Wife pregnant with twins..
Discussion
Congratulations!
Echo the rest / sleep advice, enjoy it while you can. Time will not be your own for some time.
If you have any DIY jobs to do, do them now, you won't want / have time to do them once the nippers arrive!
If you don't mind me asking, are the twins the result of IVF? Often is the way with IVF treatment.
Echo the rest / sleep advice, enjoy it while you can. Time will not be your own for some time.
If you have any DIY jobs to do, do them now, you won't want / have time to do them once the nippers arrive!
If you don't mind me asking, are the twins the result of IVF? Often is the way with IVF treatment.
Dr Murdoch said:
Congratulations!
Echo the rest / sleep advice, enjoy it while you can. Time will not be your own for some time.
If you have any DIY jobs to do, do them now, you won't want / have time to do them once the nippers arrive!
If you don't mind me asking, are the twins the result of IVF? Often is the way with IVF treatment.
Some sound advice I've started the DIY jobs and the wife has bought the odd baby things nappies etc.Echo the rest / sleep advice, enjoy it while you can. Time will not be your own for some time.
If you have any DIY jobs to do, do them now, you won't want / have time to do them once the nippers arrive!
If you don't mind me asking, are the twins the result of IVF? Often is the way with IVF treatment.
The twins were conceived the old fashioned way
no IVF involved. Congratulations!
I have just had a single child (Well, wife did).
It has been by far the toughest 6 months of my life! I cannot even imagine how hard it will be having twins!
Prep the in laws and anyone else baby focused, get as much help as you can... because it still wont be enough. Talk to your work and get in a position to be as flexible as possible. you will be late to work, you will have many sick days and you will need to duck out to go and relieve your wife.
Only other advice is to try and breast feed. It calms mum and babys down... and is free food that's always ready to go. Making up bottles is a surprising large drain on your time and requires a hell of a lot of kit.
Purchase some puppy mats. Absorbent, cheap and disposable. Put them down before changing baby. There will be poo and wee every ware, and being able to remove and dispose of a mat is a life saver.
Baby mobiles - Get one and put it above the changing area. Something for them to look at and be distracted stops them from kicking poo and wee every ware. Wriggling babys are difficult to get nappies on to.
All of that said.... it is about to be the most rewarding year of your life.
you will know tru love, a love like no other you will have experienced. (Though it does take a couple months to sink in).
It also goes too quickly, take time to do family pictures and just take it all in. 6 months sounds like a long time but it goes in the blink of an eye.
Good luck
I have just had a single child (Well, wife did).
It has been by far the toughest 6 months of my life! I cannot even imagine how hard it will be having twins!
Prep the in laws and anyone else baby focused, get as much help as you can... because it still wont be enough. Talk to your work and get in a position to be as flexible as possible. you will be late to work, you will have many sick days and you will need to duck out to go and relieve your wife.
Only other advice is to try and breast feed. It calms mum and babys down... and is free food that's always ready to go. Making up bottles is a surprising large drain on your time and requires a hell of a lot of kit.
Purchase some puppy mats. Absorbent, cheap and disposable. Put them down before changing baby. There will be poo and wee every ware, and being able to remove and dispose of a mat is a life saver.
Baby mobiles - Get one and put it above the changing area. Something for them to look at and be distracted stops them from kicking poo and wee every ware. Wriggling babys are difficult to get nappies on to.
All of that said.... it is about to be the most rewarding year of your life.
you will know tru love, a love like no other you will have experienced. (Though it does take a couple months to sink in).
It also goes too quickly, take time to do family pictures and just take it all in. 6 months sounds like a long time but it goes in the blink of an eye.
Good luck
We found that buying £10 our £20 worth of Sainsburys/Tesco vouchers when we did the weekly shop worked better than stocking up on supplies. We didn't notice the extra spend really and had a decent wedge to keep in our pockets for those "s
t, we've run out of x" moments (usually, 'x' was/is money!). Plus, different kids don't take to the same nappies, so you could well end up with 500 useless nappies if you stock up now!
Congratulations though, enjoy it
t, we've run out of x" moments (usually, 'x' was/is money!). Plus, different kids don't take to the same nappies, so you could well end up with 500 useless nappies if you stock up now!Congratulations though, enjoy it
Congratulations on the expected arrivals!
I've got twin daughters (now 17) and had a wry smile when I read your post.
Like any single or multiple child birth, parenting is learn as you go I think.
With twins you do have an added few differences though.
1. All expenses happen at the same time, new school uniform x2, birthday x2, school prom and school trips etc you have to pay twice. This can be a hard hit, instead of £500 to go on a school trip, it's £1000. We are now on the car buying level of expense
2. After the initial birth it was very very rare we dressed them the same, each needs to develop their own personalities and believe it or not this will help irrespective of how cute twins might look dressed the same.
3. There never really lonely as they always have each other but encourage a wide friend/social pool as time with different people/influences helps.
4. As they grow up you'll have periods of one behaving like an angel and the other the devil. It's normal.
5. If you have twin girls try and find a common interest they enjoy with you as a dad, I used to take mine hill walking/great outdoors type of stuff and teach them map reading and other fairly useless stuff (I was in the Army for 24 years including there childhood).
6. Recognise individual achievements. Life is not fair and they need to learn this.
7. If twin girls, get early agreement you are allowed a man toy fund for entertainment during them girlie nights in. This will pay great dividends in later life.
8. If possible have family around to help and share the burden or help in an emergency, twins are a lot work when young.
9. Never, ever tell one of them secretly the other is really adopted as she looked just like her and we wanted a spare as a joke. Wife's & mother inlaws will shake their heads in disappointment with you.
I wouldn't swap the last 17 years for a second or the next 40/50 years as I watch them grow.
I've got twin daughters (now 17) and had a wry smile when I read your post.
Like any single or multiple child birth, parenting is learn as you go I think.
With twins you do have an added few differences though.
1. All expenses happen at the same time, new school uniform x2, birthday x2, school prom and school trips etc you have to pay twice. This can be a hard hit, instead of £500 to go on a school trip, it's £1000. We are now on the car buying level of expense
2. After the initial birth it was very very rare we dressed them the same, each needs to develop their own personalities and believe it or not this will help irrespective of how cute twins might look dressed the same.
3. There never really lonely as they always have each other but encourage a wide friend/social pool as time with different people/influences helps.
4. As they grow up you'll have periods of one behaving like an angel and the other the devil. It's normal.
5. If you have twin girls try and find a common interest they enjoy with you as a dad, I used to take mine hill walking/great outdoors type of stuff and teach them map reading and other fairly useless stuff (I was in the Army for 24 years including there childhood).
6. Recognise individual achievements. Life is not fair and they need to learn this.
7. If twin girls, get early agreement you are allowed a man toy fund for entertainment during them girlie nights in. This will pay great dividends in later life.
8. If possible have family around to help and share the burden or help in an emergency, twins are a lot work when young.
9. Never, ever tell one of them secretly the other is really adopted as she looked just like her and we wanted a spare as a joke. Wife's & mother inlaws will shake their heads in disappointment with you.
I wouldn't swap the last 17 years for a second or the next 40/50 years as I watch them grow.
I'm fortunate enough to have worked for my employer for a long time and they so far have been very flexible with me I'm hoping that continues.
Distraction tactics while changing bum(s) A* advice and I never thought about vouchers or that some babies don't get on with certain nappies I thought a nappy was just a nappy.
I really don't know how my wife and I' life will change but I'm sure we will cope.
Distraction tactics while changing bum(s) A* advice and I never thought about vouchers or that some babies don't get on with certain nappies I thought a nappy was just a nappy.
I really don't know how my wife and I' life will change but I'm sure we will cope.
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