Wife pregnant with twins..
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Not only is breast milk free (and superior), it also burns up 500 calories daily. If the wife is keen to lose the baby weight then breast-feeding is a win win win.
Self-mode:
It also means you can't really help with feeding, so you get a more complete nights sleep... I do feel a bit guilty about that. Not a lot guilty. A bit.
Self-mode:
It also means you can't really help with feeding, so you get a more complete nights sleep... I do feel a bit guilty about that. Not a lot guilty. A bit.
kapitei:nlangzaam said:
My wife cant/couldnt breast feed.
I found being able to bottle-feed my daughter as a fantastic bonding process. Absolutely loved it, and it also helped me to feel 'involved' rather than a spare part.
Completely agree. However I can still remember the panic when the little'un wakes at 3 in the morning crying for food and there isn't a bottle in the fridge I found being able to bottle-feed my daughter as a fantastic bonding process. Absolutely loved it, and it also helped me to feel 'involved' rather than a spare part.
bucksmanuk said:
DavidJG said:
I'd not recommend a 2nd hand car seat - unless buying from someone you know. They can get damaged, especially in road collisions - and you don't want to re-use one that's been damaged.
For baby carriers, we've had great success with Jané. They do a system that starts in group 0, then 0+ (up to 13 kg). Has great protection, and clips nicely into an isofix base or buggy frame. The buggy frame then converts to a regular push chair when the baby gets too big for the carrier. The only potential down side is that their 'PowerTwin Pro' buggy frame is **big** even when folded. You may wish to purchase an E63 AMG Estate to get everything in
Classic PH!For baby carriers, we've had great success with Jané. They do a system that starts in group 0, then 0+ (up to 13 kg). Has great protection, and clips nicely into an isofix base or buggy frame. The buggy frame then converts to a regular push chair when the baby gets too big for the carrier. The only potential down side is that their 'PowerTwin Pro' buggy frame is **big** even when folded. You may wish to purchase an E63 AMG Estate to get everything in
OP asks about advice on coping with twins, and someone recommends a full Monty AMG estate!
MrFappyFappy said:
Soov535 said:
Babies want to be with Mummy and Daddy, warm, clean bumbums ...
I am 30 years old now and I will never, ever breed. 
DJFish said:
MrFappyFappy said:
Soov535 said:
Babies want to be with Mummy and Daddy, warm, clean bumbums ...
I am 30 years old now and I will never, ever breed. I was like Fappy, could never stand kids.
I went into it for the wife, and I have to say that there have been some dark moments, when alone in contemplation.
But this morning Soov jr (3) knocked on the bedroom door, crept into bed with us and whispered in my ear "Daddy I love you more even than my tractor, and you make me happy" - can't buy that.
WestyCarl said:
Completely agree. However I can still remember the panic when the little'un wakes at 3 in the morning crying for food and there isn't a bottle in the fridge
(one of the girls on the train is expecting her first soon & we're discussing a lot of stuff, this thread is useful - although like the morning conversations, it is putting me off the idea ) There's a thing I've heard this week - they don't want you to make bottles up, as the powder (once first opened) is not sterile. Bottles should be made up as & when they are needed... Water freshly drawn from the tap, filtered and then boiled & left to cool!
We decided expressing is the way forward (even if baby won't take to breast feeding) as you can even freeze that
No baby is going to wait around quietly for half an hour while you faff around half asleep in the night trying to make a bottle and get it cool enough for them.
ali_kat said:
(one of the girls on the train is expecting her first soon & we're discussing a lot of stuff, this thread is useful - although like the morning conversations, it is putting me off the idea )
There's a thing I've heard this week - they don't want you to make bottles up, as the powder (once first opened) is not sterile. Bottles should be made up as & when they are needed... Water freshly drawn from the tap, filtered and then boiled & left to cool!
We decided expressing is the way forward (even if baby won't take to breast feeding) as you can even freeze that
No baby is going to wait around quietly for half an hour while you faff around half asleep in the night trying to make a bottle and get it cool enough for them.
Our daily routine was to make a day's worth in advance.) There's a thing I've heard this week - they don't want you to make bottles up, as the powder (once first opened) is not sterile. Bottles should be made up as & when they are needed... Water freshly drawn from the tap, filtered and then boiled & left to cool!
We decided expressing is the way forward (even if baby won't take to breast feeding) as you can even freeze that
No baby is going to wait around quietly for half an hour while you faff around half asleep in the night trying to make a bottle and get it cool enough for them.
We had a microwave steamer to sterilise the bottles & scoops & would use freshly boiled water, once they cooled they'd go straight in the fridge.
We figured the WHO was catering for the lowest common denominator and our sterilising efforts would be sufficient.
2nd child was breast fed, that was much easier as I slept through all of it!
Soov535 said:
I was like Fappy, could never stand kids.
I went into it for the wife, and I have to say that there have been some dark moments, when alone in contemplation.
I'm still having problems with it, but I love my husband and he wants kids and I'm getting broody... but threads like this & the conversations in the mornings and the unexpected but perfectly normal 'birth details' in fictional books really don't help to convince me I went into it for the wife, and I have to say that there have been some dark moments, when alone in contemplation.
Soov535 said:
But this morning Soov jr (3) knocked on the bedroom door, crept into bed with us and whispered in my ear "Daddy I love you more even than my tractor, and you make me happy" - can't buy that.
That however, does 
WestyCarl said:
kapitei:nlangzaam said:
My wife cant/couldnt breast feed.
I found being able to bottle-feed my daughter as a fantastic bonding process. Absolutely loved it, and it also helped me to feel 'involved' rather than a spare part.
Completely agree. However I can still remember the panic when the little'un wakes at 3 in the morning crying for food and there isn't a bottle in the fridge I found being able to bottle-feed my daughter as a fantastic bonding process. Absolutely loved it, and it also helped me to feel 'involved' rather than a spare part.
Also available elsewhere, but this was a godsend at 2am when baby is screaming in your ear. Although to be fair he does give some warning most of the time - just occasionally it goes 0-100 in a split second. Also be prepared for the midwives hounding you about breast-feeding.
Office_Monkey said:
WestyCarl said:
kapitei:nlangzaam said:
My wife cant/couldnt breast feed.
I found being able to bottle-feed my daughter as a fantastic bonding process. Absolutely loved it, and it also helped me to feel 'involved' rather than a spare part.
Completely agree. However I can still remember the panic when the little'un wakes at 3 in the morning crying for food and there isn't a bottle in the fridge I found being able to bottle-feed my daughter as a fantastic bonding process. Absolutely loved it, and it also helped me to feel 'involved' rather than a spare part.
Also available elsewhere, but this was a godsend at 2am when baby is screaming in your ear. Although to be fair he does give some warning most of the time - just occasionally it goes 0-100 in a split second. Also be prepared for the midwives hounding you about breast-feeding.
Get one it is THE key thing to making bottles. Put bottle in push button add powder, shake, push button again. DONE.
to make it even easier they sell little powder pots aimed at when you're going out get a bunch of these and you can measure out various bottle sizes in advance making it even easier to make up bottles.
Oh yes. Be ready for the breastfeeding Stasi. Around here they refuse to give any advice on bottle feeding even when you're asking as a back up to breastfeeding in case it goes tits up at 3am.
Go with your instincts. Don't assume the midwife knows everything as we have had so much conflicting advice. Instinct is very important and if you're half switched on you'll be just fine.
Go with your instincts. Don't assume the midwife knows everything as we have had so much conflicting advice. Instinct is very important and if you're half switched on you'll be just fine.
So I have listened to the advice, we now have a bigger freezer to store more food which we will pre make, we have a small selection of different brand nappies to see which ones the babies don’t get on with, we have a baby formula mixing machine which makes a body temperature bottle in 2 minutes just to help out in case breast feeding is to difficult, Gumtree and EBay is our friend with one crib already purchased, DIY is always an ongoing thing but more emphasis to complete jobs before I don’t have the energy to.
The wife however still needs some convincing about changing the pram to a cheaper one but she wants the bugaboo donkey and I want to save £1000 but I'm sure to keep the peace I will surrender on this one.
I have also mentioned nice and early if we are having twin girls the sports car/bike fund starts
The wife however still needs some convincing about changing the pram to a cheaper one but she wants the bugaboo donkey and I want to save £1000 but I'm sure to keep the peace I will surrender on this one.
I have also mentioned nice and early if we are having twin girls the sports car/bike fund starts
ali_kat said:
The other the M2B has been told is that "They must sleep in your room for the first 6 months at least"
She's talking about buying a new bed that's got a 'baby sleep area' attachment
Can you imagine that with twins?
That has brought back some memories; the advice we had was they need to sleep in your room for a while; once we had a double bed and two Moses baskets in our bedroom there wasn't much room for anything else!She's talking about buying a new bed that's got a 'baby sleep area' attachment
Can you imagine that with twins?
They lasted in our room for about a week as they were the noisiest pair of sleepers you had ever heard, we moved them out into their own room so they could deafen each other, we just put their Moses baskets inside the cots we had ready for them and they slept fine in there.
It's all about trusting your instincts.
MX5_Nutter said:
Reading some of these posts has just confirmed my thoughts- I'm f
king not having kids! Sod that. Never.
It was hard enough training a puppy.
If you've managed to train a puppy a child will be easy you don't have to pick up poo forever with a child. king not having kids! Sod that. Never.It was hard enough training a puppy.
Good luck op get over the first year and they will keep each other amused.
milner993 said:
The wife however still needs some convincing about changing the pram to a cheaper one but she wants the bugaboo donkey and I want to save £1000 but I'm sure to keep the peace I will surrender on this one.
Don't feel bad about this. You are performing a valuable public service.Without helpful chaps like you buying £1000 prams, two important things can't happen:
- Nobody can buy it from you for £200 in 2 years. Sad.
- The senior managers of Mamas & Papas won't get two months use of their 520d straight out of your pocket. Also sad.
SpeckledJim said:
milner993 said:
The wife however still needs some convincing about changing the pram to a cheaper one but she wants the bugaboo donkey and I want to save £1000 but I'm sure to keep the peace I will surrender on this one.
Don't feel bad about this. You are performing a valuable public service.Without helpful chaps like you buying £1000 prams, two important things can't happen:
- Nobody can buy it from you for £200 in 2 years. Sad.
- The senior managers of Mamas & Papas won't get two months use of their 520d straight out of your pocket. Also sad.
Your wife is worried about other mums being sniffy about a second hand pram. After a few outings it won't be any different.
Tell her you're buying her a second hand one and you're having £400 each to spend on what YOU both want.
I say again, F CK SNOBBERY. It always costs, and never helps. Charity shops, ebay and gumtree are your friends in this.
Any tosser can spent a fortune on this exercise. Be smart.
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