Annoying things parents do with their children
Discussion
Jaroon said:
Ari said:
Oh god, you've started me off now! 
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
So they're disciplining the child, trying to engender a sense of respect for authority at the same time yet you still manage indignant outrage as their disciplining method is not to your liking, oh really, my arse bleeds for you 
Issi said:
I get it in work all the time by people who try to hurry things up as they've got children.
I had a chap once who demanded that I visit ASAP, as he'd suffered a broken ceramic floor tile in the kitchen, and was worried about the safety of his children.
I said that I was sorry but I couldn't come for 36 hrs (or thereabouts), due to other visits.
He then shouted 'So! if my child loses a toe, would you be happy to be sued?'
I pointed out that
1. He could keep the child out of the kitchen for a day,
or
2. He could make the child wear shoes.
He wasn't too impressed
Things like this are completely mental.I had a chap once who demanded that I visit ASAP, as he'd suffered a broken ceramic floor tile in the kitchen, and was worried about the safety of his children.
I said that I was sorry but I couldn't come for 36 hrs (or thereabouts), due to other visits.
He then shouted 'So! if my child loses a toe, would you be happy to be sued?'
I pointed out that
1. He could keep the child out of the kitchen for a day,
or
2. He could make the child wear shoes.
He wasn't too impressed
I don't know what's worse here...that they expect you to drop everything because they can't control their own children, or that they think it would be possible to sue you for not doing so.
And this attitude will likely be multiplied several times over in said children. Ugh.
As regards children at racetracks, and indeed in pubs etc, there's no "age" at which this is ok. It depends on the child primarily, and also the parents. I've known children who are transfixed by cars from the moment they can walk, if not before, and I don't see why they shouldn't be taken as they will love the experience, in their own way. This is markedly different from someone just dragging their child along for the sake of it, which usually ends up in the screaming issues.
I could moan on all day about screaming or badly behaved children in public places, but when you look closely you'll realise it really is a very small minority of bad parents. Look around and you'll see many happy families with well behaved children and the fact is we don't really notice them because they are not making a nuisance of themselves. They really are the majority.
I say this as someone who does not have children and never will, I'm not really a "child" person and never will be, but it really is a small minority who cause problems.
As for the swimming issue that started this thread...I sympathise, but I do think that in normal public swimming sessions the family has as much right to be there as anyone, and perhaps they start similar threads on forums bemoaning people who just want to hog the pool by charging up and down swimming lengths and woe betide anyone who gets in the way....
I could moan on all day about screaming or badly behaved children in public places, but when you look closely you'll realise it really is a very small minority of bad parents. Look around and you'll see many happy families with well behaved children and the fact is we don't really notice them because they are not making a nuisance of themselves. They really are the majority.
I say this as someone who does not have children and never will, I'm not really a "child" person and never will be, but it really is a small minority who cause problems.
As for the swimming issue that started this thread...I sympathise, but I do think that in normal public swimming sessions the family has as much right to be there as anyone, and perhaps they start similar threads on forums bemoaning people who just want to hog the pool by charging up and down swimming lengths and woe betide anyone who gets in the way....
MG CHRIS said:
SpeedMattersNot said:
MG CHRIS said:
C.A.R. said:
When parents take their kids to events quite obviously not suitable for them.
The obvious one being motorsports events (quite topical for pistonheads too).
I get it - you want to instill your love of cars into your offspring - so do I. However, just because Silverstone didn't charge 1-3 year olds entry to their Classic event didn't mean it was sensible to bring them.
I have kids - but wouldn't dream of taking them to such a noisy, busy and potentially hazardous environment through choice; not at that age.
My dad didn't take me to a full motorsports day until I was about 7 years old - it still stuck with me. I didn't spend the whole day screaming my head off, upset with the noise, on a "leash" with parents constantly concerned about where the nearest baby changing unit may be.
Time. Place. This is not for tiny people!
Im glad someone has said this thank you. Nothing worse than a couple of crying/screaming kids running around not interested in the racing at the slightest annoying everyone around them while there idiot parents sit there fThe obvious one being motorsports events (quite topical for pistonheads too).
I get it - you want to instill your love of cars into your offspring - so do I. However, just because Silverstone didn't charge 1-3 year olds entry to their Classic event didn't mean it was sensible to bring them.
I have kids - but wouldn't dream of taking them to such a noisy, busy and potentially hazardous environment through choice; not at that age.
My dad didn't take me to a full motorsports day until I was about 7 years old - it still stuck with me. I didn't spend the whole day screaming my head off, upset with the noise, on a "leash" with parents constantly concerned about where the nearest baby changing unit may be.
Time. Place. This is not for tiny people!
king oblivious to there darling brats.Kids young kids do not belong at track I have been car mad ever since I can remember but my father didn't take me to an event till I was 6/7 which was local banger racing tracks etc, first big meeting was Donny for the btcc rd back in 2002/3 when I was 8.
I still maintain that young kids have no interest in sitting still watch cars go around a track for several hours at a time. Its like taking them to a rock concert
As a side note I have had more days out spoiled by inconsiderate adults than I have by out of control children.
At the end of the day you are only 23/24 years old and I probably felt the same way at your age. i would wager that most of the posters on this thread who don't like kids are probably not much more than kids themselves.
zarjaz1991 said:
As regards children at racetracks, and indeed in pubs etc, there's no "age" at which this is ok. It depends on the child primarily, and also the parents. I've known children who are transfixed by cars from the moment they can walk, if not before, and I don't see why they shouldn't be taken as they will love the experience, in their own way. This is markedly different from someone just dragging their child along for the sake of it, which usually ends up in the screaming issues.
I could moan on all day about screaming or badly behaved children in public places, but when you look closely you'll realise it really is a very small minority of bad parents. Look around and you'll see many happy families with well behaved children and the fact is we don't really notice them because they are not making a nuisance of themselves. They really are the majority.
I say this as someone who does not have children and never will, I'm not really a "child" person and never will be, but it really is a small minority who cause problems.
As for the swimming issue that started this thread...I sympathise, but I do think that in normal public swimming sessions the family has as much right to be there as anyone, and perhaps they start similar threads on forums bemoaning people who just want to hog the pool by charging up and down swimming lengths and woe betide anyone who gets in the way....
At last, someone speaks sense.I could moan on all day about screaming or badly behaved children in public places, but when you look closely you'll realise it really is a very small minority of bad parents. Look around and you'll see many happy families with well behaved children and the fact is we don't really notice them because they are not making a nuisance of themselves. They really are the majority.
I say this as someone who does not have children and never will, I'm not really a "child" person and never will be, but it really is a small minority who cause problems.
As for the swimming issue that started this thread...I sympathise, but I do think that in normal public swimming sessions the family has as much right to be there as anyone, and perhaps they start similar threads on forums bemoaning people who just want to hog the pool by charging up and down swimming lengths and woe betide anyone who gets in the way....
h0b0 said:
mike80 said:
anonymous said:
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Agreed. Some of them anyway.With regards to the pool issue, if there is lane swimming in operation then yes it's out of order to get kids in the way, if not then tough st.
It pisses me off that when i go to the local pool with my 10 & 7 year old girls, even though there is dedicated lane swimming, adults feel it's ok to barge my kids out of the way in other pool area's, it cuts both ways
t.It pisses me off that when i go to the local pool with my 10 & 7 year old girls, even though there is dedicated lane swimming, adults feel it's ok to barge my kids out of the way in other pool area's, it cuts both ways
Jaroon said:
Ari said:
Oh god, you've started me off now!
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
So they're disciplining the child, trying to engender a sense of respect for authority at the same time yet you still manage indignant outrage as their disciplining method is not to your liking, oh really, my arse bleeds for you 
You think that being scared of telling a three year old off for (say) running about inappropriately and instead telling them that a policeman will come and tell them off is 'engendering a respect for authority'?
Honestly, be a parent, tell your own kids off, that's your job as a parent, not someone elses. Don't try and hive it off on a third party who will never come. How many times do you reckon that will actually work anyway?
FFS.
Ari said:
Jaroon said:
Ari said:
Oh god, you've started me off now!
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
So they're disciplining the child, trying to engender a sense of respect for authority at the same time yet you still manage indignant outrage as their disciplining method is not to your liking, oh really, my arse bleeds for you You think that being scared of telling a three year old off for (say) running about inappropriately and instead telling them that a policeman will come and tell them off is 'engendering a respect for authority'?
Honestly, be a parent, tell your own kids off, that's your job as a parent, not someone elses. Don't try and hive it off on a third party who will never come. How many times do you reckon that will actually work anyway?
FFS.
Parents who discipline; or should I say, try and discipline their children in that manner are a) weak and b) don't like to be seen as the bad person, someone else can be that nasty person who will tell you off, not mummy or daddy.
HTP99 said:
Ari said:
Jaroon said:
Ari said:
Oh god, you've started me off now!
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
Parents who are so scared of upsetting Little Precious that they try and discipline it through a third party.
'Don't do that sweetie or a policeman will come and tell you off'
'Behave, or that nurse over there will tell you off'
Its your job to discipline your bloody kids!
I had a mate who used to do this as did his wife. Inevitably the threats wore off very quickly as a policeman never did come and tell the child off. He actually said to me at one point 'He starts school soon, we're hoping that will straighten him out'
FFS.
So they're disciplining the child, trying to engender a sense of respect for authority at the same time yet you still manage indignant outrage as their disciplining method is not to your liking, oh really, my arse bleeds for you You think that being scared of telling a three year old off for (say) running about inappropriately and instead telling them that a policeman will come and tell them off is 'engendering a respect for authority'?
Honestly, be a parent, tell your own kids off, that's your job as a parent, not someone elses. Don't try and hive it off on a third party who will never come. How many times do you reckon that will actually work anyway?
FFS.
Parents who discipline; or should I say, try and discipline their children in that manner are a) weak and b) don't like to be seen as the bad person, someone else can be that nasty person who will tell you off, not mummy or daddy.
zarjaz1991 said:
Issi said:
I get it in work all the time by people who try to hurry things up as they've got children.
I had a chap once who demanded that I visit ASAP, as he'd suffered a broken ceramic floor tile in the kitchen, and was worried about the safety of his children.
I said that I was sorry but I couldn't come for 36 hrs (or thereabouts), due to other visits.
He then shouted 'So! if my child loses a toe, would you be happy to be sued?'
I pointed out that
1. He could keep the child out of the kitchen for a day,
or
2. He could make the child wear shoes.
He wasn't too impressed
Things like this are completely mental.I had a chap once who demanded that I visit ASAP, as he'd suffered a broken ceramic floor tile in the kitchen, and was worried about the safety of his children.
I said that I was sorry but I couldn't come for 36 hrs (or thereabouts), due to other visits.
He then shouted 'So! if my child loses a toe, would you be happy to be sued?'
I pointed out that
1. He could keep the child out of the kitchen for a day,
or
2. He could make the child wear shoes.
He wasn't too impressed
I don't know what's worse here...that they expect you to drop everything because they can't control their own children, or that they think it would be possible to sue you for not doing so.
And this attitude will likely be multiplied several times over in said children. Ugh.
The river in question was a stream about 2 inches deep and could be stepped over, the damage itself was about 12 inches of tarmac that had crumbled into the stream.
Of course, this was classed as a major emergency.
Ari said:
You think that being scared of telling a three year old off for (say) running about inappropriately and instead telling them that a policeman will come and tell them off is 'engendering a respect for authority'?
Honestly, be a parent, tell your own kids off, that's your job as a parent, not someone elses. Don't try and hive it off on a third party who will never come. How many times do you reckon that will actually work anyway?
FFS.
I'm not a parent but sometimes parents really do get to the end of their tether and I can't blame them for trying stuff that they think might work. Maybe it will, even if only once or twice. I don't think it's anything to do with trying to engender respect for authority - I completely lack that and I don't necessarily see it as a bad thing - I think it's more desperate parents, horrified at their child causing mayhem in public, trying anything they can within reason to calm things down. I can understand and respect that entirely. Good on them for trying.
Edited by zarjaz1991 on Sunday 30th August 13:52
It really annoys me how one minute parents will try and frighten children by threatening them with a Policeman locking them up and the next minute they're trying to tell them that if they need help or are lost they need to go to a Policeman. How confusing must that be to a four year old?
Rh14n said:
It really annoys me how one minute parents will try and frighten children by threatening them with a Policeman locking them up and the next minute they're trying to tell them that if they need help or are lost they need to go to a Policeman. How confusing must that be to a four year old?
There's a lesson in life for everyone there....don't trust the police!Foe me its the competitive parenting championships. "My daughter was walking by 10 months, ooooohhhh mine was riding a bike by 11 weeks old and juggling axes at the same time."
Its interesting reading this thread as a guy who never thought he'd be a parent as I can see both sides now.
A kid in a curry house at 10pm, who is well behaved is no issue to me. Its the parents responsibility to think about the environment, they may not have any support around childcare or need to balance going out vs paying £12ph on a minder.
So long as the kid understands the environment they are in and behaves accordingly then its fine. My daughter tells other kids off for poor behaviour, which I am not keen on but strangely we get thanked by others too nervous to pass comment.
Its interesting reading this thread as a guy who never thought he'd be a parent as I can see both sides now.
A kid in a curry house at 10pm, who is well behaved is no issue to me. Its the parents responsibility to think about the environment, they may not have any support around childcare or need to balance going out vs paying £12ph on a minder.
So long as the kid understands the environment they are in and behaves accordingly then its fine. My daughter tells other kids off for poor behaviour, which I am not keen on but strangely we get thanked by others too nervous to pass comment.
zarjaz1991 said:
Ari said:
You think that being scared of telling a three year old off for (say) running about inappropriately and instead telling them that a policeman will come and tell them off is 'engendering a respect for authority'?
Honestly, be a parent, tell your own kids off, that's your job as a parent, not someone elses. Don't try and hive it off on a third party who will never come. How many times do you reckon that will actually work anyway?
FFS.
I'm not a parent but sometimes parents really do get to the end of their tether and I can't blame them for trying stuff that they think might work. Maybe it will, even if only once or twice. I don't think it's anything to do with trying to engender respect for authority - I completely lack that and I don't necessarily see it as a bad thing - I think it's more desperate parents, horrified at their child cuasing mayhem in public, trying anything they can within reason to calm things down. I can understand and respect that entirely. Good on them for trying.
but apparently it drives some strange individuals apoplectic at the idea that some parents choose not to dole out instant, personal discipline mainly for the benefit of people looking on FFS etc. I'm normally pretty considerate when out with my offspring.
However given most of the observations in this thread appear to be petty, mean-spirited, small-minded, self centric, tedious nonsense of the highest order I think I'm going to have to make an effort to start raising the blood pressure of you whinging bunch of social rejects.
It's ironic that the Daily Mail is scorned so often on these forums yet so many of it's members appear to fit the profile of the curtain twitching middle England tory who has nothing better to do than bh about the (more interesting) lives of others.
No wonder the Brits have a such a poor international rep, take a look at yourselves. Sad as fk.
p.s. Kiddo loved standing in the trolley today, not done that one before, thanks!
However given most of the observations in this thread appear to be petty, mean-spirited, small-minded, self centric, tedious nonsense of the highest order I think I'm going to have to make an effort to start raising the blood pressure of you whinging bunch of social rejects.
It's ironic that the Daily Mail is scorned so often on these forums yet so many of it's members appear to fit the profile of the curtain twitching middle England tory who has nothing better to do than b
h about the (more interesting) lives of others.No wonder the Brits have a such a poor international rep, take a look at yourselves. Sad as f
k.p.s. Kiddo loved standing in the trolley today, not done that one before, thanks!
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