Naming your first child and your input?
Discussion
BrabusMog said:
Here's the thing...
she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.
Would she go for a comprimise of just Ben?she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.
RaptureJames said:
BrabusMog said:
Here's the thing...
she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.
Would she go for a comprimise of just Ben?she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.
We had a shortlist of a couple of boy and girl names we both liked as we didn't find out if we were having a son or daughter until he arrived, in the end my wife looked at me when he was handed to us and spur of the moment just said his name to me, it just happened to be one of the names I had picked
We then used the other name we liked as his middle name.When we were choosing our shortlist we both had power of veto, so if there was a name one of us liked but the other really didn't it wasn't put on the list, to save any bad feeling further down the line. the issue I had was going to an all boys school, and not really liking anyone, so most of the boys names she chose got thrown out!
Edited by lufbramatt on Thursday 26th November 10:02
rsv696 said:
Mrs Rsv is Swedish too. We decided on English names that work in both countries. Ben could be a good compromise. You have to careful - you'll probably know this, but Pippa means "bonk" in Swedish for example! My mrs spotted an army fitness campaign a few years ago called "Get fitta" which translates as goat fanny 
Goat fanny is quite polite, given the fluidity of Swedish curse words 
I wouldn't compromise with Ben, I don't like the name, neither does she. She is leaning towards Anders or William as her back up options, but I really want Oscar. Perhaps I am being the unreasonable one here
rsv696 said:
Mrs Rsv is Swedish too. We decided on English names that work in both countries. Ben could be a good compromise. You have to careful - you'll probably know this, but Pippa means "bonk" in Swedish for example! My mrs spotted an army fitness campaign a few years ago called "Get fitta" which translates as goat fanny
but, but, but Pippi Langstrump! (the 'spunky' Pippi Longstocking!)for both of ours, we created a list of boys and girls names.
cross referenced the lists and merged into 3 for each.
Thomas
Matthew
Daniel.
Rebecca
Megan
Sarah
I ruined Megan and Thomas as i saw them as short for Opthomas Prime and Megantron.
so we were down to 2 for each.
when Dan came out we thought he looked more Daniel than Matthew.
middle name Graham was after my wife's grandfather who died a week prior to Dan's birth.
with number 2, lists but no names from the original lists for boys ( not good enough for Dan, then it's not good enough for #2)
then it went to s
t. f it was a boy Callum Sam ( my brother)
if a girl, Phoebe
and middle name from wife's godmother.
Luckily Phoebe looks like a Phoebe,
avoid the baby names books, unless you want a Shamoniqua Badonkadonk ( they all seem to be heavily american)
cross referenced the lists and merged into 3 for each.
Thomas
Matthew
Daniel.
Rebecca
Megan
Sarah
I ruined Megan and Thomas as i saw them as short for Opthomas Prime and Megantron.
so we were down to 2 for each.
when Dan came out we thought he looked more Daniel than Matthew.
middle name Graham was after my wife's grandfather who died a week prior to Dan's birth.
with number 2, lists but no names from the original lists for boys ( not good enough for Dan, then it's not good enough for #2)
then it went to s
t. f it was a boy Callum Sam ( my brother)if a girl, Phoebe
and middle name from wife's godmother.
Luckily Phoebe looks like a Phoebe,
avoid the baby names books, unless you want a Shamoniqua Badonkadonk ( they all seem to be heavily american)
My wife and I had grandads with the same name (William) and my grans surname was Thomas, so our son is William (Billy) Thomas. Took all of about 3 minutes to decide on his names. If we have another and it's a boy, that will take a bit longer to decide. Girl would be easy due to grandmothers names.
BrabusMog said:
My missus looks at it in a "sink or swim" kind of way and has questioned how he will get through life if he hasn't had a tough childhood 
I can sort of see what she means, but at the same time I wouldn't attach weights to his swim shorts to make sure he doesn't find swimming too easy, if you see what I mean?
And the "G" isn't silent, but it's not pronounced that strongly, either. It's the Swedish version of Benedict, I think.
Call him Sue? I can sort of see what she means, but at the same time I wouldn't attach weights to his swim shorts to make sure he doesn't find swimming too easy, if you see what I mean?And the "G" isn't silent, but it's not pronounced that strongly, either. It's the Swedish version of Benedict, I think.
lufbramatt said:
We had a shortlist of a couple of boy and girl names we both liked as we didn't find out if we were having a son or daughter until he arrived, in the end my wife looked at me when he was handed to us and spur of the moment just said his name to me, it just happened to be one of the names I had picked We then used the other name we liked as his middle name.
We are expecting our first in January and also don't know if its going to be a boy or a girl. Wife very strongly leaning to a name that i repeatedly veto (Arthur for reference) and we might be heading into a "see what he/she looks like when they come out". Of course its going to look like and Arthur if a boy pops out..... We then used the other name we liked as his middle name.Edited by lufbramatt on Thursday 26th November 10:02
Its been pretty tough coming up with names so far - perhaps knowing the sex before hand would have made this process a little easier!
Just got the one.
I was insistent, with the surname of Walker, that any boy child should be called Luke Sky. With hindsight possibly a good thing that we had a girl. We decided on Chloe but decided that it was a bit too common (with regards to occurrence before anyone takes offence) so we finally settled on Chloe-ann Victoria. This was pretty much as soon as we found out that we were having a girl and never changed
My stepson is called Max. Middle name is Parker, after his great grandad
I was insistent, with the surname of Walker, that any boy child should be called Luke Sky. With hindsight possibly a good thing that we had a girl. We decided on Chloe but decided that it was a bit too common (with regards to occurrence before anyone takes offence) so we finally settled on Chloe-ann Victoria. This was pretty much as soon as we found out that we were having a girl and never changed
My stepson is called Max. Middle name is Parker, after his great grandad
We both had equal input in names but I had a couple of things put me off some names, So i liked some names but didn't like the short version. So they were out . Also wanted something that was not particularly popular as didn't want him to known by his full name all the way though school.
Used this site for reference once we had a few names in the hat.
http://names.darkgreener.com/
Also you have to make sure the name flows from first to last name. if that makes sense. e.g. I really liked the name Jennon, but my surname is Taylor. Once we said them both together the name was out Jennon Taylor, sounded like genitalia. Even harder naming child number 2 ,
For reference my eldest is Ted and my youngest is Ray ( Named after his grandfather who died shortly before he was born), but also a name we really liked and went well with Ted and Taylor
Bengt I would not feel a suitable name in england, as we are simple folk and will pronounce it wrong for his entire life, that will grate as he grows up and yes rife for pee taking during school year and thats now somehting you would want for your kids.
Used this site for reference once we had a few names in the hat.
http://names.darkgreener.com/
Also you have to make sure the name flows from first to last name. if that makes sense. e.g. I really liked the name Jennon, but my surname is Taylor. Once we said them both together the name was out Jennon Taylor, sounded like genitalia. Even harder naming child number 2 ,
For reference my eldest is Ted and my youngest is Ray ( Named after his grandfather who died shortly before he was born), but also a name we really liked and went well with Ted and Taylor
Bengt I would not feel a suitable name in england, as we are simple folk and will pronounce it wrong for his entire life, that will grate as he grows up and yes rife for pee taking during school year and thats now somehting you would want for your kids.
Hugo a Gogo said:
on the other hand, if you're like me, the idea of having a pile of pink clothes and a pink nursery for a girl makes me sick
we never bought a single pink thing, some pink things were gifts of course, she's grown up a perfectly normal girl so far
And that's what makes the world go round we never bought a single pink thing, some pink things were gifts of course, she's grown up a perfectly normal girl so far
We have a few blue things bought, but that's more because blue is my favourite colour. We've also done the chavvy thing and spent a shed load of cash in JD Sports and Footlocker to make sure he is well dressed for any sporting event for the first 6 months of his life
And the reason I wanted to know the sex wasn't so much for the colours, but more for the animals I'd paint on the wall
An alligator and a gorilla would look weird in a girls nursery, as would a pony and a cockatoo in a boys...We knew we were having a boy, and my wife wanted to call him Frank, after her Dad. It's not a name I particularly like, I had visions of people thinking we'd named him after Lampard (I loathe Chelsea, take note I did this for you, SilverSixer) but most importantly I don't think it flows well with our unusual surname.
So we both sat down independently and wrote our own shortlists, and the one name we both agreed on was James. It was particularly relevant for me in that trying for a baby took 18 months, and on the night he was conceived (we know for sure, as it was the only 'try' that month as we were on the verge of giving up) I had a ticket to see my favourite band, James, play in London, only to be given the not-to-be-argued-with-instruction that I was required to 'Come Home' (pun intended) that night to provide husbandly services.
I've still got the unused gig ticket filed away, I'll give it to the boy one day when he's old enough to understand.
So we both sat down independently and wrote our own shortlists, and the one name we both agreed on was James. It was particularly relevant for me in that trying for a baby took 18 months, and on the night he was conceived (we know for sure, as it was the only 'try' that month as we were on the verge of giving up) I had a ticket to see my favourite band, James, play in London, only to be given the not-to-be-argued-with-instruction that I was required to 'Come Home' (pun intended) that night to provide husbandly services.
I've still got the unused gig ticket filed away, I'll give it to the boy one day when he's old enough to understand.
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