Is 15 years difference going to be a problem?
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LosingGrip said:
Not as big a gap as some on here, but my girlfriend is 19 and I'm 28. I was a little worried about it when we first met (online), but we get on fantastically. We have the same interests, but also separate ones which helps. She knows a lot about cars as well which is a bonus! But doesn't like driving which suits me as I love driving and don't like being a passenger!
I did feel very old when she said she hasn't watched Father Ted before...Googled it and it stopped before she was born...
I think it helps I'm rather childish at times...
In the real world, 9 years is nothing!I did feel very old when she said she hasn't watched Father Ted before...Googled it and it stopped before she was born...
I think it helps I'm rather childish at times...
Ultra Sound Guy said:
LosingGrip said:
Not as big a gap as some on here, but my girlfriend is 19 and I'm 28. I was a little worried about it when we first met (online), but we get on fantastically. We have the same interests, but also separate ones which helps. She knows a lot about cars as well which is a bonus! But doesn't like driving which suits me as I love driving and don't like being a passenger!
I did feel very old when she said she hasn't watched Father Ted before...Googled it and it stopped before she was born...
I think it helps I'm rather childish at times...
In the real world, 9 years is nothing!I did feel very old when she said she hasn't watched Father Ted before...Googled it and it stopped before she was born...
I think it helps I'm rather childish at times...
AlmostUseful said:
Ultra Sound Guy said:
LosingGrip said:
Not as big a gap as some on here, but my girlfriend is 19 and I'm 28. I was a little worried about it when we first met (online), but we get on fantastically. We have the same interests, but also separate ones which helps. She knows a lot about cars as well which is a bonus! But doesn't like driving which suits me as I love driving and don't like being a passenger!
I did feel very old when she said she hasn't watched Father Ted before...Googled it and it stopped before she was born...
I think it helps I'm rather childish at times...
In the real world, 9 years is nothing!I did feel very old when she said she hasn't watched Father Ted before...Googled it and it stopped before she was born...
I think it helps I'm rather childish at times...
MissChief said:
I'm 40, Lady at work is 25. (I was going to right 'girl at work'?!)
15 years isn't a big deal right? Half your age+7 is also crap. Isn't it?
Not sure I want to do the whole 'small boy' thing again though. My youngest is 13, she has a five year old. Anyway, I doubt it would be something mega serious. And I'm rambling. 15 years difference is doable, right?
My brother in law married my wifes sister when she was 16, he was 40. They had a lovely marriage, have two beautiful daughters, they lived happily until his passing last year.15 years isn't a big deal right? Half your age+7 is also crap. Isn't it?
Not sure I want to do the whole 'small boy' thing again though. My youngest is 13, she has a five year old. Anyway, I doubt it would be something mega serious. And I'm rambling. 15 years difference is doable, right?
Age makes no difference at all, it depends on the person.
Vipers said:
My brother in law married my wifes sister when she was 16, he was 40. They had a lovely marriage, have two beautiful daughters, they lived happily until his passing last year.
Age makes no difference at all, it depends on the person.
Yeaaa a crime was definitely committed prior to that marriage. 39 and chasing a 15 year old? Completely normal officer... Age makes no difference at all, it depends on the person.
DanielSan said:
Vipers said:
My brother in law married my wifes sister when she was 16, he was 40. They had a lovely marriage, have two beautiful daughters, they lived happily until his passing last year.
Age makes no difference at all, it depends on the person.
Yeaaa a crime was definitely committed prior to that marriage. 39 and chasing a 15 year old? Completely normal officer... Age makes no difference at all, it depends on the person.
I think grooming springs to mind. Even if she was in her midish to late teens she wasn't mature enough and was cohered. I find that grim.
7 years difference between me and Mrs 2CV, and I often reference things she doesn't know about because of even that relatively short age difference. Once you get into the realms of being a different generation i really don't understand how it could be made to work as you'd have relatively little overlapping experience, cultural references and so on. The amazing sounding dream of smashing a young (legal) girl would I am absolutely positive give way to a crap nightmare of a relationship. Imagine hanging out with her and her mates in the sort of bar people 15 years younger than you go to...
Don't know whether this has been mentioned already but another point to consider, if you stay together long enough, is retirement. It's all very well retiring at 67 or whatever the age changes to by then, but if your wife/partner needs to earn and/or build up their pension, you're not going to get to share your retirement together (well at least not the first 15 years!). MrsC is double-digits younger than me, and despite me paying into a pension all of my working life, the parlous state of pensions in general put this thought into my head recently.
CAPP0 said:
Don't know whether this has been mentioned already but another point to consider, if you stay together long enough, is retirement. It's all very well retiring at 67 or whatever the age changes to by then, but if your wife/partner needs to earn and/or build up their pension, you're not going to get to share your retirement together (well at least not the first 15 years!). MrsC is double-digits younger than me, and despite me paying into a pension all of my working life, the parlous state of pensions in general put this thought into my head recently.
i doubt that's going to feature high in the list of priorities of the thirsty divorcee guy dribbling at the thought of smashing a twenty something blonde from workAri said:
Indeed. I wonder how many 39 year old men get together with 15 year old girls only for them to live happily ever after?
I rather suspect it's the exception, rather than the rule...
It happens. My mum was 15 when she met my dad who was 25. They 'courted', and knowing my dad I am 100% certain that nothing inappropriate went off. They married when she was 18, and 44 years on they have 3 children, 2 further adopted, and have fostered over 50 children in their time. Pretty close to happily ever after IMO. I rather suspect it's the exception, rather than the rule...
duffy78 said:
Blown2CV said:
i doubt that's going to feature high in the list of priorities of the thirsty divorcee guy dribbling at the thought of smashing a twenty something blonde from work
Do i know you?Blown2CV said:
CAPP0 said:
Don't know whether this has been mentioned already but another point to consider, if you stay together long enough, is retirement. It's all very well retiring at 67 or whatever the age changes to by then, but if your wife/partner needs to earn and/or build up their pension, you're not going to get to share your retirement together (well at least not the first 15 years!). MrsC is double-digits younger than me, and despite me paying into a pension all of my working life, the parlous state of pensions in general put this thought into my head recently.
i doubt that's going to feature high in the list of priorities of the thirsty divorcee guy dribbling at the thought of smashing a twenty something blonde from workDaveGoddard said:
alock said:
MissChief said:
My youngest is 13, she has a five year old.
I scanned your post and read that sentence in isolation. After that confusion your real problem seems insignificant. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff