Aged 33, no friends, living a lie with other half, just lost
Discussion
MichaelKnight said:
I also met my girlfriend aged 18 and we've been together ever since.
MichaelKnight said:
I'm just saying it stops me from getting into a relationship.
MichaelKnight said:
It's not- I was looking for something different then- and still am... Lost... as I said...
Now, Im no Rachel Riley, but summut dont add up... Dump the girlfriend - for her sake not yours. Currently you are wasting two lives rather than one.
Find a passion, dedicate time and energy to it.
Stay away from dating sites in the mean time, you need to sort your s
t out before involving anyone else in it.
Read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, while you stay so wrapped up in feeling crap about the past and worrying about the future you have forgotten the present. You can only make changes in the now. The book elaborates on this point and while I dismissed it as hippy nonsense before reading it - it's actually spot on.
Find a passion, dedicate time and energy to it.
Stay away from dating sites in the mean time, you need to sort your s
t out before involving anyone else in it. Read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, while you stay so wrapped up in feeling crap about the past and worrying about the future you have forgotten the present. You can only make changes in the now. The book elaborates on this point and while I dismissed it as hippy nonsense before reading it - it's actually spot on.
As my mate always says "We are where we are, it is what it is, we can't change the past, only use the past to change the future, lets move on and make the best"
Oh and another says "What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger.........apart from Polio"
I say "Man up....It's only mental illness, and a bit of depression, low self-estime and low self worth that is stopping you being the man you'd like to be. It's not like you are deaf and blind and are missing a couple of limbs. It's not like you are actually ill, so stop being sorry for yourself and get a grip"
I failed the empathy test, but hey, I don't have anyone to blame for that, and I'm not taking the blame myself, so we'll pretend I passed.
Oh and another says "What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger.........apart from Polio"
I say "Man up....It's only mental illness, and a bit of depression, low self-estime and low self worth that is stopping you being the man you'd like to be. It's not like you are deaf and blind and are missing a couple of limbs. It's not like you are actually ill, so stop being sorry for yourself and get a grip"
I failed the empathy test, but hey, I don't have anyone to blame for that, and I'm not taking the blame myself, so we'll pretend I passed.
Pit Pony said:
I say "Man up....It's only mental illness, and a bit of depression, low self-estime and low self worth that is stopping you being the man you'd like to be. It's not like you are deaf and blind and are missing a couple of limbs. It's not like you are actually ill, so stop being sorry for yourself and get a grip"
The 1970's are on the phone, they'd like a word.Saying "man up, it's only mental illness" is like saying "man up, you've only lost both your legs".
Though I'm sure this is a troll post, it has to be. In which case, I bit, so maybe I'm the one with a mental illness.
To be honest, an awful lot of people spend their whole life doing absolutely squat. They just don't realise, whereas you seem to have done.
I worked in a factory for the first 14 years of my adult life, and the guys I worked with seemed horrendously tedious with the amazing ability to talk about nothing but horse racing, and do nothing but sit at home or come to work. Most of them had no hobbies, pastimes, never went anywhere or did anything of interest. They just seemed to 'exist', work to live, and nothing more.
I swore I'd never be like that, but it took until I was 29 before I managed to make a huge break and flee that dismal factory scene.
I worked in a factory for the first 14 years of my adult life, and the guys I worked with seemed horrendously tedious with the amazing ability to talk about nothing but horse racing, and do nothing but sit at home or come to work. Most of them had no hobbies, pastimes, never went anywhere or did anything of interest. They just seemed to 'exist', work to live, and nothing more.
I swore I'd never be like that, but it took until I was 29 before I managed to make a huge break and flee that dismal factory scene.
Belgian Father eh? 
The details of my life are quite inconsequential... very well, where do I begin?
My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery.
My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet.
My father would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy.
The sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament.
My childhood was typical. Summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. In the spring we'd make meat helmets. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds- pretty standard really.
At the age of twelve I received my first scribe.
At the age of fourteen a Zoroastrian named Vilma ritualistically shaved my testicles. There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum... it's breathtaking- I highly suggest you try it.
The details of my life are quite inconsequential... very well, where do I begin?
My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery.
My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet.
My father would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy.
The sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament.
My childhood was typical. Summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. In the spring we'd make meat helmets. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds- pretty standard really.
At the age of twelve I received my first scribe.
At the age of fourteen a Zoroastrian named Vilma ritualistically shaved my testicles. There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum... it's breathtaking- I highly suggest you try it.
If I must clear things up.... And to the detectives on this thread...
The thread I'd created earlier in the year was created when I thought my relationship was perhaps majorly the cause of me being unhappy. Clearly as I said before- I am all over the place which only contributes to my unhappiness with things.
Also, clearly, broadly speaking, the age, nationality and other bit and pieces have been changed as my account could be found by said other half- which would't do us the world of good at this stage.
It's tough- here I am getting up for work and like I suspect millions of us I hate it. However it seems much deeper than that- I just cannot stand another day at work, it feels like a waste of time when I see that some people actually leave it all behind and actually enjoy what they do.
The thread I'd created earlier in the year was created when I thought my relationship was perhaps majorly the cause of me being unhappy. Clearly as I said before- I am all over the place which only contributes to my unhappiness with things.
Also, clearly, broadly speaking, the age, nationality and other bit and pieces have been changed as my account could be found by said other half- which would't do us the world of good at this stage.
It's tough- here I am getting up for work and like I suspect millions of us I hate it. However it seems much deeper than that- I just cannot stand another day at work, it feels like a waste of time when I see that some people actually leave it all behind and actually enjoy what they do.
Hasbeen said:
Time to grow up little boy.
"because I was robbed of those 10 years" you say, but the only people robed are those who have contributed to your wasted education, & your support since.
Sounds like you are basically a waste of space. While you have this victim attitude you are of no use to the world, or your self.
Fix that attitude or go jump.
Wow."because I was robbed of those 10 years" you say, but the only people robed are those who have contributed to your wasted education, & your support since.
Sounds like you are basically a waste of space. While you have this victim attitude you are of no use to the world, or your self.
Fix that attitude or go jump.
ReallyReallyGood said:
Hasbeen said:
Time to grow up little boy.
"because I was robbed of those 10 years" you say, but the only people robed are those who have contributed to your wasted education, & your support since.
Sounds like you are basically a waste of space. While you have this victim attitude you are of no use to the world, or your self.
Fix that attitude or go jump.
Wow."because I was robbed of those 10 years" you say, but the only people robed are those who have contributed to your wasted education, & your support since.
Sounds like you are basically a waste of space. While you have this victim attitude you are of no use to the world, or your self.
Fix that attitude or go jump.
MichaelKnight said:
Has anyone joined a dating site? I would prefer a chinese lady or similar as I tend to think of them as far less 'louty' than some British women can be!
Nardies said:
I think maybe you should talk to someone in a professional sense, rather than hope for life changing advice on a car forum.
Or maybe try http://www.wellbehavedthaibrides.com instead.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff