Seeing your ex with someone else..
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I never talked to exes - so it only ever happened once. At the wedding of the mutual friends who introduced us - she was a bridesmaid, I was an usher - unavoidable.
I pointed out how much weight she had put on (it was true), and that was about all that was said. It didn't stop her new man rushing over, clearly insecure
I pointed out how much weight she had put on (it was true), and that was about all that was said. It didn't stop her new man rushing over, clearly insecure
Shnozz said:
Davey S2 said:
Anything along those lines just makes you look sad and vindictive. Either be polite and pleasant or just ignore them completely.
I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
Genuine question, but do you think your last sentence has any bearing upon the penultimate one? Even if only a small one...I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
I suppose you have no choice. If you didn't speak to any ex conquests you'd be limited to talking to the male population of Leeds
Davey S2 said:
Shnozz said:
Davey S2 said:
Anything along those lines just makes you look sad and vindictive. Either be polite and pleasant or just ignore them completely.
I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
Genuine question, but do you think your last sentence has any bearing upon the penultimate one? Even if only a small one...I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
I suppose you have no choice. If you didn't speak to any ex conquests you'd be limited to talking to the male population of Leeds
I do know how messy it was, and can totally understand why you'd ignore her, but I was more inquisitive as to whether the fact it really wouldn't bother you to see her was partly influenced on how you've gone on to meet the existing beau and live happily ever after? If you were still having pot noodle for tea and using that special sock I wonder whether it might still smart somewhat, even if its a smarting of disdain...
Shnozz said:
Davey S2 said:
Shnozz said:
Davey S2 said:
Anything along those lines just makes you look sad and vindictive. Either be polite and pleasant or just ignore them completely.
I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
Genuine question, but do you think your last sentence has any bearing upon the penultimate one? Even if only a small one...I physically removed an ex from my house and was toying with the idea of chucking all of her cr@p out but left it all in my garage and then sent her a text saying she had 2 days to get it or it was all going to the tip.
Not seen her since but would ignore her if I did. It really wouldn't bother me, I'm happily married with a fantastic daughter.
I suppose you have no choice. If you didn't speak to any ex conquests you'd be limited to talking to the male population of Leeds
I do know how messy it was, and can totally understand why you'd ignore her, but I was more inquisitive as to whether the fact it really wouldn't bother you to see her was partly influenced on how you've gone on to meet the existing beau and live happily ever after? If you were still having pot noodle for tea and using that special sock I wonder whether it might still smart somewhat, even if its a smarting of disdain...
Things like that hurt at the time but now my only feeling of that episode in my life is relief. It could have been really horrendous had we been married or kids involved.
Interesting, ta mate. Wasn't disputing your answer, more simply intrigued. I agree you dodged a bullet with the ex, but from afar that becomes even easier to see when you see the life before you now and with the right partner. Mind you, even single and in a bedsit with a box of cereal for dinner I think you'd still have been better off.
NRS said:
Some Gump said:
No idea why you would applaud laura. Dumping somone's posessions on their parents drive isn't "rising above it".
I don't see it as being particularly a big issue, and that's from someone who thinks you should move on and not worry what the other person will think/ hoping that they will have a bad life. She didn't go out and trash all the parts or sell them. It was just getting rid of them so she didn't have to deal with the person. To be honest if it was two van loads it was actually saving him time picking them up and so actually easier for him...KrazyIvan said:
Lora-x said:
Some Gump said:
No idea why you would applaud laura. Dumping somone's posessions on their parents drive isn't "rising above it".
I could have sold them or given them to the scrappers, I put them on his driveway in a corner covered by a sheet, a minor bit of inconvenience compared to what he did to me, i actually think this was a bit too nice, i made it easy for him, but I didn't want it on his terms and I didn't want him coming round to my house to get them back.
t" One of my exes left me for my best friend. It's a cliché but I do miss him.
They married. I didn't see them but had word about them from time to time. Eventually she left him too. I'd like to reconnect with my friend one day. I'm hoping one of our mutual friends gets married so we can all go to the stag session together.
They married. I didn't see them but had word about them from time to time. Eventually she left him too. I'd like to reconnect with my friend one day. I'm hoping one of our mutual friends gets married so we can all go to the stag session together.
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