Friends stag do & wedding costing me over 2k
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briangriffin said:
How much is it costing them? As the prices I've seen late,y that can be done for £1500 all in. Inclusive of spending money too for 5 days I'd guess
possibly can, but my sister's other half was in an accident at work and got a huge payout, so they booked top dog on everything. My parents have gone I'm not sure of the cots but it's in excess of 5k . Me and my brother have not gone. To me the whole point of a wedding is the gather friends and family, she has about 8 people going. djt100 said:
To me the whole point of a wedding is the gather friends and family, she has about 8 people going.
Absolutely. Obviously, there may be circumstances where people want to get away to get married, but mostly it's just selfish. My Dad couldn't travel to my brother's wedding abroad - all driven by the bride - and he was very upset about it.Edited by Sheepshanks on Wednesday 7th October 09:31
I went to a family wedding in New York in the summer (we had to go during the school holiday as they wanted their friends kids there) This in turn cost every guest an extra £200 for flights.
Between the flights, hotel and spending money it cost my partner and I £4000. I also had to take a week off work.
To say I was unhappy was an understatement, and my girlfriend did not understand why I initially said I was not going...
The worst thing was that when I came back I was needing a holiday.
Selfish.
Between the flights, hotel and spending money it cost my partner and I £4000. I also had to take a week off work.
To say I was unhappy was an understatement, and my girlfriend did not understand why I initially said I was not going...
The worst thing was that when I came back I was needing a holiday.
Selfish.
My wedding cost me well into 6 figures.
I wanted my mates to attend so got all of them Asian outfits to wear , being Asian the weddings are always huge and tend to last a few days so different outfits for each of my mates, plus there partners.
The wedding was in the uk but one of the events leading up to it was in Europe so paid for my best mates flight and accommodation for the weekend.
Most my mates were happy to pay for stuff themselves but my thoughts were that they were buying new Asian clothes that they would never ever wear agin so bit rude of me to expect them to fork out that cost.
I wanted my mates to attend so got all of them Asian outfits to wear , being Asian the weddings are always huge and tend to last a few days so different outfits for each of my mates, plus there partners.
The wedding was in the uk but one of the events leading up to it was in Europe so paid for my best mates flight and accommodation for the weekend.
Most my mates were happy to pay for stuff themselves but my thoughts were that they were buying new Asian clothes that they would never ever wear agin so bit rude of me to expect them to fork out that cost.
king mental mate, no matter how much money you have.
Went to Miami for a stag do for a uni friend of mine about 4 years ago, for spending, hotel and flights and a stonking £400 each for a night out, limo/strippers/club/VIP table etc the total cost to me for 8 nights was 2k.
Miami music festival, spring break and a week on Ocean Drive. Brilliant.
Miami music festival, spring break and a week on Ocean Drive. Brilliant.
In theory some of these could be done a lot more cheaply. It's just that it's adding on "x" days holidays since you are there already so might as well make a holiday of it. So for a number of people they would have paid that on a holiday anyway, just the location and time is chosen for them.
That said, it is more about getting the family together in my view, so is a bit of an issue excluding a lot of people because of high costs.
That said, it is more about getting the family together in my view, so is a bit of an issue excluding a lot of people because of high costs.
We are doing alright budget wise, circa £11.5k but will end up nearer £13k.
Ceremony is beside her parents town, but my family are schleping down from Aberdoom. so paying for a few folks rooms adds up.
But it will be a good day and not break the bank as while we are getting some things we want we are beign pragmatic too, i.e. not yes to every option.
Stag do will be paintball and nice meal\booze later locally to home. No point asking guys to fork out heaps when i know a few cant afford it and i cant afford to prop them up just so we can travel.
But each to their own, guy i work with budgeted £25k, they spent over £50k in the end!
I still cant work out how it cost £10k to go to WDW, was it best hotels and a lot of folk?
Just curious
Ceremony is beside her parents town, but my family are schleping down from Aberdoom. so paying for a few folks rooms adds up.
But it will be a good day and not break the bank as while we are getting some things we want we are beign pragmatic too, i.e. not yes to every option.
Stag do will be paintball and nice meal\booze later locally to home. No point asking guys to fork out heaps when i know a few cant afford it and i cant afford to prop them up just so we can travel.
But each to their own, guy i work with budgeted £25k, they spent over £50k in the end!
I still cant work out how it cost £10k to go to WDW, was it best hotels and a lot of folk?
Just curious
P-Jay said:
Few hundred quid to see my mate get married in Bavaria - little village in the hills, no hotel so we all stayed with their friends and neighbours - best wedding I've ever been to (and I include my own) it was a little quiet ceremony in the town hall followed by a very loud party in the village hall with loads of unusual (to us) games they play at weddings - at one point the female guests 'kidnap' the bride and the males guests and the groom have to search the village for her - she was in the pub, more cake (lots of cakes at Bavarian weddings) more beer and lots of singing.
Marriage didn't last the Honeymoon - true story, she was leading this crazy double-life, when she was supposed to be in Germany seeing her Parents she was in Italy seeing her boyfriend.
Still, a brilliant party.
Wife's cousin is getting married in Jamaica next year, I've had to say no. I think it's starting to unravel a bit, the only guest who can go, or at least are willing to spend thousands to do so are the older relatives.
I know some who've done it abroad be very good with where they elected to get married. Not so expensive that those who really want to go (and those whom they'd want to go) can and will go, but just expensive enough to put off the half cousins, other halfs and friends of friends who'd otherwise be coming for a mostly free meal and a party.Marriage didn't last the Honeymoon - true story, she was leading this crazy double-life, when she was supposed to be in Germany seeing her Parents she was in Italy seeing her boyfriend.
Still, a brilliant party.
Wife's cousin is getting married in Jamaica next year, I've had to say no. I think it's starting to unravel a bit, the only guest who can go, or at least are willing to spend thousands to do so are the older relatives.
RobGT81 said:
Makes no sense, a couple of grand gets you the same end result as a £100k wedding.
But it doesn't show off to friends and family.Woman at work took a half days annual leave and went off to get married in the afternoon at the local registry office. Must of only have cost her a few quid.
I went on another stag do this year it was Quad biking and clay pigeon shooting and then back to the stags house for a BBQ and about 6 hours of drinking spent about £100 it was probably a better stag do than the £700 stag in Portugal.
Edited by PAULJ5555 on Wednesday 7th October 16:40
okgo said:
It probably wasn't better though.
That all depends on how you define better. Getting pissed up somewhere abroad and remembering very little vs getting pissed up in the UK and remembering very little...I've spent a few hundred quid per stag do and wedding that I have attended. The most was probably on the one where I was a best man. I've spoken to wedding photographers who have worked at some stupidly expensive weddings. Hell one of them was flown over to USA just for an engagement shoot where the couple had hired out a venue and a LP640 SV just for the pictures.
PAULJ5555 said:
Mate of mine is getting married in Thailand so the cost for me to see my mate get married is £1800.
The stag do is in Portugal so that's another £700
Totally wrong and unfair.......The stag do is in Portugal so that's another £700
You should have serious words with your mate.
Everyone knows it should be Stag do in Thailand and wedding in Portugal!
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