Seeing your ex with someone else..
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Some Gump said:
No idea why you would applaud laura. Dumping somone's posessions on their parents drive isn't "rising above it".
I don't see it as being particularly a big issue, and that's from someone who thinks you should move on and not worry what the other person will think/ hoping that they will have a bad life. She didn't go out and trash all the parts or sell them. It was just getting rid of them so she didn't have to deal with the person. To be honest if it was two van loads it was actually saving him time picking them up and so actually easier for him...stewies_minion said:
My ex just picked up my youngest son to take him swimming with her new fella in the car.
Poor
sat there staring forward looking like he didn't want to be there. Don't blame him.
It all gets progressively easier fella. Certainly at the point now where I pity the poor chap. His choice - fill your boots.
That's exactly why when I was divorced at 32 I had no interest in them if they had kids, plenty of 25-30 year old women with no kids so why put yourself through all that having an ex turn up every weekend Poor
sat there staring forward looking like he didn't want to be there. Don't blame him.It all gets progressively easier fella. Certainly at the point now where I pity the poor chap. His choice - fill your boots.
Admittedly as you get older it's less of an option
Some Gump said:
No idea why you would applaud laura. Dumping someone's possessions on their parents drive isn't "rising above it".
What's the issue? She's hurt and probably doesn't want to see him ever again.One female told me, her ex dumped all her make up and nail varnishes etc into a bath...then cut up all her designer clothing, lingerie and footwear, ruining it all. True story.
It smarts short term but look at it long term. I ran into my ex's current bloke the other day. He's put on weight, sold his car, still isn't allowed a motorbike and never goes out with the lads anymore.
I on the other hand have a fleet (inc motorbike), go out as often as the money allows and my currently lady is an upgrade is every aspect.
Keep your chin up bud
I on the other hand have a fleet (inc motorbike), go out as often as the money allows and my currently lady is an upgrade is every aspect.
Keep your chin up bud
soad said:
What's the issue? She's hurt and probably doesn't want to see him ever again.
One female told me, her ex dumped all her make up and nail varnishes etc into a bath...then cut up all her designer clothing, lingerie and footwear, ruining it all. True story.
So was I too soft by neatly bagging up her clothes and immediate effects (and then carefully removing the larger and more incidental items into storage ready for collection after the house was sold) when the cheating woman moved out after being together for thirteen years? Should I have had a bonfire instead? What about buying one of her cars from her and passing on extra funds from the resultant sale? Was I being a decent person or a doormat?One female told me, her ex dumped all her make up and nail varnishes etc into a bath...then cut up all her designer clothing, lingerie and footwear, ruining it all. True story.
/General rhetorical questions rather than being aimed at you, chap/
In my 20's I split with a long term gf and we remained friends. I'd moved on and had no issues; it was an amicable split - it just faded out into a boring relationship.
Her new chap had real issues and tried in vein to stop any friendship - he even rang me up one time and threatened me. I just laughed at him and told him to just relax and not be jealous. I tried to assure him there was no feeling left and it was just a friendship based more on respect. It made him worse.
He came around to my house a few weeks later with his chest out. Not trying to sound the hard man, but I was pretty tasty back then and knew I would 'have him' so decided to try and calm him down.
He ended up coming in and as things simmered we had a chat and a cuppa and he started crying! Spilled his guts about his jealousy.
I couldn't really help him no matter what I said. She ended up dumping him after a year or so as he was such hard work.
Strange guy
Her new chap had real issues and tried in vein to stop any friendship - he even rang me up one time and threatened me. I just laughed at him and told him to just relax and not be jealous. I tried to assure him there was no feeling left and it was just a friendship based more on respect. It made him worse.
He came around to my house a few weeks later with his chest out. Not trying to sound the hard man, but I was pretty tasty back then and knew I would 'have him' so decided to try and calm him down.
He ended up coming in and as things simmered we had a chat and a cuppa and he started crying! Spilled his guts about his jealousy.
I couldn't really help him no matter what I said. She ended up dumping him after a year or so as he was such hard work.
Strange guy
Some Gump said:
No idea why you would applaud laura. Dumping somone's posessions on their parents drive isn't "rising above it".
I could have sold them or given them to the scrappers, I put them on his driveway in a corner covered by a sheet, a minor bit of inconvenience compared to what he did to me, i actually think this was a bit too nice, i made it easy for him, but I didn't want it on his terms and I didn't want him coming round to my house to get them back.Lora-x said:
Some Gump said:
No idea why you would applaud laura. Dumping somone's posessions on their parents drive isn't "rising above it".
I could have sold them or given them to the scrappers, I put them on his driveway in a corner covered by a sheet, a minor bit of inconvenience compared to what he did to me, i actually think this was a bit too nice, i made it easy for him, but I didn't want it on his terms and I didn't want him coming round to my house to get them back.t" 
Gotta love PH - just think of those poor car-parts! el stovey said:
Smile look at her belly and say. "Oh, are you pregnant? Congratulations!"
"Oh you're not, how embarrassing, sorry etc."
Asking people if they're pregnant never really goes well, that or if their jean have shrunk.
Anything along those lines just makes you look sad and vindictive. Either be polite and pleasant or just ignore them completely."Oh you're not, how embarrassing, sorry etc."
Asking people if they're pregnant never really goes well, that or if their jean have shrunk.
I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
Davey S2 said:
Anything along those lines just makes you look sad and vindictive. Either be polite and pleasant or just ignore them completely.
I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
Genuine question, but do you think your last sentence has any bearing upon the penultimate one? Even if only a small one...I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
See a few of my ex's from time to time. Sometimes on their own, sometimes with their new bloke(s).
We have all moved on long ago.
Okay so seeing an ex with a new fella in tow a week after you just broke up must be a bit hard (I have not had this issue) but after a month or two and the World is back in motion then why should you care that much? Ex's are Ex's for a reason. Sometimes that reason is a bit piss poor when reflecting or not something that you think is a reason but you are were you are and getting prissy because someone is moving on with their life faster than you is a bit childish.
I do understand though that children can change this a fair bit, especially if you are concerned that the new bloke in tow is not thinking and taking into account the impact of their relationship with the child's mother on the child.
We have all moved on long ago.
Okay so seeing an ex with a new fella in tow a week after you just broke up must be a bit hard (I have not had this issue) but after a month or two and the World is back in motion then why should you care that much? Ex's are Ex's for a reason. Sometimes that reason is a bit piss poor when reflecting or not something that you think is a reason but you are were you are and getting prissy because someone is moving on with their life faster than you is a bit childish.
I do understand though that children can change this a fair bit, especially if you are concerned that the new bloke in tow is not thinking and taking into account the impact of their relationship with the child's mother on the child.
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