Is 15 years difference going to be a problem?
Discussion
ewenm said:
xRIEx said:
9mm said:
Older you both get, the more it matters. 40/25 - so what (as long as one of you doesn't look old or you will be a bit of a laughing stock behind your back). But 50/65 and 65/80 can present far more problems.
Why?
When I was 18 I was knocking off a single woman who was 45.
I was head over heels, smitten, my cock was totally in charge of my brain.
My elder friend, put a crowbar between the two of us and she walked.
Reading this thread reminded me of this, I am 53 now fairly active,still in work,she would be at best BE at home,80 years old,at the time it seemed fantastic, looking back at 53 I look at it a little differently..
I was head over heels, smitten, my cock was totally in charge of my brain.
My elder friend, put a crowbar between the two of us and she walked.
Reading this thread reminded me of this, I am 53 now fairly active,still in work,she would be at best BE at home,80 years old,at the time it seemed fantastic, looking back at 53 I look at it a little differently..
Timmy40 said:
j4ckos mate said:
Could have problems when she wants kids, and you inevitably wont, because your abit older and want abit for freedom.
She might not want them now but as soon as her mates start knocking them out it wll be a different story
She might not want them now but as soon as her mates start knocking them out it wll be a different story
very true. iambeowulf said:
It all worked out ok for Bill Wyman and Roman Polanski.
Didn't Bill Wyman's mother in law end up also being his daughter in law, so his son's stepdaughter was also his stepmother and his wife was also his step grandmother? Surely that must have caused a problem somewhere. Dr Jekyll said:
iambeowulf said:
It all worked out ok for Bill Wyman and Roman Polanski.
Didn't Bill Wyman's mother in law end up also being his daughter in law, so his son's stepdaughter was also his stepmother and his wife was also his step grandmother? Surely that must have caused a problem somewhere. I'm 39, my GF is 24. I don't notice any age gap because we are very similar in the way we act (which I think is the biggest determination on whether people get on or not)
The only times I notice is when we go out with her friends and sometimes it feels like I'm going out with a group of students! Oh and sometimes I talk about "amazing" TV from when I was younger which she would probably consider really crap!
The only times I notice is when we go out with her friends and sometimes it feels like I'm going out with a group of students! Oh and sometimes I talk about "amazing" TV from when I was younger which she would probably consider really crap!
Jagmanv12 said:
The half your age + 7 "rule" is nonsense. If you look on the dating sites how many 32 year old women are looking for 50 year old men or 37 year old women for 60 year old men? Only likely if you have the potential to be a sugar daddy. 
I can't agree with that at all.Lots of relationships have an age gap around that and many actively seek it.
It's only an issue if you make it an issue.
To my mind there is no such thing as a generation gap or even people of a different generation.
People are't born at 20 or 25 year age gaps and nor do people of one age necessarily like something older or younger people dislike.
At 80, yes, you are old.
At 50 your attitude and other factors in your control will determine the age range you move among I think, in fact, I know.
Thankyou4calling said:
Jagmanv12 said:
The half your age + 7 "rule" is nonsense. If you look on the dating sites how many 32 year old women are looking for 50 year old men or 37 year old women for 60 year old men? Only likely if you have the potential to be a sugar daddy.
I can't agree with that at all.Lots of relationships have an age gap around that and many actively seek it.
It's only an issue if you make it an issue.
To my mind there is no such thing as a generation gap or even people of a different generation.
People are't born at 20 or 25 year age gaps and nor do people of one age necessarily like something older or younger people dislike.
At 80, yes, you are old.
At 50 your attitude and other factors in your control will determine the age range you move among I think, in fact, I know.
Old thread, I know, but some random thoughts from recent personal experience.
I've been single for about 18 months after a relationship of 17+ years. What has amazed me are the number of really young women who are more than happy to date much older blokes. I'm mid 40's and have been out with women aged in their early 20's on several occasions. I've actually put off 18/19 year old's as it just feels too weird - although, admittedly, I may be seeing a girl who's 19 over the weekend.
These aren't the frumpy, nervous wall-flower types who can't get boyfriends either. All of them have been amazingly pretty and the girl I'm currently seeing (who's 22 and who's father is younger than me!) is literally stunning. I mean, absolutely, drop-dead gorgeous. These are women who could snap their fingers and have blokes their own age begging to go out with them but they seem to prefer older guys. I'm no Johnny Depp or Daniel Craig, either, nor am I loaded (although I live comfortably due to a tiny mortgage and no other debt and nothing more) so it isn't chiselled good looks or wealth they're primarily after.
If someone told me a couple of years ago that there were so many incredibly good looking young women out there looking for guys like me I'd have told them to see a doctor as they were clearly labouring under some delusion!
Whether it would work long-term I'm not sure, although there seems to be plenty of anecdotal evidence out there (and on this very thread) to suggest that it could. My ex was 9 years younger than me (met when she was 18 and she's also very pretty) and we did last a long time.
I've been single for about 18 months after a relationship of 17+ years. What has amazed me are the number of really young women who are more than happy to date much older blokes. I'm mid 40's and have been out with women aged in their early 20's on several occasions. I've actually put off 18/19 year old's as it just feels too weird - although, admittedly, I may be seeing a girl who's 19 over the weekend.
These aren't the frumpy, nervous wall-flower types who can't get boyfriends either. All of them have been amazingly pretty and the girl I'm currently seeing (who's 22 and who's father is younger than me!) is literally stunning. I mean, absolutely, drop-dead gorgeous. These are women who could snap their fingers and have blokes their own age begging to go out with them but they seem to prefer older guys. I'm no Johnny Depp or Daniel Craig, either, nor am I loaded (although I live comfortably due to a tiny mortgage and no other debt and nothing more) so it isn't chiselled good looks or wealth they're primarily after.
If someone told me a couple of years ago that there were so many incredibly good looking young women out there looking for guys like me I'd have told them to see a doctor as they were clearly labouring under some delusion!
Whether it would work long-term I'm not sure, although there seems to be plenty of anecdotal evidence out there (and on this very thread) to suggest that it could. My ex was 9 years younger than me (met when she was 18 and she's also very pretty) and we did last a long time.
Edited by AJL308 on Thursday 8th March 11:51
Edited by AJL308 on Thursday 8th March 11:55
A friend of mine's daughter (mid/late 20s I think, quite attractive, smart, driven) is currently marrying an older guy (I forget the actual age difference).
Her feelings on the matter was simply that all the guys she met around her own age were idiots - adult children basically.
She found the only way she could find someone that wasn't an overgrown baby was to find someone a bit older.
She might just have been unlucky I guess.
Her feelings on the matter was simply that all the guys she met around her own age were idiots - adult children basically.
She found the only way she could find someone that wasn't an overgrown baby was to find someone a bit older.
She might just have been unlucky I guess.
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