Those little annoying traits of the other half

Those little annoying traits of the other half

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0000

13,812 posts

192 months

Monday 27th July 2015
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Turns lights on, opens windows and curtains, complains there are flies and moths in the house.

Covers every square inch of available worktop/table/etc surface in crap.

Spends more money than she earns and then gets angry at me for her having run out of money.

Continually gives crumbly food to our son in my car and promises to clean it. I don't think she's cleaned my car in 5 years.

Tells me I can eat anything I like and don't have to check with her. Then goes mental when I've eaten a soup she planned on having.

I could go on for ages.

tribbles

3,978 posts

223 months

Monday 27th July 2015
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Marvib said:
Does anyone else get this though? I sit down to watch a film or show I haven't seen before and within 5 mins. she has told me who's guilty or the ending or which character dies, then asks why I've turned it off.
No, but I do get the commentary regarding some minor character "who was in that thing with the other guy. You know, it was on a few years ago when he had brown hair. His name begins with a 'D'. No, it's an 'S'. Come on, you must remember - it was called 'Trip to' somewhere or other. Or was it 'Going to'. Theme went 'ta da da ta ta tum tum da'. He ended up starring in that show with the flamingoes. Or was it penguins. Some bird anyway. Or frog..."

Mike22233

822 posts

112 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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NinjaPower said:
Asks me to perform all manner of minor tasks while she is sat down, such as 'can you make me a cup of tea', 'can you go upstairs and get my nail file kit'... I wouldn't dream of telling her to make me a cup of tea or go and get me something from upstairs just because I was sat on the sofa.

Complains bitterly that technology is too complicated whilst making no effort whatsoever to learn how to use Sky+, iTunes, eBay, our camera and other things work.
1. I dont mind being asked to make a cup of t as she makes a cup of t for me too - I think it's pretty nice after a long day + exercise to relax and be brought something.
2. I understand this one - this one is rather annoying. 'you will have to show me how to use it'.....

dazmm

69 posts

240 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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What about, you both sit down to watch TV, something you both want to watch, they then take a phone call or make one and sit next to you for an hour, jabbering away two feet away from you ear so you can't hear what your watching...or better still they fall asleep whilst your watching something she likes, but as soon as you switch it over...guess what she's wide awake.

Mike22233

822 posts

112 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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dazmm said:
What about, you both sit down to watch TV, something you both want to watch, they then take a phone call or make one and sit next to you for an hour, jabbering away two feet away from you ear so you can't hear what your watching...or better still they fall asleep whilst your watching something she likes, but as soon as you switch it over...guess what she's wide awake.
I would say "please let me hear the television and take the call in another room".

Is that too hard?

omgus

7,305 posts

176 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Mike22233 said:
I would say "please let me hear the television and take the call in another room".

Is that too hard?
rofl

I'm currently single so this thread does amuse me greatly, but, if i had asked the ex to leave the room to make a phonecall she would have gone, and then spent the whole call bhing about how unreasonable i was before returning and being in a foul mood for the evening.


My tactic was to turn the subtitles on. She was incabable of reading and talking so would soon get off the phone becuase she kept missing what they were saying.
I used to put the subtitles on when she was just annoying me a little so i could get some peace and quiet. hehe

Quickmoose

4,495 posts

124 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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dazmm said:
they fall asleep whilst your watching something she likes, but as soon as you switch it over...guess what she's wide awake.
Thats a good one.
"Darling lets snuggle on the sofa and watch that film I've wanted to see for ages..."
Fine, lights off, sound up, watch the chick-flick, it's not too bad really... oh she's asleep on me...and I can't move... ffs

kwaka jack

270 posts

173 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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JakeT said:
Every girl I've dated has always slammed car doors so hard the entire car rocks from it. Can't open a jar but can burst eardrums with a door...
This must be in all women. My partner always use to slam car doors, every time I use to say "take the door off the hinges" eventually she stopped lol. I gave her and one of her friends a lift last week to a party they were going to. Her friend was in back so got out last and near enough put the window through with how hard she pushed it to shut the door.

Buster73

5,066 posts

154 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Years ago when we had the almost extinct rarity called a paperboy we used to get the Sunday Times delivered.

I was looking for the paper at 10.00 am ish to read with a coffee to find out it was in the bin , she thought I'd read it.


Pesty

42,655 posts

257 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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otherman said:
lord trumpton said:
- Instead of putting her crap away, like post, magazine and perhaps a few other bits she will make a neat little pile and leave it somewhere
Mine used to 'tidy' by putting random stuff in a box and putting in on a shelf. My daughter had once lost a gold ring from her gran, and we searched all over for it. Wife denied any knowledge and was outraged we thought she would have touched it. A year later found in a shoe box with macdonalds toys and junk mail.
Mine tides on auto pilot then reuses to admit she's done it.


When I say tidy, gather up and hide out of sight with no reason or system.

This is the worst trait I spent a weekend tidying the shed. Everything in its place shelves hooks you could walk in. All she does it dump stuff at the door. Thing I need are now buried. You can't walk in anymore.

Get a Delivery, ask her where it is she doesn't know by magic it's now in the pile in the shed. Important paperwork? Could be anywhere and I mean stuff I'm using, leave on the arm of the chair to go in kitchen and its fking gone. She's hasn't moved it but magically went in a cupboard all by itself.

anonymous-user

55 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Mike22233 said:
dazmm said:
What about, you both sit down to watch TV, something you both want to watch, they then take a phone call or make one and sit next to you for an hour, jabbering away two feet away from you ear so you can't hear what your watching...or better still they fall asleep whilst your watching something she likes, but as soon as you switch it over...guess what she's wide awake.
I would say "please let me hear the television and take the call in another room".

Is that too hard?
Oh my god this is so true.

My other half will happily answer the phone and remain seated in the living room while I'm trying to watch the news or something. Asking her to leave the room whilst on the phone will result in an angry "don't tell me to leave the room" look from her.

When I'm on the phone I leave the room right away so as not to inconvenience her or whoever else is in the room. In fact I'm quite a wanderer when I'm on the phone... I can start a call then 10 minutes later be down the end of a field near my house with no idea how I got there smile

SteellFJ

793 posts

168 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Despite science having limited experience in the effects of objects when placed in a Black Hole my other half seems to utilise them for hiding everything i ever place down or need this includes:

My house keys
Her house keys
A spare set of house keys
Her car keys
Garage keys (since recovered)
Her work Keys
As yet an unknown quantity of kitchen utensils
Tea spoons
Phone chargers
Tablet chargers
other general chargers
Socks
kids shoes
Ikea/other Gift cards
Tools
Every pack of batteries ever bought
Etc Etc

The only thing that is ever really recovered regularly is her iPhone when its lost 8/9 times a day. she lost my keys with the only key i had to my dads place after i gave her them to open the door after a weekend away, never been seen again.

The only saving grace is that we were given about 5 sets of keys to the house when we bought it.


RacingBlue

1,396 posts

165 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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0000 said:
Covers every square inch of available worktop/table/etc surface in crap.
My ex did this, but it extended from the table to the sofa. It got to the point where you had to shift crap along in order to sit down. She then went mental at me when I pointed out it had now ceased to be a sofa, more a storage unit for junk.

Bluebarge

4,519 posts

179 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Pesty said:
Mine tides on auto pilot then reuses to admit she's done it.


When I say tidy, gather up and hide out of sight with no reason or system.

This is the worst trait I spent a weekend tidying the shed. Everything in its place shelves hooks you could walk in. All she does it dump stuff at the door. Thing I need are now buried. You can't walk in anymore.

Get a Delivery, ask her where it is she doesn't know by magic it's now in the pile in the shed. Important paperwork? Could be anywhere and I mean stuff I'm using, leave on the arm of the chair to go in kitchen and its fking gone. She's hasn't moved it but magically went in a cupboard all by itself.
Seems my wife has a twin she doesn't know about. Or we are married to the same woman and she tidies you away somewhere when I am around.

PurpleTurtle

7,016 posts

145 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Me, about 10pm most nights: "want a glass of wine love, some cheese & biscuits?"
SWMBO: "No thanks"
(pours my own wine, knocks up a couple of crackers with cheese, return to watch TV, settling comfily into chair)
SWMBO: "Ooh, they look nice, can I have one"
JUST SAY YES IN THE BLOODY FIRST PLACE!!!

Mike22233

822 posts

112 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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omgus said:
rofl

I'm currently single so this thread does amuse me greatly, but, if i had asked the ex to leave the room to make a phonecall she would have gone, and then spent the whole call bhing about how unreasonable i was before returning and being in a foul mood for the evening.


My tactic was to turn the subtitles on. She was incabable of reading and talking so would soon get off the phone becuase she kept missing what they were saying.
I used to put the subtitles on when she was just annoying me a little so i could get some peace and quiet. hehe
I am pretty amazed that anyone would put up with someone who asked not to be disturbed while watching something is 'unreasonable'... I wouldn't last long with someone like that. What's so hard to understand about being quiet to watch something?

Du1point8

21,612 posts

193 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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There is a few.

Run the iPad down to no battery everytime, its my iPad, but everytime I need to use it, its got no power... OH was against the idea of having one in the first place.

Anything involving a computer, I should be able to fix it as Im the computer nerd... She works with PCs as much as I do, but because I develop crap from banks and financial services, that means I can fix her Laptop, sort out the router or fix her website as 'thats what I do' she doesnt understand why I get upset about it, yet when I then call her a common data input monkey (she uses Excel all day) then she doesnt see the common traits.

No sense of be careful with stuff, already this week we have had a curtain rail ripped off the wall (walls fault it should hold it better) and a kitchen cabinet door ripped off (the 2 bits of metal holding it on should be stronger)... Then demands 24 hours later as to why they have not been fixed yet.

Inability to talk to people face to face about important stuff, 2 examples below.

1) Accountant asked for detailed salary details, she sent a list and said that she would check it later, 2 months on as she left it so long its now my job to act as a middle man to pass her P60 on to the accountant... Errr no... pick up the phone.
2) Delivery company have not picked up or delivered and its now 5pm... I ask why she did not ring before then and demand to know whats happening... OH didn't think of that, so now I need to take a day off, the delivery company get such a fking bking off me, they are there before 9am.

Lots of good traits, but the above are sometimes beyond annoying.

dazmm

69 posts

240 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Whatever these traits are, which although amusingly irritating, they aren't the sort of thing to make an argument over, my ex had some nice qualities which over compensated for an occasional lack of consideration, but towards the end she had no consideration on anything, being in a relationship is all about compromise and not about walking over people to get what you want.

sc0tt

18,054 posts

202 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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Breathing

Muzzer79

10,044 posts

188 months

Tuesday 28th July 2015
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NinjaPower said:
Asks me to perform all manner of minor tasks while she is sat down, such as 'can you make me a cup of tea', 'can you go upstairs and get my nail file kit'... I wouldn't dream of telling her to make me a cup of tea or go and get me something from upstairs just because I was sat on the sofa.
Mine does that, to an extent.

I have to occasionally remind that I am a husband, not a butler.