girlfriends annoying child scratched my car
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My girlfriend's daughter, who at 10 seems to have no respect for anything and is mouthy and 'keeps it real' decided to scratch my car the other day for no reason. I was inside the house with my girlfriend and she was stood by the car waiting for me to open it, I came out and she had a stone in her hand and looked sheepish, I said what are you doing, then noticed the scratch. My girlfriend went mad at her and told her she would be paying for the damage. I was fine with it and thought it would teach her a lesson. Few days later and now my girlfriend says it's only a small scratch and that it will polish out (it hasnt as ive tried). Im more annoyed at her (gf) for going back on her word. Thing's have been tense for a while and I cannot stand that child she is so ungrateful and speaks to adults like they are tw@ts. I bought her a samsung tablet for her birthday and she opened it and said 'why have you got me a black one I wanted white'!
Yeah, you can't win this one. My gf has a 16 year old who wishes I'd jut die. I amuse myself by being as annoying and embarassing as possible. That's a pretty appalling attitude at 10 though.
What is your relationship with the kid like (it sounds pretty poor)? My gf has an 8 year old who started calling me Dad after a year. At first I was a stranger though. We bonded over Moshi monsters and Star Wars. All I had to do was fake an interest in something she liked (Star Wars, Moshi Monsters rock) to open up a conversation or two and take an interest and fix her bike a couple of times. Now I'm her friend too.
What is your relationship with the kid like (it sounds pretty poor)? My gf has an 8 year old who started calling me Dad after a year. At first I was a stranger though. We bonded over Moshi monsters and Star Wars. All I had to do was fake an interest in something she liked (Star Wars, Moshi Monsters rock) to open up a conversation or two and take an interest and fix her bike a couple of times. Now I'm her friend too.
Edited by Oldandslow on Tuesday 7th July 02:45
They don't understand what the car means to you.
Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
Bebee said:
They don't understand what the car means to you.
Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
He could do this.....or then again he could just behave like an adult and accept it has happened and sort it out in an adult way.Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
Kids do stuff because they..... they aren't adults yet.
He should sort it out in a calm way with the GF, not by some sort of passive/aggressive demonstration.
wjwren said:
I bought her a samsung tablet for her birthday and she opened it and said 'why have you got me a black one I wanted white'!
Yep been there myself. Presented step daughter with a car after she passed her test - only for her to storm off in a tantrum because she wanted a clio like her friend as opposed to the fiesta we had bought her. Can you not explain to the girl that you have to pay to repair the car and you will have to take her ipad thingy to pay for it. Offer her the opportunity to repay the damage by working for you, washing car, watering garden etc some basic stuff.
Doesn't sound like she knows the value of money yet. When I was ten I lost the flexible hose that goes on the end of the bike pump. My parents said it cost £2 for a new one and that I would have to pay for it at my pocket money rate of 50p a week. I did and it hurt me not being able to buy chocolates for a month. When i realised the pump itself was £12 i took pretty good care of it after that!
Doesn't sound like she knows the value of money yet. When I was ten I lost the flexible hose that goes on the end of the bike pump. My parents said it cost £2 for a new one and that I would have to pay for it at my pocket money rate of 50p a week. I did and it hurt me not being able to buy chocolates for a month. When i realised the pump itself was £12 i took pretty good care of it after that!
I would be careful. Accidents happen as does not being grateful about presents but wilful I guess premeditated damage to your property is something again. That means that she wants to either get attention from you or her Mother.
The reason I say be careful is that isn't too far away from "he hit me" or worse "touched me". So by all means have an adult conversation with her and I hope it'll be fine but keep your eyes open for any more deliberate acts of attention that involve you.
The reason I say be careful is that isn't too far away from "he hit me" or worse "touched me". So by all means have an adult conversation with her and I hope it'll be fine but keep your eyes open for any more deliberate acts of attention that involve you.
jdw100 said:
Bebee said:
They don't understand what the car means to you.
Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
He could do this.....or then again he could just behave like an adult and accept it has happened and sort it out in an adult way.Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
Kids do stuff because they..... they aren't adults yet.
He should sort it out in a calm way with the GF, not by some sort of passive/aggressive demonstration.
Can you tell me (since you're seemingly an expert on this subject) where in my post is it a passive/aggressive demonstration?
Did you read the OP post? he's mad at the GF for going back on her word.
'behave like an adult and accept it has happened and sort it out in an adult way'
Can you expand on how he should do this?
The likely hood of his car getting marked again is high IMO, especially if he buys the kid the wrong colour gift.
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