The lady at work!
Discussion
AndrewEH1 said:
The1Driver said:
"I'm flattered. You're an attractive young man. However I don't think the other half would be happy if you stole me from him".
Surely you should have said "I'm sure I could get you back before he notices" type thing?Let's recap.
He sat at a table at lunch with her.
They chatted.
He asked her what she did at the weekend, she gave a response.
She asked if he was going out after work on Friday.
At the pub she said hello...not really that unusual.
He made a pass.
It was rebuffed.
Now of course there might well have been an evening full of fluttering eyelashes, of doe-eyed submissive looks across the bar, of coquettish pouting and saucy flashing of décolletage. Hell, she might even have done the same back to the him.
Don't get me wrong, of course this thing goes on but from what's been described so far I think some of you are sketching in a hell of a lot of detail based on some basic human interactions.
He sat at a table at lunch with her.
They chatted.
He asked her what she did at the weekend, she gave a response.
She asked if he was going out after work on Friday.
At the pub she said hello...not really that unusual.
He made a pass.
It was rebuffed.
Now of course there might well have been an evening full of fluttering eyelashes, of doe-eyed submissive looks across the bar, of coquettish pouting and saucy flashing of décolletage. Hell, she might even have done the same back to the him.
Don't get me wrong, of course this thing goes on but from what's been described so far I think some of you are sketching in a hell of a lot of detail based on some basic human interactions.
The1Driver said:
She clearly didn't understand. So I repeated myself lol. Emphasising the word "know". "I'm flattered. You're an attractive young man. However I don't think the other half would be happy if you stole me from him".
I told you!daddy cool said:
I take it you have already studied her facebook page - lingering on the photos of "Crete 2013", amirite? - and established theres no other Alpha Male already on the scene?
The1Driver said:
I'm here kids lol.
So I cut her off mid way and say "... I'd like to get to know you..". She looked puzzled and stated that we're were already doing that.
She clearly didn't understand. So I repeated myself lol. Emphasising the word "know". "I'm flattered. You're an attractive young man. However I don't think the other half would be happy if you stole me from him".
WHAT?!?!So I cut her off mid way and say "... I'd like to get to know you..". She looked puzzled and stated that we're were already doing that.
She clearly didn't understand. So I repeated myself lol. Emphasising the word "know". "I'm flattered. You're an attractive young man. However I don't think the other half would be happy if you stole me from him".
rolando said:
The lady at work said:
"I'm flattered. You're an attractive young man. However I don't fancy you so f
k off and leave me alone.
OPk off and leave me alone.You're in there, in a manner of speaking. Other half may not be happy if you stole her but she didn't rule out any borrowing.
PH is a funny old place. Someone posts to say their wife is having an affair, and everyone posts to say she's a tart and he's a morally bankrupt scumbag and deserves to have his teeth kicked in for shagging poster's wife.
And here we have someone who tries to chat up a woman he fancies, she says she's married, so he walks away, and we're being told he's pathetic and she was clearly not ruling out an sexual encounter and he has let the side down by bowing out.
Or have I missed something.
And here we have someone who tries to chat up a woman he fancies, she says she's married, so he walks away, and we're being told he's pathetic and she was clearly not ruling out an sexual encounter and he has let the side down by bowing out.
Or have I missed something.
technodup said:
DrTre said:
of doe-eyed submissive looks across the bar, of coquettish pouting and saucy flashing of décolletage.
She's a 40 something married milf, it's more likely a flash of her saggy tits and a drunken grope of his boaby during 'I Will Survive'.We don't get many Samaritans counsellors.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
PH is a funny old place. Someone posts to say their wife is having an affair, and everyone posts to say she's a tart and he's a morally bankrupt scumbag and deserves to have his teeth kicked in for shagging poster's wife.
And here we have someone who tries to chat up a woman he fancies, she says she's married, so he walks away, and we're being told he's pathetic and she was clearly not ruling out an sexual encounter and he has let the side down by bowing out.
Or have I missed something.
That's spot on.And here we have someone who tries to chat up a woman he fancies, she says she's married, so he walks away, and we're being told he's pathetic and she was clearly not ruling out an sexual encounter and he has let the side down by bowing out.
Or have I missed something.
Thinking outside the box for a moment, (and I realise this might sound insane, but go with it) maybe she was being friendly in a sort of platonic way. Like some people are in work? Conversation and laughs rather than desperate tawdry affairs?
Looking back at my own working life, I've found it possible to cultivate a relationship with female colleagues based on being stuck in the same office or pub, -to pass the time or have a laugh without wanting to 'know them' up the arse. -Maybe she was like this?
rolando said:
The lady at work said:
"I'm flattered. You're an attractive young man. However I don't think the other half would be happy if you stole me from him".
OPYou're in there, in a manner of speaking. Other half may not be happy if you stole her but she didn't rule out any borrowing.
"never ever in a million years, not if you were the last person on earth and humankind depended on us having sex, no, not ever!!!!"
But most women don't like to be direct and will try to be gentle esp if they know they will be seeing the person again, hence leading to misunderstanding like this.
captainzep said:
Looking back at my own working life, I've found it possible to cultivate a relationship with female colleagues based on being stuck in the same office or pub, -to pass the time or have a laugh without wanting to 'know them' up the arse. -Maybe she was like this?
Probably this. If she is a 'stunner' then other men in the office might act awkwardly around her like the OP has done...Ahm back in
For goodness sake!!
This happens all the time - OP has made a pass of sorts, its been rebuffed by an intelligent happily married woman with children. The end.
Time to stop all the innuendo and grasping at straws its worse than my schoolmate Andy who became a joke as he always thought he was 'in there' when a girl just glanced at him.
MARRIED
CHILDREN
Hello???
Why OP hadn't sussed this out before going down this route goodness only knows...
For goodness sake!!
This happens all the time - OP has made a pass of sorts, its been rebuffed by an intelligent happily married woman with children. The end.
Time to stop all the innuendo and grasping at straws its worse than my schoolmate Andy who became a joke as he always thought he was 'in there' when a girl just glanced at him.
MARRIED
CHILDREN
Hello???
Why OP hadn't sussed this out before going down this route goodness only knows...
captainzep said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
PH is a funny old place. Someone posts to say their wife is having an affair, and everyone posts to say she's a tart and he's a morally bankrupt scumbag and deserves to have his teeth kicked in for shagging poster's wife.
And here we have someone who tries to chat up a woman he fancies, she says she's married, so he walks away, and we're being told he's pathetic and she was clearly not ruling out an sexual encounter and he has let the side down by bowing out.
Or have I missed something.
That's spot on.And here we have someone who tries to chat up a woman he fancies, she says she's married, so he walks away, and we're being told he's pathetic and she was clearly not ruling out an sexual encounter and he has let the side down by bowing out.
Or have I missed something.
Thinking outside the box for a moment, (and I realise this might sound insane, but go with it) maybe she was being friendly in a sort of platonic way. Like some people are in work? Conversation and laughs rather than desperate tawdry affairs?
Looking back at my own working life, I've found it possible to cultivate a relationship with female colleagues based on being stuck in the same office or pub, -to pass the time or have a laugh without wanting to 'know them' up the arse. -Maybe she was like this?
AndrewEH1 said:
OP didn't know she was in a relationship. No ring.
Also I suspect she isn't married, merely in a relationship.
Whatever, the OP should have found this out first. He's only getting this attention because his efforts were so cack handed. Oh and because he decided to ask the internet for advice.Also I suspect she isn't married, merely in a relationship.
What would you expect?
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