Friends stag do & wedding costing me over 2k
Discussion
AB said:
Yeah he said he was thinking of doing it. There was about 20 people who went in the end, all close friends and family and we all turned it into our annual Summer holiday so there was no ill feeling from anyone. He then had a party for everyone who would have come to a traditional evening part when we got back.
No doubt it saved him a fortune over getting married over here and feeling obliged to invite distant relatives he hardly saw etc, we spent what we probably would have done to go on holiday and everyone was happy.
I don't understand why he saved a lot of money? Surely no one pays for everyone that they invite (I mean, you pay for food and drink at the reception) do they. Accommodation and travel? No way.No doubt it saved him a fortune over getting married over here and feeling obliged to invite distant relatives he hardly saw etc, we spent what we probably would have done to go on holiday and everyone was happy.
okgo said:
Of course, but citing £x as a waste of money as yours was 'probably' better for much less is a silly argument.
The point being that spendings lots of cash doesn't necessarily make for a more enjoyable event.
Splurging £1000's on a stag do isn't necessary, despite what some might think. It's what you do and the friends you do it with that counts. Not everybody values spraying champagne everywhere and cruising about in a stretched Hummer.
It might be good to do something like drive Ferrari 250 GTOs or Lightweight E-types on track or fly MiG jets, though
Splurging many tens of £1000s on what is mostly expensive tat for a wedding DAY is mostly just ridiculous conspicuous consumption to show off, even if you can afford it.
Edited by MC Bodge on Wednesday 7th October 17:52
RZ1 said:
Not really, I only intend to get married once so why not do it properly.
When you break the costs down it starts to make a lot more sense,
15k honeymoon which included 3 countries and the Singapore F1.
Rings
Jewellery
Weddings outfits
Venue hire
Catering
Photography
Etc
My wedding was £30k and felt that things got completely out of control but in for a penny and all that. I've not included rings and honeymoon in that so you're probably up to half of the initial amount I was shocked at. I suppose if this guy has twice my means then it's acceptable but my initial response was 'HOW MUCH'?When you break the costs down it starts to make a lot more sense,
15k honeymoon which included 3 countries and the Singapore F1.
Rings
Jewellery
Weddings outfits
Venue hire
Catering
Photography
Etc
I suppose the above is right, you do it once, you want to make it memorable and you want everyone to enjoy it and I guess remember it for years to come and if you can, then why not?
The Mad Monk said:
I don't understand why he saved a lot of money? Surely no one pays for everyone that they invite (I mean, you pay for food and drink at the reception) do they. Accommodation and travel? No way.
No of course not but a meal and drinks abroad is cheaper (this one certainly was) than in the UK and you're only catering for 20% if that of the people you would have in the UK as you don't feel obliged to invite a wider group and a further % won't come anyway. Wouldn't pay £2.5k to go to anybodies wedding. Not a f
king prayer.
OTOH...
me her.
king prayer.OTOH...
Sheepshanks said:
About £10K. Family friends wedding in Disneyworld, Florida. Marriage lasted 18mths.
That I probably would pay for. Daughter loves Disney and i've wanted to go DisneyWorld and Universal for as long as I can remember. Cant wait till she's old enough to enjoy everything then I can book it for I've been to every wedding to which I've been invited regardless of the location and all bar one of the stag do's (as I was already on holiday).
Latest one was local to the bride and groom but flights, car rental and accommodation for all on his side, and I ended up going twice in 3 weeks.........probably cost about £1k but I know they appreciated me going..........funnily enough, one of the other guests was complaining about cost (he got a lift in my rental car and slept on people's floors) which I thought was amusing and pointed out to him how much it had cost everyone else.....
Latest one was local to the bride and groom but flights, car rental and accommodation for all on his side, and I ended up going twice in 3 weeks.........probably cost about £1k but I know they appreciated me going..........funnily enough, one of the other guests was complaining about cost (he got a lift in my rental car and slept on people's floors) which I thought was amusing and pointed out to him how much it had cost everyone else.....
It all kinda depends on your point of view. I could say
"I spent thousands going to a mate's wedding in Australia"
or I could say
"I used a mate's wedding in Australia as an excuse to have an awesome holiday"
I've used weddings as excuses to visit countries all over the world - as someone who sucks at making decisions, it's been great as it reduces the holiday planning to what to do in country or area X rather than sitting staring at a globe trying to make up my mind
"I spent thousands going to a mate's wedding in Australia"
or I could say
"I used a mate's wedding in Australia as an excuse to have an awesome holiday"
I've used weddings as excuses to visit countries all over the world - as someone who sucks at making decisions, it's been great as it reduces the holiday planning to what to do in country or area X rather than sitting staring at a globe trying to make up my mind
troc said:
It all kinda depends on your point of view. I could say
"I spent thousands going to a mate's wedding in Australia"
or I could say
"I used a mate's wedding in Australia as an excuse to have an awesome holiday"
I've used weddings as excuses to visit countries all over the world - as someone who sucks at making decisions, it's been great as it reduces the holiday planning to what to do in country or area X rather than sitting staring at a globe trying to make up my mind
this "I spent thousands going to a mate's wedding in Australia"
or I could say
"I used a mate's wedding in Australia as an excuse to have an awesome holiday"
I've used weddings as excuses to visit countries all over the world - as someone who sucks at making decisions, it's been great as it reduces the holiday planning to what to do in country or area X rather than sitting staring at a globe trying to make up my mind
if we've had a foreign wedding, we've always conmbined with a main holiday.
You don't need to spend tonnes of money on a wedding- but having a good budget does help. We spent roughly 12k on our wedding- we paid half. We had an amazing day but there were a couple of really fun things we would have done on top if we had had the money.
I was lucky enough to be invited to an indian wedding a few years ago where the father is one of the wealthiest men in India. It would have cost millions to him, but cost us nothing, and was a once in a lifetime experience. the daily gifts alone for the thousand or so guests must have been £3-4m!
I just spent 5500/6000 on my wedding cracking day ,everyone said how good it was ,I did go to Benedorm with my two brothers ( one of which best man ) and a close mate ,stag do,also had a local do in Cardiff with my social circle of mates and a couple of guys I work with another good day .
Benedorm trip was about about 300 all in plus beer money.
I did pay 2000 to go to Cyprus for my brothers wedding ,but treated it as a holiday also ,as we did our own thing for a few days
Benedorm trip was about about 300 all in plus beer money.
I did pay 2000 to go to Cyprus for my brothers wedding ,but treated it as a holiday also ,as we did our own thing for a few days
Edited by eskidavies on Thursday 8th October 23:11
350zStee said:
I went to a family wedding in New York in the summer (we had to go during the school holiday as they wanted their friends kids there) This in turn cost every guest an extra £200 for flights.
Between the flights, hotel and spending money it cost my partner and I £4000. I also had to take a week off work.
To say I was unhappy was an understatement, and my girlfriend did not understand why I initially said I was not going...
The worst thing was that when I came back I was needing a holiday.
Selfish.
Why did you go then?Between the flights, hotel and spending money it cost my partner and I £4000. I also had to take a week off work.
To say I was unhappy was an understatement, and my girlfriend did not understand why I initially said I was not going...
The worst thing was that when I came back I was needing a holiday.
Selfish.
Ari said:
Good God man, have you NO idea..!?
The whole point of a wedding is to impress as many friends and family as possible with the biggest flashiest bash you can possibly put on your credit cards in a the vain hope that they'll be impressed with your massive wealth and success (even though 95% of them know you live in a rented one bedroom flat above a Chinese takeaway).
It's the very rock that a marriage should be built on - a huge sham and massive amounts of debt.
How can you expect any relationship to last without it?
Your friends sound awful.The whole point of a wedding is to impress as many friends and family as possible with the biggest flashiest bash you can possibly put on your credit cards in a the vain hope that they'll be impressed with your massive wealth and success (even though 95% of them know you live in a rented one bedroom flat above a Chinese takeaway).
It's the very rock that a marriage should be built on - a huge sham and massive amounts of debt.
How can you expect any relationship to last without it?
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