What Makes You REALLY ANGRY?
Discussion
grumbledoak said:
Mothers too self absorbed or plain idle to give some attention to crying babies or needy toddlers.
See HTP99's post on p4Cave in to the whining, you're on a hiding to nothing. Discipline starts with a little ignorance.
However I do agree with you if you make a distinction between the parents who do (at least attempt) proactive tantrum management and those who just let the little dears get on with it while checking mycock or whatever on their iportal.
Context - I have a 2 year old and do this battle on a daily (hourly) basis.
The battle is a tough one at that age. They seem to understand tone/action more than words. It's potentially always a losing battle, especially when in public, as there will always be some family who will be disgusted with how you're treating your child. I tend to try this approach;
1. Quiet words, shhh, no, stop being silly, etc.
2. Serious face. Sometimes met with a laugh. Get down to her height etc.
3. Hold both her shoulders, eye contact, cross but quiet voice.
4. Pick her up and move her along kicking and screaming.
It is much, much easier at home. I put her down and walk away...but it doesn't work out in public.
1. Quiet words, shhh, no, stop being silly, etc.
2. Serious face. Sometimes met with a laugh. Get down to her height etc.
3. Hold both her shoulders, eye contact, cross but quiet voice.
4. Pick her up and move her along kicking and screaming.
It is much, much easier at home. I put her down and walk away...but it doesn't work out in public.
I've thought about this and realised almost nothing makes me really angry. My expectations have dropped so low I'm just mildly disheartened by the stupidly it seems we must all inflict upon each other.
There is only one exception, one thing which will for certain send me in to a rage, and that's my own stupidity. The most frequent occurrence is if I get half way somewhere and realise I've forgotten something... Que instant screaming tanty!
There is only one exception, one thing which will for certain send me in to a rage, and that's my own stupidity. The most frequent occurrence is if I get half way somewhere and realise I've forgotten something... Que instant screaming tanty!
Loaghtan Target said:
I've thought about this and realised almost nothing makes me really angry. My expectations have dropped so low I'm just mildly disheartened by the stupidly it seems we must all inflict upon each other.
There is only one exception, one thing which will for certain send me in to a rage, and that's my own stupidity. The most frequent occurrence is if I get half way somewhere and realise I've forgotten something... Que instant screaming tanty!
That's fair enough. There is only one exception, one thing which will for certain send me in to a rage, and that's my own stupidity. The most frequent occurrence is if I get half way somewhere and realise I've forgotten something... Que instant screaming tanty!
I once set off to Santa Pod, went to the cash machine, got £50 out, but forgot to take the monies. Went to pay...realised, ran outside, no money. Checked balance - down £50. I couldn't run around accusing people, so just took out another £50.
Drove all the way there, went to pay and instead of it being a RWYB...it was some beetle/VW day. I had gone up on the Saturday, not the Sunday. I turned around and cried into my pathetic hands that belonged to my pathetic self.
But I find it easier to forgive yourself than it is others of stupidity...
Loaghtan Target said:
I've thought about this and realised almost nothing makes me really angry. My expectations have dropped so low I'm just mildly disheartened by the stupidly it seems we must all inflict upon each other.
There is only one exception, one thing which will for certain send me in to a rage, and that's my own stupidity. The most frequent occurrence is if I get half way somewhere and realise I've forgotten something... Que instant screaming tanty!
This, so definitely this.There is only one exception, one thing which will for certain send me in to a rage, and that's my own stupidity. The most frequent occurrence is if I get half way somewhere and realise I've forgotten something... Que instant screaming tanty!
Another one just came to whilst sat here watching my 19m old grandson playing in the lounge.
People who say you shouldn't say "no" to a young toddler as they don't understand; my grandson is sat on the lounge floor playing with his toys, all of our ornaments, candles, general crap this is picked up over the years and is on display is still out on show and within easy reach of any child, he has been told "no" from pretty much as soon as he could get around, he now doesn't touch anything he isn't supposed to and if he does decide he fancies a touch, all I have to do is say his name once, in "that tone" and he stops.
Not hard is it, did the same with both our girls too.
People who say you shouldn't say "no" to a young toddler as they don't understand; my grandson is sat on the lounge floor playing with his toys, all of our ornaments, candles, general crap this is picked up over the years and is on display is still out on show and within easy reach of any child, he has been told "no" from pretty much as soon as he could get around, he now doesn't touch anything he isn't supposed to and if he does decide he fancies a touch, all I have to do is say his name once, in "that tone" and he stops.
Not hard is it, did the same with both our girls too.
Kids who can't play without screaming incessantly. It's getting worse as all they do is yell and shout from morning to night time. I'm sure as a child we were never this noisy, or if we were then an adult would tell us to pipe down after a few minutes.
These little s
tes show no respect to adults (and bounce balls off strangers cars) and never shut up. My afternoon nap has been destroyed by their screaming.
These little s
tes show no respect to adults (and bounce balls off strangers cars) and never shut up. My afternoon nap has been destroyed by their screaming. 007labradoodle said:
Football, more specifically the assumption that everyone cares.
Oh yes, that really pisses me off too, why am I openly mocked by colleagues when I ask a question about football and why can't football loving people just accept that I have zero interest interest in the world cup; "but you should support our national team?", a World Cup doesn't all of a sudden make me interested, why should I all of a sudden be interested when our national team are playing on a world stage; they are always a let down anyway. littlegreenfairy said:
Kids who can't play without screaming incessantly. It's getting worse as all they do is yell and shout from morning to night time. I'm sure as a child we were never this noisy, or if we were then an adult would tell us to pipe down after a few minutes.
These little stes show no respect to adults (and bounce balls off strangers cars) and never shut up. My afternoon nap has been destroyed by their screaming.
My local, which I live just metres away from, has recently erected a kids play area for regular pissheads to dump their younguns in. Que incessant screaming! Can't wait for winter...These little s
tes show no respect to adults (and bounce balls off strangers cars) and never shut up. My afternoon nap has been destroyed by their screaming. SpeedMattersNot said:
eed for Speed Underground 2 ?
If so, I fully appreciate your pain.
It may well have been. If I remember correctly, it was 5 long laps, the last one would having the invisible obstacle.If so, I fully appreciate your pain.
It was that game that made me eject the disc loader and pull it out of the console
Luckily I got it back in and it still worked perfectly.
HTP99 said:
Tidybeard said:
Seven rashers of bacon in a pack.
The wife leaving one rasher as out of the four that are left; 3 is enough and 4 are too much; what the fk am I supposed to do with the remaining single rasher?!!nicanary said:
HTP99 said:
Tidybeard said:
Seven rashers of bacon in a pack.
The wife leaving one rasher as out of the four that are left; 3 is enough and 4 are too much; what the fk am I supposed to do with the remaining single rasher?!!Despite the fact my fiance knows I am asthmatic, recently whenever I take a large breath and breathe out (which to her sounds like a huff) I get asked "oh, what have I done' or "oh what's wrong with you" or "what are you annoyed about".
I AM JUST BREATHING FOR fk SAKE CAN I DO THAT WITHOUT YOU fkING COMMENTING EVERY fkING TIME!?
Recently she has also started using the word "legit" in totally the wrong fking context, when the word "actually" would suffice. "He legit just stood up and walked out", as an example. It's like she thinks she is a teenager again sometimes, does my nut in!
A happy marriage awaits me.
I AM JUST BREATHING FOR f
k SAKE CAN I DO THAT WITHOUT YOU fkING COMMENTING EVERY fkING TIME!?Recently she has also started using the word "legit" in totally the wrong f
king context, when the word "actually" would suffice. "He legit just stood up and walked out", as an example. It's like she thinks she is a teenager again sometimes, does my nut in!A happy marriage awaits me.
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