Friends stag do & wedding costing me over 2k
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Sore subject. I've not paid anywhere near some of you though. If my friendship is defined by how much I spend on your wedding then f
k you we're not friends.
Other people's "days" are costing me over £1500/year at the moment. If I decide I want to get married I'm going to ps off and do it on my own then when I get back I'll rent a room and people can come and get pissed.
k you we're not friends. Other people's "days" are costing me over £1500/year at the moment. If I decide I want to get married I'm going to p
s off and do it on my own then when I get back I'll rent a room and people can come and get pissed.£6k for the wedding. It was in Mexico so we treated it like a family holiday so that included 3 tickets,theme parks, dog sitter etc. His stag do cost me an extra £200 and the UK party cost me £100 for a hotel and £170 in rum for the guests to toast.
He is my best mate and I was his best man so I wanted to go. I really wish I hadnt spent so much though as there's things I could have done with the cash. I also hate "all inclusive" beach holidays
After spending some time with his mrs and her family I did tell him "as your best man my advice is not to do it". He laughed it off and said he would be ok. Time will tell I suppose.
He is my best mate and I was his best man so I wanted to go. I really wish I hadnt spent so much though as there's things I could have done with the cash. I also hate "all inclusive" beach holidays
After spending some time with his mrs and her family I did tell him "as your best man my advice is not to do it". He laughed it off and said he would be ok. Time will tell I suppose.
Not done a vast amount but they're coming thick and fast now, spent £1000 on booze in 3 days in Chamonix earlier this year for a stag, was not all that difficult either 
Got three coming up in various locations of varying expense. I don't mind though, I'd only spend it on st anyway if I wasn't doing something.
Got three coming up in various locations of varying expense. I don't mind though, I'd only spend it on s
t anyway if I wasn't doing something.ATG said:
Strikes me as a monumental conceit to drag your guests halfway across the planet at their expense. When I got hitched we chose the venue so that it would be as easy as possible for the guests to get to. The whole point of a wedding is to get a group of people together to witness the marriage and spend some time in each others company. Including getting pissed and staggering around on the dance floor. If someone wants to go meet Willy Wonka in a plastic theme park, fine, but save it for the honeymoon or whenever. At all costs spare your poor bleeding guests.
I beg to differ. We got married in Mauritius (where we live currently) but are both from the UK. Sure, not quite as many people could make it as if we had it in the local village hall, but it turned in to a 2 week holiday for all our guests - which meant our two families got to know each other as they would never have done if this didn't happen (my family being from Devon and the wife's from the channel Islands).Sheepshanks said:
About £10K. Family friends wedding in Disneyworld, Florida. Marriage lasted 18mths.
How dare they, frankly.We are going to Greece for a friends wedding next June, a couple of grand for the holiday plus whatever we spend - we had talked about doing a bit of something around that time anyway, instead of our usual Download Festival trip, so it aligned nicely, how thoughtful of them!
Edited by Axionknight on Tuesday 6th October 20:38
It suited us well. We got tired of family pocitics so booked a wedding to suit us. Anyone who wanted to come, anyone who wanted to moan the way they had been doing were welcome to stay the fk behind.
The only sad part was my parents had to drop out at the last minute due to an unresolved medical diagnosis and insane medical cover quote.
k behind.The only sad part was my parents had to drop out at the last minute due to an unresolved medical diagnosis and insane medical cover quote.
We're getting married in USA, and also Sri Lanka, with a party here.
USA because Lady F is American, SL because my family is originally from there and we'll do it as part of our annual trip there, UK because I am British and we live in London.
Have made it absolutely clear to all that they really do not have to come, and would be welcome to the UK bit. It is an expensive ask to expect people to come such a long way. Those who are coming are combining the trip with family holidays.
None of the weddings themselves are particularly expensive. Travel costs are high for guests, though.
USA because Lady F is American, SL because my family is originally from there and we'll do it as part of our annual trip there, UK because I am British and we live in London.
Have made it absolutely clear to all that they really do not have to come, and would be welcome to the UK bit. It is an expensive ask to expect people to come such a long way. Those who are coming are combining the trip with family holidays.
None of the weddings themselves are particularly expensive. Travel costs are high for guests, though.
Stag do in Iceland cost me about £1500 as did another Vegas one. Still I got a little holiday with my 4 best mates, so well worth it IMO.
As others have said, going to weddings gets bloody expensive, if you stay Friday and Saturday night, fuel getting there, drinks you can be looking at £4-£500 start getting invited to stag and hen dos and it's going to get in to 4 figures!
As others have said, going to weddings gets bloody expensive, if you stay Friday and Saturday night, fuel getting there, drinks you can be looking at £4-£500 start getting invited to stag and hen dos and it's going to get in to 4 figures!
Harry Flashman said:
We're getting married in USA, and also Sri Lanka, with a party here.
a guy at work got married last year. bride and groom both from new zealand. they had a wedding there, then one in china [her family] and a third in malaysia [his]. the latter were both OTT, he spent an absolute fortune.I fairly recently went on a fantastic stag do weekend in The Lakes for a mate of mine. We did some outdoor activities (organised and implemented by the best man), humiliated the stag and all slept in a bunkhouse.
At the wedding itself, which was also in The Lakes, my family all camped in a tent. It was all great and cost us very little.
Thankfully, my friends haven't been into getting married in the Carribean or the Far East. We wouldn't have gone anyway....
"I spend,therefore I am?" -no
At the wedding itself, which was also in The Lakes, my family all camped in a tent. It was all great and cost us very little.
Thankfully, my friends haven't been into getting married in the Carribean or the Far East. We wouldn't have gone anyway....
"I spend,therefore I am?" -no
Edited by MC Bodge on Wednesday 7th October 06:43
I can't remember how much it cost us, but the mother-in-law went out to Australia to get married (her mother and sisters all live there) and of course we went. Handily, the Melbourne Grand Prix was the following weekend and my best man's wedding in Perth the weekend after that! All worked out very nicely and we had a great time...
djt100 said:
MY Sister is in Thailand getting married right now.. Cost me £0. As i told her she was being a selfish cow, My parents are not really in the position to afford it, so the holiday of a lifetime they were planning is out of the window just to go to the wedding. for 5 F**king days.
How much is it costing them? As the prices I've seen late,y that can be done for £1500 all in. Inclusive of spending money too for 5 days I'd guessshirt said:
Harry Flashman said:
We're getting married in USA, and also Sri Lanka, with a party here.
a guy at work got married last year. bride and groom both from new zealand. they had a wedding there, then one in china [her family] and a third in malaysia [his]. the latter were both OTT, he spent an absolute fortune.For my closest friend we were on the verge of going to Vegas for the stag which wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest as we've been close friends for about 17 years (we ended up in Edinburgh though due to cost objections from others still had a great time though)
However another friend that I only see a few times a year is getting married next year and wants to go on a Ski holiday Stag somewhere in Europe for 2 weeks, I politely declined.
I think originally there were about 25 to go but when the costs started gearing up it dropped to 6 then 5 I think.
still had a great time though)However another friend that I only see a few times a year is getting married next year and wants to go on a Ski holiday Stag somewhere in Europe for 2 weeks, I politely declined.
I think originally there were about 25 to go but when the costs started gearing up it dropped to 6 then 5 I think.
Pixel Pusher said:
I'm assuming part of the family is from Thailand? If not, that's a big ask to expect people to schlep all that way.
The other thing that's passed me by; When did a Stag night turn into a Stag weekend, turn into a Stag week, turn into a Stag week abroad?
Personally, I'd have said no to both, but then I'm miserable like that.
Yes his missus is from Thailand so their getting married in her village.The other thing that's passed me by; When did a Stag night turn into a Stag weekend, turn into a Stag week, turn into a Stag week abroad?
Personally, I'd have said no to both, but then I'm miserable like that.
The figures are crazy really there were about 25 of us in Portugal at about £800 each that's £20,000 spent on one persons stag do.
Last year someone I know was having a stag do in Las Vegas, so a few of us went to San Fran then LA and then met the rest of the stag party in Vegas. It turned out to be more of a holiday rather than a stag as only one night was for the stag. The best bit was hiring a Camaro & Challenger and driving over to Hoover Dam & Valley of Fire.
Edited by PAULJ5555 on Wednesday 7th October 12:15
GG89 said:
shirt said:
Harry Flashman said:
We're getting married in USA, and also Sri Lanka, with a party here.
a guy at work got married last year. bride and groom both from new zealand. they had a wedding there, then one in china [her family] and a third in malaysia [his]. the latter were both OTT, he spent an absolute fortune.AyBee said:
AB said:
I was best man at a mates wedding the Caribbean... cost £5k as I had to take the wife too!
It seems I'm rare in that I got married in this country!
Out of curiosity - did your mate consult you about getting married in the Caribbean before it was all booked or would you just have been replaced by the second best man if you'd said you couldn't afford it?It seems I'm rare in that I got married in this country!
No doubt it saved him a fortune over getting married over here and feeling obliged to invite distant relatives he hardly saw etc, we spent what we probably would have done to go on holiday and everyone was happy.
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