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I'll try to keep this brief. And a bit vague
A friend of mine, from a different background socially. Is fundamentally a good person, but hangs out with a crowd that are not great for her. What started as a bit of Weed has progressed to Coke and of late a bit more than occasionally. I know whose giving it to her, but I know he's (think you can guess) not her only source if she wanted to get some. I've met some of the people and they are typical chav scum wasters. No aspirations, no work ethic. Plastic gangsters and coke head GF's. But she's known them for years so getting her to ditch them for her few cleaner mates is probably a non starter.
I know her Dads view is "doesn't like it, but is Ok" with the weed use. (Get the impression he's dabbled in his childhood) But "he'd go mad if he knew about the gear"
She's recently said twice in passing that she thinks she might be doing a bit too much, (her nose hurts the morning after) but it's not exactly a "cry for help" yet. Obviously she trusts me with this info. She knows it's not my thing. So I find it interesting that she told me. I told her casually to maybe just back it off a bit. Limit it to weekends or something. But I suspect it's social acceptance / easy availability that's driving this.
This is probably coming across as white knight.
I'm guessing the best thing is to just be there is she wants to talk about it, not to force anything. It's not affecting her work life or anything. But I rather not see her go the way of her social group. But then I guess who am I to decide on her life?
Thoughts? Or relevant websites for me to read if anyone has any (Not necessarily going to do anything yet, just like to be pre-armed if she does decide talk about it again)
A friend of mine, from a different background socially. Is fundamentally a good person, but hangs out with a crowd that are not great for her. What started as a bit of Weed has progressed to Coke and of late a bit more than occasionally. I know whose giving it to her, but I know he's (think you can guess) not her only source if she wanted to get some. I've met some of the people and they are typical chav scum wasters. No aspirations, no work ethic. Plastic gangsters and coke head GF's. But she's known them for years so getting her to ditch them for her few cleaner mates is probably a non starter.
I know her Dads view is "doesn't like it, but is Ok" with the weed use. (Get the impression he's dabbled in his childhood) But "he'd go mad if he knew about the gear"
She's recently said twice in passing that she thinks she might be doing a bit too much, (her nose hurts the morning after) but it's not exactly a "cry for help" yet. Obviously she trusts me with this info. She knows it's not my thing. So I find it interesting that she told me. I told her casually to maybe just back it off a bit. Limit it to weekends or something. But I suspect it's social acceptance / easy availability that's driving this.
This is probably coming across as white knight.
I'm guessing the best thing is to just be there is she wants to talk about it, not to force anything. It's not affecting her work life or anything. But I rather not see her go the way of her social group. But then I guess who am I to decide on her life?Thoughts? Or relevant websites for me to read if anyone has any (Not necessarily going to do anything yet, just like to be pre-armed if she does decide talk about it again)
She'll grow out of it - potentially.
And seeing as most street coke is cut to pieces she's probably mainly sniffing novocaine and infant laxative.
If you wade in, you will be wrong - but if shes caught with it or gets caught driving whilst under the influence the penalties are very high.
And seeing as most street coke is cut to pieces she's probably mainly sniffing novocaine and infant laxative.
If you wade in, you will be wrong - but if shes caught with it or gets caught driving whilst under the influence the penalties are very high.
hman said:
If you wade in, you will be wrong - but if shes caught with it or gets caught driving whilst under the influence the penalties are very high.
Oh, I know the risk of making a song and dance about it isn't worth it. Was only going to respond to her rather than bring it up. I know she has driven once on it. Short distance (1/2 a mile) because otherwise she would have to have left her car somewhere which would have raised questions from Dad. (she's a real daddy's girl since her mum is not around) I believe that's a one off and she knew it was stupid. So hopefully unlikely to repeat. She's also not sitting on any generally it's supplied to her as and when so getting caught in possession is probably unlikely too
Edited by Rich_W on Thursday 1st October 20:41
Send her this link: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/11887100/Co...
Edited by Funk on Thursday 1st October 21:08
Funk said:
Send her this link: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/11887100/Co...
that should do it Edited by Funk on Thursday 1st October 21:08
hman said:
Funk said:
Send her this link: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/11887100/Co...
that should do it Edited by Funk on Thursday 1st October 21:08
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Maybe distance yourself from her. If she misses you, she'll come looking. Tell her why.
If she's not a child or mentally incapable then she's got to take responsibility and if she likes rolling with chav plastic gangsters and if that's not compatible with your life then she's deciding what's more important to her.
Either way, a sad state of affairs. Hope it all works out for the best.
MrBarry123 said:
Let her get on with it - she'll either grow out of it or get worse and become a fully fledged junkie skaghead.
A tough view but intend to agree.Maybe distance yourself from her. If she misses you, she'll come looking. Tell her why.
If she's not a child or mentally incapable then she's got to take responsibility and if she likes rolling with chav plastic gangsters and if that's not compatible with your life then she's deciding what's more important to her.
Either way, a sad state of affairs. Hope it all works out for the best.
Many moons ago (ok about 14 years but it feels that long) at 6th form college I used to knock about with a number of people who smoked a bit of pot, I may or may not have smoked a bit myself
"There’s a time and a place for everything, and it’s called college" - Chef, South Park.
but after a while pills (Ketamine iirc) started to appear and I gradually lost interest in hanging around with them as did a few others as we simply didn't want to be involved with any of that stuff. I'm glad I was sensible enough to do that as I have a good job and career, the car I have always wanted and I am half way through a PPL course. Conversely one of the lads who strayed to 'harder' drugs died this year at 32. Having done nothing since flunking his A-levels due to drugs other than bounce from one waiter/factory work/**insert A.N other minimum wage job here** to the next. A real shame because at school he was a bright lad, great head for maths and a great track and field athlete (you always get these kinds of things in the news but its genuinely true - if he was a total clem bag from day one I'd have said so).
I’d keep your distance.
"There’s a time and a place for everything, and it’s called college" - Chef, South Park.
but after a while pills (Ketamine iirc) started to appear and I gradually lost interest in hanging around with them as did a few others as we simply didn't want to be involved with any of that stuff. I'm glad I was sensible enough to do that as I have a good job and career, the car I have always wanted and I am half way through a PPL course. Conversely one of the lads who strayed to 'harder' drugs died this year at 32. Having done nothing since flunking his A-levels due to drugs other than bounce from one waiter/factory work/**insert A.N other minimum wage job here** to the next. A real shame because at school he was a bright lad, great head for maths and a great track and field athlete (you always get these kinds of things in the news but its genuinely true - if he was a total clem bag from day one I'd have said so).
I’d keep your distance.
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