girlfriends annoying child scratched my car

girlfriends annoying child scratched my car

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wjwren

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4,484 posts

134 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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My girlfriend's daughter, who at 10 seems to have no respect for anything and is mouthy and 'keeps it real' decided to scratch my car the other day for no reason. I was inside the house with my girlfriend and she was stood by the car waiting for me to open it, I came out and she had a stone in her hand and looked sheepish, I said what are you doing, then noticed the scratch. My girlfriend went mad at her and told her she would be paying for the damage. I was fine with it and thought it would teach her a lesson. Few days later and now my girlfriend says it's only a small scratch and that it will polish out (it hasnt as ive tried). Im more annoyed at her (gf) for going back on her word. Thing's have been tense for a while and I cannot stand that child she is so ungrateful and speaks to adults like they are tw@ts. I bought her a samsung tablet for her birthday and she opened it and said 'why have you got me a black one I wanted white'!

Oldandslow

2,405 posts

205 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Yeah, you can't win this one. My gf has a 16 year old who wishes I'd jut die. I amuse myself by being as annoying and embarassing as possible. That's a pretty appalling attitude at 10 though.

What is your relationship with the kid like (it sounds pretty poor)? My gf has an 8 year old who started calling me Dad after a year. At first I was a stranger though. We bonded over Moshi monsters and Star Wars. All I had to do was fake an interest in something she liked (Star Wars, Moshi Monsters rock) to open up a conversation or two and take an interest and fix her bike a couple of times. Now I'm her friend too.

Edited by Oldandslow on Tuesday 7th July 02:45

GT03ROB

13,210 posts

220 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Suck it up or ditch the gf. You can't "win" with this.

MarshPhantom

9,658 posts

136 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Smash some of her stuff up.

grumbledoak

31,504 posts

232 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Bin the girlfriend. Her attitude is quite telling if you think about it.

Bebee

4,678 posts

224 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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They don't understand what the car means to you.

Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.


anonymous-user

53 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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I have a step daughter who came with my marriage when she was 12, she is now 20 and we have had a fantastic relationship and she had added to my marriage, if you have doubts about the daughter walk away now and count yourself lucky.

jdw100

4,073 posts

163 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Bebee said:
They don't understand what the car means to you.

Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
He could do this.....or then again he could just behave like an adult and accept it has happened and sort it out in an adult way.

Kids do stuff because they..... they aren't adults yet.

He should sort it out in a calm way with the GF, not by some sort of passive/aggressive demonstration.

Moonhawk

10,730 posts

218 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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wjwren said:
I bought her a samsung tablet for her birthday and she opened it and said 'why have you got me a black one I wanted white'!
Yep been there myself. Presented step daughter with a car after she passed her test - only for her to storm off in a tantrum because she wanted a clio like her friend as opposed to the fiesta we had bought her. rolleyes

g3org3y

20,606 posts

190 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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grumbledoak said:
Bin the girlfriend. Her attitude is quite telling if you think about it.
yes

eniacs

207 posts

139 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Can you not explain to the girl that you have to pay to repair the car and you will have to take her ipad thingy to pay for it. Offer her the opportunity to repay the damage by working for you, washing car, watering garden etc some basic stuff.

Doesn't sound like she knows the value of money yet. When I was ten I lost the flexible hose that goes on the end of the bike pump. My parents said it cost £2 for a new one and that I would have to pay for it at my pocket money rate of 50p a week. I did and it hurt me not being able to buy chocolates for a month. When i realised the pump itself was £12 i took pretty good care of it after that!

IN51GHT

8,777 posts

209 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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The fact that you refer to the child as annoying spell out the fact that the relationship is going to go nowhere, get out.

boxst

3,699 posts

144 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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I would be careful. Accidents happen as does not being grateful about presents but wilful I guess premeditated damage to your property is something again. That means that she wants to either get attention from you or her Mother.

The reason I say be careful is that isn't too far away from "he hit me" or worse "touched me". So by all means have an adult conversation with her and I hope it'll be fine but keep your eyes open for any more deliberate acts of attention that involve you.

Bebee

4,678 posts

224 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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jdw100 said:
Bebee said:
They don't understand what the car means to you.

Tell your GF you can't see her as much as you only have the bus for transport to see her from now on.
Follow this up, it will get your point across very quickly without a shouting match.
You're not prepared to take your car there anymore.
He could do this.....or then again he could just behave like an adult and accept it has happened and sort it out in an adult way.

Kids do stuff because they..... they aren't adults yet.

He should sort it out in a calm way with the GF, not by some sort of passive/aggressive demonstration.
Thank you

Can you tell me (since you're seemingly an expert on this subject) where in my post is it a passive/aggressive demonstration?
Did you read the OP post? he's mad at the GF for going back on her word.

'behave like an adult and accept it has happened and sort it out in an adult way'
Can you expand on how he should do this?

The likely hood of his car getting marked again is high IMO, especially if he buys the kid the wrong colour gift.

Hoofy

76,253 posts

281 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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grumbledoak said:
Bin the girlfriend. Her attitude is quite telling if you think about it.
It's only a car.

















punch

ocrx8

867 posts

195 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Sorry but the child at 10 years old clearly knows the difference between right and wrong. Poor form by the mother IMO.

DanielJames

7,543 posts

167 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Get a bigger stone and scratch the child

Petrol Only

1,592 posts

174 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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The real problem was shacking up with damaged goods in the first place.

Mothers attitude is a tell tail sign to get out for me. At 10 I would have been scared stless to such a thing.

Keeping things childish go scratch her tablet screen. That will show her! hehe

Studio117

4,250 posts

190 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Just as a precaution you should change the oil.

elanfan

5,516 posts

226 months

Tuesday 7th July 2015
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Petrol Only said:
Keeping things childish go scratch her tablet screen. That will show her! hehe
This!