Anyone else's 12 year old lad having major tantrums
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Hi Croyde. I read this to my wife just now who is a Nurse and Health Visitor with a degree in child development. She said to refer you to the following website and specifically the section on how the brain develops and brain changes in adolescence.
It's fairly medicalised but it could go some way to explaining some of his behaviour. Go easy on the big fella and make sure the bullying is handled as well as it can be by the school. Hopefully it's a development phase that he'll get through.
https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploa...
It's fairly medicalised but it could go some way to explaining some of his behaviour. Go easy on the big fella and make sure the bullying is handled as well as it can be by the school. Hopefully it's a development phase that he'll get through.
https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploa...
Reminds me a lot of me in early secondary school - i flipped out at home constantly because i couldn't deal with the various pressures. Massive, massive rages that were so against my nature as a smaller child. I'd be careful exploring things like ADHD and Aspergers because my parents did that and it utterly destroyed me and put me in a deeper hole.
I don't really have any advice for you because it sounds like you're doing everything right. I settled in the end, by myself really. Just make sure he keeps attending school.
I don't really have any advice for you because it sounds like you're doing everything right. I settled in the end, by myself really. Just make sure he keeps attending school.
We've got a 12 year old son in Year 7 (first year of secondary school). He is the model pupil, top set, top marks, polite etc at school.
Once he's home he gets a bit 'hormonal', mainly grumpy, stroppy and thinks we're all against him! He knows he's like it, and always apologises afterwards.
Speaking with friends who have 13/14 year olds, they had similiar issues that lasted until this first year of secondary school had finished.
We put it down to the change between mixing with children 5-11 at primary school, and now 11-17 at secondary. And most of all, he now has an opinion....on everything!
Once he's home he gets a bit 'hormonal', mainly grumpy, stroppy and thinks we're all against him! He knows he's like it, and always apologises afterwards.
Speaking with friends who have 13/14 year olds, they had similiar issues that lasted until this first year of secondary school had finished.
We put it down to the change between mixing with children 5-11 at primary school, and now 11-17 at secondary. And most of all, he now has an opinion....on everything!
Does the school have mentors? I know of a case which sounded like yours and mentoring at school turned the guy round into one of the nicest kids in school. Apparently from having no sport interest he tried rugby, and due to him being built like a brick s
thouse, he has found a situation where he can win or lose with mates and hold his own.
Not much help but back in 1981 when I was 11 my Dad was working away a lot and I was sent to a horrible school where there were bullies. I got in a huge rage one weekend when my Dad had come home. I remember thawing a bike lock round and nearly hitting my Dad with it. Christ did I get a bking! My old man was a tough old school bloke (Imagine someone looking and sounding a bit like Jack Regan off the Sweeney) He didn't use violence apart from grabbing me by the jumper and pushing me against a wall. We then had a one way conversation which left me in no dout as to where I stood.
There then followed a cuddle, a few tears from me and we talked it out. Sadly we had no mentors at school.
Maybe a 21st century combination of the above. A straightener so he knows the score re - behaviour. A chat where he knows and is told he loved and will be helped, and some sort of in-school mentoring.
thouse, he has found a situation where he can win or lose with mates and hold his own.Not much help but back in 1981 when I was 11 my Dad was working away a lot and I was sent to a horrible school where there were bullies. I got in a huge rage one weekend when my Dad had come home. I remember thawing a bike lock round and nearly hitting my Dad with it. Christ did I get a b
king! My old man was a tough old school bloke (Imagine someone looking and sounding a bit like Jack Regan off the Sweeney) He didn't use violence apart from grabbing me by the jumper and pushing me against a wall. We then had a one way conversation which left me in no dout as to where I stood. There then followed a cuddle, a few tears from me and we talked it out. Sadly we had no mentors at school.
Maybe a 21st century combination of the above. A straightener so he knows the score re - behaviour. A chat where he knows and is told he loved and will be helped, and some sort of in-school mentoring.
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