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There is probably not much you can do or say. Keep in touch if she needs your help she might ask but to be honest in my experience once coke addicts get to the point that they're asking for help you probably want to be 100miles away, especially female ones, depends how much you like and care for her.
The good news is in a few months you have a booty call to almost free sex if you get a couple of grams in.
The good news is in a few months you have a booty call to almost free sex if you get a couple of grams in.
You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
She either has to stop hanging out with these retards (which you say she won't) or will continue down this fruitless path.
I don't mind a dabble in the illicit everynow and again but have seen it turn into some friends lives. Very depressing.
I try to stay well clear of them now, never managed to convince a friend to change and when you try you only ever put them on the defensive.
She either has to stop hanging out with these retards (which you say she won't) or will continue down this fruitless path.
I don't mind a dabble in the illicit everynow and again but have seen it turn into some friends lives. Very depressing.
I try to stay well clear of them now, never managed to convince a friend to change and when you try you only ever put them on the defensive.
andy-xr said:
is this the girl who you were trying to figure out how to tell her happy birthday and then nail her, or a different girl?
Different. PH user in "knows more than 1 girl shocker"
Birthday girl has actually been in touch recently. Had a bit of a laugh back n forth. So that's possibly got a bit more legs than I thought at the time. But thanks for the posting history check.
To those offering sensible advice. Ta. I'm not going to mention anything to do with it, just play it by ear. If she mentions it we'll talk, if not we'll talk about other things. Probably not going to run a million miles from her though like some have suggested. As others have said, you can't MAKE anybody do anything if they don't WANT to. So we'll see how it progresses. I can see why someone said about paternal instincts though. And she's not at any sort of tipping point yet. So there's time to see if she just stops/cuts back on her own.
To the guy that mentioned it earlier. I would suggest there's absolutely NO chance of cokegirl ever being naked in front of me. Let alone shagging her. And yes it has been said to me if you get her a gram or 2 you'd probably score. Now I can go cold blooded when required. But that is probably beyond me. Conscience do cost
Rich_W said:
Different.
PH user in "knows more than 1 girl shocker"
Birthday girl has actually been in touch recently. Had a bit of a laugh back n forth. So that's possibly got a bit more legs than I thought at the time. But thanks for the posting history check.
To those offering sensible advice. Ta. I'm not going to mention anything to do with it, just play it by ear. If she mentions it we'll talk, if not we'll talk about other things. Probably not going to run a million miles from her though like some have suggested. As others have said, you can't MAKE anybody do anything if they don't WANT to. So we'll see how it progresses. I can see why someone said about paternal instincts though. And she's not at any sort of tipping point yet. So there's time to see if she just stops/cuts back on her own.
To the guy that mentioned it earlier. I would suggest there's absolutely NO chance of cokegirl ever being naked in front of me. Let alone shagging her. And yes it has been said to me if you get her a gram or 2 you'd probably score. Now I can go cold blooded when required. But that is probably beyond me. Conscience do cost
Meh, anyone willing to talk about it on a casual level to look cool probably isn't doing as much as they could be, otherwise they'd not show off about it. PH user in "knows more than 1 girl shocker"
Birthday girl has actually been in touch recently. Had a bit of a laugh back n forth. So that's possibly got a bit more legs than I thought at the time. But thanks for the posting history check.
To those offering sensible advice. Ta. I'm not going to mention anything to do with it, just play it by ear. If she mentions it we'll talk, if not we'll talk about other things. Probably not going to run a million miles from her though like some have suggested. As others have said, you can't MAKE anybody do anything if they don't WANT to. So we'll see how it progresses. I can see why someone said about paternal instincts though. And she's not at any sort of tipping point yet. So there's time to see if she just stops/cuts back on her own.
To the guy that mentioned it earlier. I would suggest there's absolutely NO chance of cokegirl ever being naked in front of me. Let alone shagging her. And yes it has been said to me if you get her a gram or 2 you'd probably score. Now I can go cold blooded when required. But that is probably beyond me. Conscience do cost
I've never been averse to sniff, I kind of look at it as 'at least it's not base' and a bit of casual isn't really a cause for concern in my mind. Sounds more like wannabe rebel than anything
andy-xr said:
Rich_W said:
Different.
PH user in "knows more than 1 girl shocker"
Birthday girl has actually been in touch recently. Had a bit of a laugh back n forth. So that's possibly got a bit more legs than I thought at the time. But thanks for the posting history check.
To those offering sensible advice. Ta. I'm not going to mention anything to do with it, just play it by ear. If she mentions it we'll talk, if not we'll talk about other things. Probably not going to run a million miles from her though like some have suggested. As others have said, you can't MAKE anybody do anything if they don't WANT to. So we'll see how it progresses. I can see why someone said about paternal instincts though. And she's not at any sort of tipping point yet. So there's time to see if she just stops/cuts back on her own.
To the guy that mentioned it earlier. I would suggest there's absolutely NO chance of cokegirl ever being naked in front of me. Let alone shagging her. And yes it has been said to me if you get her a gram or 2 you'd probably score. Now I can go cold blooded when required. But that is probably beyond me. Conscience do cost
Meh, anyone willing to talk about it on a casual level to look cool probably isn't doing as much as they could be, otherwise they'd not show off about it. PH user in "knows more than 1 girl shocker"
Birthday girl has actually been in touch recently. Had a bit of a laugh back n forth. So that's possibly got a bit more legs than I thought at the time. But thanks for the posting history check.
To those offering sensible advice. Ta. I'm not going to mention anything to do with it, just play it by ear. If she mentions it we'll talk, if not we'll talk about other things. Probably not going to run a million miles from her though like some have suggested. As others have said, you can't MAKE anybody do anything if they don't WANT to. So we'll see how it progresses. I can see why someone said about paternal instincts though. And she's not at any sort of tipping point yet. So there's time to see if she just stops/cuts back on her own.
To the guy that mentioned it earlier. I would suggest there's absolutely NO chance of cokegirl ever being naked in front of me. Let alone shagging her. And yes it has been said to me if you get her a gram or 2 you'd probably score. Now I can go cold blooded when required. But that is probably beyond me. Conscience do cost
I've never been averse to sniff, I kind of look at it as 'at least it's not base' and a bit of casual isn't really a cause for concern in my mind. Sounds more like wannabe rebel than anything
Some one I know can go out and have a dabble or do a weekend binge circumstances dependant but has gone a few months without it now.
Don't panic. She seems like she is trying to look clever by mouthing off.
andy-xr said:
Meh, anyone willing to talk about it on a casual level to look cool probably isn't doing as much as they could be, otherwise they'd not show off about it.
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and a bit of casual isn't really a cause for concern in my mind. Sounds more like wannabe rebel than anything
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and a bit of casual isn't really a cause for concern in my mind. Sounds more like wannabe rebel than anything
sc0tt said:
Indeed. I wouldn't be packing her off to rehab just yet.
Don't panic. She seems like she is trying to look clever by mouthing off.
Showing off is probably pretty accurate. Mutual friends have used that phrase along with Centre of attentionDon't panic. She seems like she is trying to look clever by mouthing off.
But I dunno why she'd tell me. Since she knows (Nose?) it's not something that interests me so why even bring it up. I guess like many men, I'll never fully understand a twentysomething girls brain.
Like I say, I'll see how it progresses. I was never about to do anything dramatic or force anything. Just wanted to be pre-armed with more knowledge than I currently have.
Never begrudge people that fall into a trap with drugs. They need help. Do not walk away. You have a connection with this person so please use that and help her. You may be the only person that she's opened up to, and if she's hinted that it's getting too frequent, then trust me, it's become a problem.
How you approach it is tricky though.
To all the others that are saying walk away, please don't take the moral high ground and brand this girl as a waster or whatever. Occasional drug use can easily get the better of someone and it does not make them a bad person. She could be really struggling mentally, it is not the time to judge, it's time to do the right thing.
OP if you want to pm me I'm happy to offer what support I can.
I guess the people that are saying walk away are the same people that say 'cheer up' to people with depression.
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How you approach it is tricky though.
To all the others that are saying walk away, please don't take the moral high ground and brand this girl as a waster or whatever. Occasional drug use can easily get the better of someone and it does not make them a bad person. She could be really struggling mentally, it is not the time to judge, it's time to do the right thing.
OP if you want to pm me I'm happy to offer what support I can.
I guess the people that are saying walk away are the same people that say 'cheer up' to people with depression.
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