What is the answer to wanting stuff?

What is the answer to wanting stuff?

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CuckooInMyNest

Original Poster:

2,976 posts

175 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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What is the answer to wanting stuff you can't have?

I really, really want a motorbike, and have done for some time, but it is never going to happen for various reasons.

(was an avid biker in an earlier life)

How do you get past the want? Just wait until the feeling goes away or find a way against all the odds?

Can't seem to shake it off.

First world problems *sigh*


TREMAiNE

3,904 posts

148 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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Errrrm.... Get one?

CuckooInMyNest

Original Poster:

2,976 posts

175 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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TREMAiNE said:
Errrrm.... Get one?
fk it, you're right, even a rusty Chinese 125 is better than no bike.

  • clicks on eBay*

AudiSport

1,458 posts

215 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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For me, the 'wanting' is often better than the 'having'. I'm so excited about something, researching it, tracking it down etc etc - then minutes, hours, days afterwards im thinking about the 'next' thing I need/want.

Actually understand the above has really helped me adjust my wanting 'stuff' and helped my focus on striving for more time and experiences than black shinny things. All very easily said mind. I still really want an RS6!

Besides, it's good to be driven...

Axionknight

8,505 posts

134 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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CuckooInMyNest said:
fk it, you're right, even a rusty Chinese 125 is better than no bike.

  • clicks on eBay*
DO IT, DOOOOO IT

MikeGTi

2,497 posts

200 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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Do it. You will not regret this.

CuckooInMyNest

Original Poster:

2,976 posts

175 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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AudiSport said:
For me, the 'wanting' is often better than the 'having'.
So true, why is this? Perhaps it is what caused Humans to spread across the world and continually strive for better weapons/tools etc.

Bit deep, I only wanted a Honda 125 smile


TREMAiNE

3,904 posts

148 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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AudiSport said:
For me, the 'wanting' is often better than the 'having'. I'm so excited about something, researching it, tracking it down etc etc - then minutes, hours, days afterwards im thinking about the 'next' thing I need/want.
Wanting is better than having, yes... But you still need to get the thing you want so you can progress to the next thing...

It gives you something to constantly drive you to work for as opposed to being content with wanting but not having.

StuntmanMike

11,671 posts

150 months

Friday 17th April 2015
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OP, if you want it, be sensible.
If you lust after it, get it.
you do only live once, a wky cliche, but true.

CountZero23

1,288 posts

177 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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StuntmanMike said:
OP, if you want it, be sensible.
If you lust after it, get it.
you do only live once, a wky cliche, but true.
+1

Interest free credit card and a nice cherry red Aprila, worry about it in two years wink

GavinPearson

5,715 posts

250 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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Buy on eBay / Craig's list / whatever and do so at a price you can afford.

RDMcG

19,093 posts

206 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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There is wanting and there is dreaming...

..and there is self-limiting When you say "never going to happen", then you have the answer already. You have limited yourself. If you think about how to make it happen then you can come up with a plan to get there.

Obviously if wanting includes (say) a Bugatti Veyron, then you need to have a shot at being staggeringly rich, and if you are not there already, its tough to do, so I think of that as dreaming, like having a plan to win the lottery.

If wanting is ( say) a Focus RS for example, then its a desirable but attainable object. I would never suggest you stop wanting because at that stage you have really given up. Just plan to get it.

Steve H

5,224 posts

194 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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CuckooInMyNest said:
I really, really want a motorbike, and have done for some time, but it is never going to happen for various reasons.
How good are the reasons?

If it's money then buy a cheaper bike, save harder, compromise on something else etc.

If it's because you think you've used your nine lives up already and want to live a bit longer then remember that you've done it and enjoyed it then move on to the next thing.

Steve H (ex-biker and staying that way!)

xRIEx

8,180 posts

147 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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Buddhism.

StuntmanMike

11,671 posts

150 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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CuckooInMyNest said:
AudiSport said:
For me, the 'wanting' is often better than the 'having'.
So true, why is this? Perhaps it is what caused Humans to spread across the world and continually strive for better weapons/tools etc.

Bit deep, I only wanted a Honda 125 smile
rofl
Does a 125 alone in the woods make any noise....or something. ..wobble

Pit Pony

8,265 posts

120 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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I am very clear about what I need and what I want.

Take the humble car.

I NEED something that will get me around the country, will seat 5, and be reliable or easy to repair. A mk4 astra costing £600 would do this.

What I WANT is something faster, more comfortable, more "aspirational"

I justified the WANT via Man Maths.


GuinnessMK

1,608 posts

221 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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Don't forget that there is a new branch of Man Maths, called Futures, where you can happily justify buying a classic bike / car / boat / plane* now as they aren't making any more of them, they are likely to go up in value and they are a usable classic.

  • Delete as applicable.

Jasandjules

69,825 posts

228 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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If you can afford it, then get it. Why spend life upset? It is to be enjoyed.

FussyFez

972 posts

175 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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Life's too short, and, as far as we are currently aware, you do only live once, so crack on and enjoy it.


ReaderScars

6,087 posts

175 months

Saturday 18th April 2015
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Well, maybe there's an alternative to buying/running a new bike...

1) Find someone with a bike
2) Do a deal with them to let you ride it occasionally to get back in the saddle/back up to speed
3) Then treat yourself once in a while to the odd bike track day, riding the organiser's bike/s