piss and we would be expecting them to pay their way in future......strangely, they haven't suggested going out for a meal or drinks since. This was about 2 years ago.
I put that one down to forgetfulness but when they were downing the drinks non-stop the next time, in the knowledge my partner doesn't drink and I'm a light drinker, then went for the 50:50, action had to be taken.
The girls are supposedly great friends and I was not to make a scene so next time I just drank like a fish, knowing full well I'd be writing off the next day but also drinking far more than 50% of the booze. I also went for the most expensive dishes on every course. Then went 50:50. We haven't seen them since which is a total result in my book.
It's not the money, it's the taking of the piss that grates. People that stand their round are invariably ok people, whereas those that don't often have quite a few irritating traits. It was ingrained in me as a kid that if you can't pay your way, you don't go out.
9mm said:
It's not the money, it's the taking of the piss that grates.
Yep - and to top it off - when you do finally pull them up - instead of acknowledging they have been acting improperly and hence act more fairly going forward - they either see their arse, or see that their financial benefit has been removed - and they stop going out. The final nail in the piss taking coffin.
9mm said:
Moonhawk said:
We had a bit of a to-do with some family members over crap like this.
Arranged to go out for a meal with them which we did probably every few months. Turned up at the pub and the couple plus my wife went in whilst I parked the car up. Took me a couple of minutes to find a space - sort my st out and walk back round.
Was expecting the bloke to have got a round of drinks in on the understanding that we would likely be paying for the meal (as we tended to do). Got into the pub and rather than finding them at the bar - they were still stood in the entrance waiting for me.
Ordered drinks and food throughout the night, all going on a tab - and when the final bill came - everybody just sat there making no move to look at the bill or put cash on the table. I ended up pulling my card out and paying for the lot rather than make a scene.
I generally didn't mind paying a bit more towards the meal and we have often paid for the food in it's entirety as well as some of the drink because we know we are in a better financial position (they are far from on the breadline though) - but you know somebody is really taking the piss when they can't even put their hand in their pocket for a single round.
To top it off - my wife, having clocked what has gone on, quips "because we paid the bill - you can leave the tip" (we normally leave around 10% and the bill came to over £100). The guy throws about £4 on the table and says "that's enough". We were both livid.
We pulled them up on it a few weeks later, told them they had taken the piss and we would be expecting them to pay their way in future......strangely, they haven't suggested going out for a meal or drinks since. This was about 2 years ago.
We got caught by a couple who drink wine at probably three times the rate we do, so whilst I'm happy splitting meal costs 50:50, regardless of who chooses what from the menu, I do object to subsidising their drinking habit. The first time, they got to the restaurant and had necked a £30 bottle of wine before we arrived - no attempt to pay for it themselves come bill time.Arranged to go out for a meal with them which we did probably every few months. Turned up at the pub and the couple plus my wife went in whilst I parked the car up. Took me a couple of minutes to find a space - sort my s
t out and walk back round.Was expecting the bloke to have got a round of drinks in on the understanding that we would likely be paying for the meal (as we tended to do). Got into the pub and rather than finding them at the bar - they were still stood in the entrance waiting for me.
Ordered drinks and food throughout the night, all going on a tab - and when the final bill came - everybody just sat there making no move to look at the bill or put cash on the table. I ended up pulling my card out and paying for the lot rather than make a scene.
I generally didn't mind paying a bit more towards the meal and we have often paid for the food in it's entirety as well as some of the drink because we know we are in a better financial position (they are far from on the breadline though) - but you know somebody is really taking the piss when they can't even put their hand in their pocket for a single round.
To top it off - my wife, having clocked what has gone on, quips "because we paid the bill - you can leave the tip" (we normally leave around 10% and the bill came to over £100). The guy throws about £4 on the table and says "that's enough". We were both livid.
We pulled them up on it a few weeks later, told them they had taken the piss and we would be expecting them to pay their way in future......strangely, they haven't suggested going out for a meal or drinks since. This was about 2 years ago.
I put that one down to forgetfulness but when they were downing the drinks non-stop the next time, in the knowledge my partner doesn't drink and I'm a light drinker, then went for the 50:50, action had to be taken.
The girls are supposedly great friends and I was not to make a scene so next time I just drank like a fish, knowing full well I'd be writing off the next day but also drinking far more than 50% of the booze. I also went for the most expensive dishes on every course. Then went 50:50. We haven't seen them since which is a total result in my book.
It's not the money, it's the taking of the piss that grates. People that stand their round are invariably ok people, whereas those that don't often have quite a few irritating traits. It was ingrained in me as a kid that if you can't pay your way, you don't go out.
Won't be able to drive for a family meal out, cus she has no petrol
On route to the meal I'll stop and go to the cash machine on purpose
Everyone is sensible and has a drink or two, the sister will be knocking back double jack Daniels
Bill will come along everyone rounds up their percentage to the nearest round number to cover the tip
The brat will announce got no cash, despite us going to the cash machine on the way
Everyone then has to put their hand back in their pocket to cover her large share and the tip
We'll get home and then she'll be heading out on the town, taking a taxi
It really winds me up every time as this is her continual attitude all the f
king time. If she was at uni / out of work I'd happily pay for her, but she's in full time work and only has money for stuff she want to pay forI'm not allowed to pull her up on it as she'll go off the rails and ruin the evening.
We also usually have to wait for her to finish her bath which she is just getting into when we arrive on time to pick them up, she then spends 30 mins in there. Of course the restaurant are then pissed off and tell us we only have x amount of time due to being 30- 45 mins late. So I have to rush eating a meal that I'm paying for to watch old nummpty drink my money!
Takes the piss!
Wifey and I have two houses, (one with small mortgage) a 6 year old Ford Everest, a nice garage with tools and a couple of car projects etc. We do live fairly nicely, but not luxuriously.
But as for cash money, I'd be lucky if I could raise about 5 grand in real cash in a pinch. Obviously credit cards could be drawn on to get pound notes, but that is not 'cash' as such.
Skint? maybe not skint per se, but we're not exactly rolling in filthy lucre.
But our only debt anywhere is the small mortgage.
But as for cash money, I'd be lucky if I could raise about 5 grand in real cash in a pinch. Obviously credit cards could be drawn on to get pound notes, but that is not 'cash' as such.
Skint? maybe not skint per se, but we're not exactly rolling in filthy lucre.
But our only debt anywhere is the small mortgage.
Spare tyre said:
I'm not allowed to pull her up on it as she'll go off the rails and ruin the evening.
We also usually have to wait for her to finish her bath which she is just getting into when we arrive on time to pick them up, she then spends 30 mins in there. Of course the restaurant are then pissed off and tell us we only have x amount of time due to being 30- 45 mins late. So I have to rush eating a meal that I'm paying for to watch old nummpty drink my money!
Takes the piss!
10 min window. Not ready/out of the bath leave. If she claims to be so skint then she will not be able to get a cab and spoil the evening, if she does ask where the money comes from. We also usually have to wait for her to finish her bath which she is just getting into when we arrive on time to pick them up, she then spends 30 mins in there. Of course the restaurant are then pissed off and tell us we only have x amount of time due to being 30- 45 mins late. So I have to rush eating a meal that I'm paying for to watch old nummpty drink my money!
Takes the piss!
rossub said:
Hasbeen said:
I have never been skint, but I have always been saving for something, or doing something expensive that I wanted more than that night out or new clothes, so I acted like it I guess.
First I was saving for an MG. Then I was saving for a house. Then I was saving for a new Morgan, then I was saving to race prepare it, or rebuild it after a Bathurst meeting.
Then it was for a Lotus FJ, then a Brabham F2.
Then it was to buy a yacht, then a better yacht, then to put enough money together for a 12 month, [turned into 8 years] cruise of the Pacific islands.
Then it was to get back together financially after coming home.
It was only after I got to be too old to do much physically, that I was prepared to splurge on a good meal & a bottle of good wine. It may not be right for a lot of people, but it allowed me to do things most never do.
I deprived myself of a lot of things that others enjoy, but when you are howling down Conrod straight, or sailing through the Great Barrier Reef, you sure don't feel deprived of anything.
Same here. I'm always doing something with my money - be it saving, or paying off debts. I always plan each month's expenditure very well, so there isn't really any spare cash just sitting there to spend on crap. Asset "rich" and cash poor its called.First I was saving for an MG. Then I was saving for a house. Then I was saving for a new Morgan, then I was saving to race prepare it, or rebuild it after a Bathurst meeting.
Then it was for a Lotus FJ, then a Brabham F2.
Then it was to buy a yacht, then a better yacht, then to put enough money together for a 12 month, [turned into 8 years] cruise of the Pacific islands.
Then it was to get back together financially after coming home.
It was only after I got to be too old to do much physically, that I was prepared to splurge on a good meal & a bottle of good wine. It may not be right for a lot of people, but it allowed me to do things most never do.
I deprived myself of a lot of things that others enjoy, but when you are howling down Conrod straight, or sailing through the Great Barrier Reef, you sure don't feel deprived of anything.
Except I dont have a Yacht, or a race Car on my salary
I learnt how to rebuild chassis, & engines, [never did learn about gearboxes properly] so I could do my own upgrades & maintenance on my cars.
I then had to learn lots of new stuff to first fix & then set up an old tired [read cheap], yacht, if I wanted to go sailing.
One really important thing I have learnt is that the really competent people love teaching their skills to others. If you really want to learn how to do something, ask a top tradesman. When they see you really want to learn, it is amazing how much help, advice & instruction they will give you.
Then just go for it. I meet dozens of people out in the Pacific islands in yachts they had built themselves. Wood, steel, fiberglass & cement, it didn't matter they had no experience, they started building & learnt as they went.
You know, not one of them had drowned, because their yacht failed.
Hasbeen said:
You have to develop some new skills. Playing lots of games, like us, you do tend to have less money to play with, due to lack of concentration on earning.
Quite right. I try to do the same, to a more modest extent. You sound to have been particularly good at managing it, though!
Jasandjules said:
I ask myself why people keep inviting such individuals to go out for dinner etc with them?!?!
We used to go out with the dragons mate and her husband who at best was ok for company but not on the same wavelength as me .Split the bill 50/50 one night I put my share of £60 in three twenties on the page and left to go to the toilet and for some reason my wife counted the money to find it £20 short , this was followed by an embarrassing silence , so I opened my wallet and got another twenty out and put it on the plate and started walking to the door absolutely furious.
It caused a strain on the relationship the girls had , they are still pals , but I've refused to go out with them ever since , looking back it's probably the best £20 I've ever been forced to spend.
RobinBanks said:
The guy I mentioned earlier turned up and saw my glass of wine and asked if it was mine.
I replied that it was and he said that he had hoped it had been left by someone...
I need to get a word with my mate
I replied that it was and he said that he had hoped it had been left by someone...
I need to get a word with my mate
Mention it. If he has resorted to minesweeping then he cannot afford to come out.
Jasandjules said:
I ask myself why people keep inviting such individuals to go out for dinner etc with them?!?!
It's never that simple though, precious relationships and egos. That's just with friends, nevermind the burdens of family members!omgus said:
Mention it. If he has resorted to minesweeping then he cannot afford to come out.
Edited by gwm on Wednesday 25th March 14:02
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