Is 15 years difference going to be a problem?
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LordGrover said:
Enjoy.
If it does begin to look like it's getting 'serious', make sure she has space to do the things a twenty-something likes to do, which may not include you. Same for you - I doubt she'll be too keen on kicking tyres and talking BHP vs Torque.
I lasted just over a year with a 20 year age gap. We both had fun but it was never going to last.
Not all 20 something's want to party and drink shots most days. Even young men. If it does begin to look like it's getting 'serious', make sure she has space to do the things a twenty-something likes to do, which may not include you. Same for you - I doubt she'll be too keen on kicking tyres and talking BHP vs Torque.
I lasted just over a year with a 20 year age gap. We both had fun but it was never going to last.
I doubt that has anything to do with age just different sexes. I don't know many 30 or 40+ females who like to talk about BHP or torque!
Maybe you just could'nt satisfy her?
Mine is 10 Years younger and her best friend has recently just ended a 2 year relationship with a guy 14 years older because they both just grew apart as they were into different things, she was 21 him 35. I'm 31 and mine 21, but we have a lot in common, share similar interests and she's willing to take interest in the stuff we don't have a common interest in and vice versa, works for some not for others but one thing I will say is don't worry about what people think, if you do that it's doomed from the start.
It's less to do with actual age and more to do with mental age!
For the right people it can work as long as the age gap is incidental and there isn't an underlying reason for either party picking someone of a different age group.
When I was 40 I was chatted up by the 18 year old daughter of a (now ex) friend of mine. Having left my wife a year earlier I was obviously very flattered and we hitched up and she moved in with me for about a year. She was very mature for her age and quite homely (And a contortionist and animal in bed, but I digress!). She left after pressure from her (large) family who were Jehova's witnesses and were really against our relationship!
Almost straight after this I hitched up with a gorgeous 21 year old who had just returned from 3 years in Key West. She was stunning, absolutely crazy about me and knocked me off my feet. To cut a long story short, she was also bipolar, addicted to coke and loved the booze too much. After a couple of very 'up and down' years I, together with here family, got her sectioned!
Anyway, the point I'm try to make (badly) here is that both these girls had a very bad homelife/upbringing and were looking for a father-figure! This was not so flattering!! In fact when this truth actually dawned on me and I actually thought what was running through their minds when we were 'at-it', that thought put me off sex for years!!
So, if she wants you for yourself, as a boyfriend, a lover or even a husband, then go for it! If she wants a father substitute, run for the hills!!
For the right people it can work as long as the age gap is incidental and there isn't an underlying reason for either party picking someone of a different age group.
When I was 40 I was chatted up by the 18 year old daughter of a (now ex) friend of mine. Having left my wife a year earlier I was obviously very flattered and we hitched up and she moved in with me for about a year. She was very mature for her age and quite homely (And a contortionist and animal in bed, but I digress!). She left after pressure from her (large) family who were Jehova's witnesses and were really against our relationship!
Almost straight after this I hitched up with a gorgeous 21 year old who had just returned from 3 years in Key West. She was stunning, absolutely crazy about me and knocked me off my feet. To cut a long story short, she was also bipolar, addicted to coke and loved the booze too much. After a couple of very 'up and down' years I, together with here family, got her sectioned!
Anyway, the point I'm try to make (badly) here is that both these girls had a very bad homelife/upbringing and were looking for a father-figure! This was not so flattering!! In fact when this truth actually dawned on me and I actually thought what was running through their minds when we were 'at-it', that thought put me off sex for years!!
So, if she wants you for yourself, as a boyfriend, a lover or even a husband, then go for it! If she wants a father substitute, run for the hills!!
ewenm said:
Hoofy said:
For me there's the issue of interest. Does she want to go out every weekend until 7am like most 25 year olds do? (Or was that just our crowd?)
With a five-year-old kid? More likely she'll just want to sleep all weekend!
k off out all night with her friends.Hoofy said:
ewenm said:
Hoofy said:
For me there's the issue of interest. Does she want to go out every weekend until 7am like most 25 year olds do? (Or was that just our crowd?)
With a five-year-old kid? More likely she'll just want to sleep all weekend!k off out all night with her friends.ewenm said:
Hoofy said:
ewenm said:
Hoofy said:
For me there's the issue of interest. Does she want to go out every weekend until 7am like most 25 year olds do? (Or was that just our crowd?)
With a five-year-old kid? More likely she'll just want to sleep all weekend!k off out all night with her friends.Hoofy said:
ewenm said:
Hoofy said:
ewenm said:
Hoofy said:
For me there's the issue of interest. Does she want to go out every weekend until 7am like most 25 year olds do? (Or was that just our crowd?)
With a five-year-old kid? More likely she'll just want to sleep all weekend!k off out all night with her friends.MissChief said:
I'm 40, Lady at work is 25. (I was going to right 'girl at work'?!)
15 years isn't a big deal right? Half your age+7 is also crap. Isn't it?
Not sure I want to do the whole 'small boy' thing again though. My youngest is 13, she has a five year old. Anyway, I doubt it would be something mega serious. And I'm rambling. 15 years difference is doable, right?
As someone with a 7 year gap in the other direction, f15 years isn't a big deal right? Half your age+7 is also crap. Isn't it?
Not sure I want to do the whole 'small boy' thing again though. My youngest is 13, she has a five year old. Anyway, I doubt it would be something mega serious. And I'm rambling. 15 years difference is doable, right?
k you and your "I can pull a bird 15 years junior" thread!Joking aside, don't worry about it, as the Russian adage goes "All ages bow do love"
xRIEx said:
9mm said:
Older you both get, the more it matters. 40/25 - so what (as long as one of you doesn't look old or you will be a bit of a laughing stock behind your back). But 50/65 and 65/80 can present far more problems.
Why?
xRIEx said:
9mm said:
Older you both get, the more it matters. 40/25 - so what (as long as one of you doesn't look old or you will be a bit of a laughing stock behind your back). But 50/65 and 65/80 can present far more problems.
Why?xRIEx said:
9mm said:
Older you both get, the more it matters. 40/25 - so what (as long as one of you doesn't look old or you will be a bit of a laughing stock behind your back). But 50/65 and 65/80 can present far more problems.
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