Wife pregnant with twins..
Discussion
Some very good advice already posted.
If it hasn't been mentioned:
Metanium (lots)
Muslins (lots, dye them your favourite colour & they won't get mixed up with other people's)
Nipple shields (for her, not you)
Facebook/gumtree etc usually has a local 2nd hand baby clothes selling sites.
Buy baby wipes in bulk.
With out for post natal depression, it's nasty.
Try and join a few newborn activity groups to share the 'joy'.
Always have at least three spare changes of bedding per child available.
Read Fatherhood by Marcus Berkman.
Remember advice is just advice, from the WHO's powdered milk handling to your mother-in-laws "WE always did it like that..." Don't be afraid to trust your instincts.
If it hasn't been mentioned:
Metanium (lots)
Muslins (lots, dye them your favourite colour & they won't get mixed up with other people's)
Nipple shields (for her, not you)
Facebook/gumtree etc usually has a local 2nd hand baby clothes selling sites.
Buy baby wipes in bulk.
With out for post natal depression, it's nasty.
Try and join a few newborn activity groups to share the 'joy'.
Always have at least three spare changes of bedding per child available.
Read Fatherhood by Marcus Berkman.
Remember advice is just advice, from the WHO's powdered milk handling to your mother-in-laws "WE always did it like that..." Don't be afraid to trust your instincts.
Edited by DJFish on Tuesday 26th January 15:22
milner993 said:
your the second person to recommend this, the first pram we were recommended is a bugaboo donkey twin £1400 I might add 
surly a pram cant be worth that much? Its not made of gold!
My best man went through this, he was all for ebay\gumtree for a pram, but his Mrs was wanting a new one, he got pretty ratty about it as he doesnt work and money is a bit tight and the pram she looked at was a Maclaren type at some £500. surly a pram cant be worth that much? Its not made of gold!Madness. I really hope my mrs (who is the thrift one of the pair of us) would be happy for second hand stuff like prams and initial car seat (as i believe they grow out of it quickly.
I have seen one that coes from baby to toddler\booster but its expensive BUT would last a lot longer.
However when i showed her the Recaro baby seat that matches my DC5 i got frowned at
We have been recommended getting a baby car seat that is the group 0 small one then buying the one that goes until they are old enough to be out of it (and it's a recaro) as it is the cheapest way of doing it
I didn't fancy a second hand car seat (I have a real issue with cleanliness which has just got worse in pregnancy) but will sell it on afterwards. There are loads of Facebook selling sites and baby stuff is forever being traded.
I didn't fancy a second hand car seat (I have a real issue with cleanliness which has just got worse in pregnancy) but will sell it on afterwards. There are loads of Facebook selling sites and baby stuff is forever being traded.
Rick_1138 said:
milner993 said:
your the second person to recommend this, the first pram we were recommended is a bugaboo donkey twin £1400 I might add surly a pram cant be worth that much? Its not made of gold!
My best man went through this, he was all for ebay\gumtree for a pram, but his Mrs was wanting a new one, he got pretty ratty about it as he doesnt work and money is a bit tight and the pram she looked at was a Maclaren type at some £500. surly a pram cant be worth that much? Its not made of gold!Madness. I really hope my mrs (who is the thrift one of the pair of us) would be happy for second hand stuff like prams and initial car seat (as i believe they grow out of it quickly.
I have seen one that coes from baby to toddler\booster but its expensive BUT would last a lot longer.
However when i showed her the Recaro baby seat that matches my DC5 i got frowned at
Just in case.
SpeckledJim said:
Congratulations!
My advice:
Apart from 20 vests and 20 babygros, don't buy clothes. Within 2 days of the birth you'll be deluged with new and used babyclothes. By the binbagful.
Don't go to Mamas & Papas. That's how £3k vanishes. Go on eBay instead.
When they sleep: you sleep.
Whenever you cook proper stuff between now and the birth, cook twice as much and freeze it. You'll be glad you did.
Use the grandparents! You aren't putting them out - they want to be involved.
Aldi nappies.
Certainly not Huggies nappies.
Let them sleep when they want, but don't shut-down the house when they sleep. They don't need silence and pitch black and you'll make a rod for your own back if that's what you give them.
All of this My advice:
Apart from 20 vests and 20 babygros, don't buy clothes. Within 2 days of the birth you'll be deluged with new and used babyclothes. By the binbagful.
Don't go to Mamas & Papas. That's how £3k vanishes. Go on eBay instead.
When they sleep: you sleep.
Whenever you cook proper stuff between now and the birth, cook twice as much and freeze it. You'll be glad you did.
Use the grandparents! You aren't putting them out - they want to be involved.
Aldi nappies.
Certainly not Huggies nappies.
Let them sleep when they want, but don't shut-down the house when they sleep. They don't need silence and pitch black and you'll make a rod for your own back if that's what you give them.
don't buy new stuff- its a complete waste of time unless you can afford with ease (in which case don't worry!)
when someone visits give them jobs to do. They are coming round to help with your family not be entertained by you- if they can't be arsed to wash up/help around the house then hey clearly don't care about you much!
water births are amazing
microwaves cakes in a mug are a godsend during labour
don't fall into the "who's had a worse day" at home conversation- its the easiest way to cause chaos
littlegreenfairy said:
Look after your wife. Her body will take a pounding over the next 9 months. You'll need the patience of a saint, but it isn't her- it's the hormones.
This and continue well after 9 months. Post Natel depression is very real and can get very serious. No matter how tired or irritable you may feel, it won't compare to the desperation she will feel at times. Find a pattern that works for you both to share some of the work. With our first child we alternated nights to look after the baby if they cried. This just about ok, but work was much much more intense for me with the 2nd child, so my wife did the mornings and I did the nights. I was too engrossed in my work to recognise the extreme stress my wife was under with two kids until it was almost too late. I changed my work pattern and my life after that, and am now a lot happier with the changes I made. Look after your wife, be attentive, be patient and realise much of the anger you will here will unlikely be personal and just venting of frustration. Congratulations! Its all worth it in the end. My babies are grown up now and I could not be more proud of them
1) Support your partner. She will need you more than she could ever say. Just be there.
2) Ignore what anybody else says and do what you feel is best. The world is full of baby experts, and they're all wrong. Make your own mistakes and find your own way.
3) See (1). Anything else - your job, your mates, the pub - are just not as important any more.
4) Enjoy the good times! Kids are both the best and the worst thing that can ever happen to you. You'll go through it all, try to remember first kind and just get through the second.
(5) See (1). Always.
2) Ignore what anybody else says and do what you feel is best. The world is full of baby experts, and they're all wrong. Make your own mistakes and find your own way.
3) See (1). Anything else - your job, your mates, the pub - are just not as important any more.
4) Enjoy the good times! Kids are both the best and the worst thing that can ever happen to you. You'll go through it all, try to remember first kind and just get through the second.
(5) See (1). Always.
I'd not recommend a 2nd hand car seat - unless buying from someone you know. They can get damaged, especially in road collisions - and you don't want to re-use one that's been damaged.
For baby carriers, we've had great success with Jané. They do a system that starts in group 0, then 0+ (up to 13 kg). Has great protection, and clips nicely into an isofix base or buggy frame. The buggy frame then converts to a regular push chair when the baby gets too big for the carrier. The only potential down side is that their 'PowerTwin Pro' buggy frame is **big** even when folded. You may wish to purchase an E63 AMG Estate to get everything in
For baby carriers, we've had great success with Jané. They do a system that starts in group 0, then 0+ (up to 13 kg). Has great protection, and clips nicely into an isofix base or buggy frame. The buggy frame then converts to a regular push chair when the baby gets too big for the carrier. The only potential down side is that their 'PowerTwin Pro' buggy frame is **big** even when folded. You may wish to purchase an E63 AMG Estate to get everything in
WestyCarl said:
SpeckledJim said:
Congratulations!
My advice:
When they sleep: you sleep.
This. My advice:
When they sleep: you sleep.
Sleep deprivation will turn you and you wife crazy in ways you cannot imagine. Remember the CIA use sleep depravation to break the ISIS bad asses.
OP - listen to the advice of others but TBH you just have to get on with it yourself!
milner993 said:
your the second person to recommend this, the first pram we were recommended is a bugaboo donkey twin £1400 I might add surly a pram cant be worth that much? Its not made of gold!
Try before you buy! As you or your wife / partner might not get on with it, bit like cars, they have pros and cons. surly a pram cant be worth that much? Its not made of gold!Ive got one as there is only 16months differnce in age between my two (now 4+3).
I like it a lot, its good for running.
But it can be unstable when going up kerbs, so much so my mother in law refuses to use it and insists on using a cheap collapsible twin buggy if she takes them out.
We also had a mountain buggy twin, very good (expensive), stable but weighed a tonne. so cashed in and got a out n about.
Butter Face said:
It's amazing really, We've slept really well. Ours is 5 months and sleeps from 7-10 (bottle time) then from 10-6. It's brilliant.
Water Babies thread is that way -------->OP this will be you after about nine months:
http://youtu.be/dppZehTyiIM
I'm taking lots of mental notes nothing falling on deaf ears. we bought the child seats brand new from John Lewis as they had a special offer on where by purchasing the 0+ seat and 1+ seat which takes them up to 4 years old they gave the family fix Isofix base for free normally £150 by its self, so I saved £300 their as I needed 4 car seats 
Here they are stacked in my living room
Here they are stacked in my living room
littlegreenfairy said:
Look after your wife. Her body will take a pounding over the next 9 months.
That's good to know OP, because once she has given birth she won't be interested, so make the most of it.Congratulations, I would also stock up on sleep over the next few months as well.
DavidJG said:
I'd not recommend a 2nd hand car seat - unless buying from someone you know. They can get damaged, especially in road collisions - and you don't want to re-use one that's been damaged.
For baby carriers, we've had great success with Jané. They do a system that starts in group 0, then 0+ (up to 13 kg). Has great protection, and clips nicely into an isofix base or buggy frame. The buggy frame then converts to a regular push chair when the baby gets too big for the carrier. The only potential down side is that their 'PowerTwin Pro' buggy frame is **big** even when folded. You may wish to purchase an E63 AMG Estate to get everything in
Classic PH!For baby carriers, we've had great success with Jané. They do a system that starts in group 0, then 0+ (up to 13 kg). Has great protection, and clips nicely into an isofix base or buggy frame. The buggy frame then converts to a regular push chair when the baby gets too big for the carrier. The only potential down side is that their 'PowerTwin Pro' buggy frame is **big** even when folded. You may wish to purchase an E63 AMG Estate to get everything in
OP asks about advice on coping with twins, and someone recommends a full Monty AMG estate!
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