Easiest and cheapest divorce

[croyde]

SlimRick said:

It's still worth speaking to a solicitor IMO, what happens if you win the lottery in 4 years time or she decides she wants a share of your pension pot?

http://www.easydivorce.co.uk/

It's worth a couple of hundred quid to make sure it's done properly.

We are actually amicable enough that if I ever did win the lottery, I would want to help her out and vica versa. After all she is looking after my kids.

And pension, don't make me laugh No offence.

My pension plan is to plan a big robbery and either get away with it or end up in clink with three meals a day and somewhere dry to sleep. A win/win situation

If anything she has the successful business of which I have no interest in, like if someone leaves their keys in their car. It's not mine.

Horrible that people want everything that they can get. Awful attitude that solicitors prey on.

[stewies_minion]

It's nice that you're in a position to suggest that you're happy to share in due course.

But the reality is, should it happen, that you may not.

In a past life I thought my wife had monk retest in money or material things. Post divorce it turns out I was very wrong. I'd hate to think that she could stake a claim on my forthcoming juicy lottery win. I'd move heaven and earth to find my kids but won't be taken for a ride by her. Solicitors sort that for you.

[croyde]

On this subject, how come anything that happens after the divorce can be re contested.

Makes the divorce pretty pointless in a way.

[Jobbo]

croyde said:

On this subject, how come anything that happens after the divorce can be re contested.

Makes the divorce pretty pointless in a way.

Anything left as a loose end (e.g. pensions) can be contested, but if you go to a solicitor you can tie these up.

I dealt with my own divorce but after getting the decree nisi I ran everything past a colleague who dealt with family law. She told me that it was folly not to get a financial consent order dealing with pensions and so on before the decree absolute. It was pretty straightforward so if I'd paid her to do it, it shouldn't have been expensive; the pain is the time it takes to get a valuation of everything including your state pension entitlement.

[Adam B]

stewies_minion said:

I'd hate to think that she could stake a claim on my forthcoming juicy lottery win. I'd move heaven and earth to find my kids but won't be taken for a ride by her. Solicitors sort that for you.

or you just sort it out yourself, its not difficult

we had a statement that said our pensions are our own, no claims on future earnings or windfalls or inheritances, a simple statement as to splitting costs of my daughter's upbringing etc

[oldbanger]

sly fox said:

My divorce cost around £1300 in total - including court fees etc. As much as i did not want to spend money, i also realised that the solicitor can take away a large portion of the stress - so get one that works on a fixed fee. Then you can speak to them as often as you like to get things like terminology of law explained.

Mine cost around the same and I retained a solicitor for the same reasons. My ex didn't retain one, by their choice.

We had a consent order in terms of splitting finances (I paid my ex a portion of the market value of my home to vacate the property - I had relocated elsewhere a couple of years earlier and needed to sell up). The order was all drawn up by the solicitor so it was full and final, no loopholes. We had no kids together to complicate things, though.

[Puggit]

croyde said:

I rent a place and have just started seeing someone.

Would she (he...?) be happy sharing your lottery pot with your ex-wife?

[Bibbs]

Dusty964 said:

Bibbs said:

The ex and I agreed on the financial settlement, so I DIY'ed the financial separation documents and got the ex to sign them.
Submitted and went through with no issues.

I then filled in the divorce forms, got the ex to sign them, and I paid the fees.

Was about $500 all in (Australia).




No lawyers were paid in this story.

Any chance you could post a link to the relevant site please?
Im about to do the same but live in dubai, soon to be other half is australian, in australia. I just really want to get it done fast and cheap but every site i find seems to be a crock of ste.
It would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Where is she? WA has different forms to the rest of Aus.

http://www.familycourt.wa.gov.au/F/forms.aspx?uid=...

As a start. But Google and "family law court" and the state and it should be easy to get the docs.

Drop me a PM if you need advice. Happy to help.

[Dusty964]

Bibbs said:

Dusty964 said:

Bibbs said:

The ex and I agreed on the financial settlement, so I DIY'ed the financial separation documents and got the ex to sign them.
Submitted and went through with no issues.

I then filled in the divorce forms, got the ex to sign them, and I paid the fees.

Was about $500 all in (Australia).




No lawyers were paid in this story.

Any chance you could post a link to the relevant site please?
Im about to do the same but live in dubai, soon to be other half is australian, in australia. I just really want to get it done fast and cheap but every site i find seems to be a crock of ste.
It would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Where is she? WA has different forms to the rest of Aus.

http://www.familycourt.wa.gov.au/F/forms.aspx?uid=...

As a start. But Google and "family law court" and the state and it should be easy to get the docs.

Drop me a PM if you need advice. Happy to help.

Appreciated. She is in Ballarat. Vic.
Really appreciate that.

[Wombat3]

croyde said:

On this subject, how come anything that happens after the divorce can be re contested.

Makes the divorce pretty pointless in a way.

That's where a Consent Order comes in.

You agree it together with statements of assets held & sign it - its basically a "contract" between you that divides assets. It can cover/include anything you like, or not.

Then you file it after you have been granted the Nisi

It then gets accepted by the court (or not in which case you need to amend it till they are happy its fair)

Once its accepted then it comes into effect with the Absolute

...at which point there is no coming back for more on either side. You can win the lottery with impunity

Without a Consent Order either party can always come back for more (unless they re-marry) at which point that right is waived.

[Glade]

I have a consent order drafted by a solicitor friend that I used with a few tweaks. It finalises the distribution of possessions and (hopefully) draws a line under the whole thing closing any further claims. I don't mind sending it over if it helps.

[RDMcG]

Did one years ago . My son was 13 at the time and primary concern was to think long term about my future relationship with him. I was happy to give her the house and investments, and agreed to the appropriate maintenance and child support.

I think the only area of concern for me was the very long term, so I excluded rights to future earnings, pension etc beyond the agreed period,. Since I had given her 100% of the assets at the time I obviously had to rebuild my own financial well being and wanted to ensure that we had a clean break. The legal fees were low.

Wills were revised

It worked out well. She still lives in the house interestingly, and my son is now 33 and I have an excellent relationship with him. I was 47 when i all happened so it did require a complete restart for me, but it all turned out for the best.

OP: sounds like you have the right attitude to get it done cleanly and fairly.

[Jasandjules]

Agree as much as possible. Put this into a consent order.

[The Moose]

RDMcG said:

Did one years ago . My son was 13 at the time and primary concern was to think long term about my future relationship with him. I was happy to give her the house and investments, and agreed to the appropriate maintenance and child support.

I think the only area of concern for me was the very long term, so I excluded rights to future earnings, pension etc beyond the agreed period,. Since I had given her 100% of the assets at the time I obviously had to rebuild my own financial well being and wanted to ensure that we had a clean break. The legal fees were low.

Wills were revised

It worked out well. She still lives in the house interestingly, and my son is now 33 and I have an excellent relationship with him. I was 47 when i all happened so it did require a complete restart for me, but it all turned out for the best.

OP: sounds like you have the right attitude to get it done cleanly and fairly.

Do you mind if I ask why you'd agree to part with 100% of the assets? That seems like cutting your nose off to spite your face.

Feel free to tell me to sling my hook - I'm just curious.

[Bibbs]

Dusty964 said:

Bibbs said:

Dusty964 said:

Bibbs said:

The ex and I agreed on the financial settlement, so I DIY'ed the financial separation documents and got the ex to sign them.
Submitted and went through with no issues.

I then filled in the divorce forms, got the ex to sign them, and I paid the fees.

Was about $500 all in (Australia).




No lawyers were paid in this story.

Any chance you could post a link to the relevant site please?
Im about to do the same but live in dubai, soon to be other half is australian, in australia. I just really want to get it done fast and cheap but every site i find seems to be a crock of ste.
It would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Where is she? WA has different forms to the rest of Aus.

http://www.familycourt.wa.gov.au/F/forms.aspx?uid=...

As a start. But Google and "family law court" and the state and it should be easy to get the docs.

Drop me a PM if you need advice. Happy to help.

Appreciated. She is in Ballarat. Vic.
Really appreciate that.

WA's forms are slightly different.

Try here :-
http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoa...

Seems to be a few options for self-representation. Steps here :-

http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoa...

[anonymous-user]

I know we guys get called bitter and twisted when we post on the Match thread, but just out of interest did anybody on here go on to get married again? Being obviously bitter and twisted I can see no advantage for a man to get married, but I was curious to see if anybody gave it another go?

[Bibbs]

Joey Deacon said:

I know we guys get called bitter and twisted when we post on the Match thread, but just out of interest did anybody on here go on to get married again? Being obviously bitter and twisted I can see no advantage for a man to get married, but I was curious to see if anybody gave it another go?

Not yet, but it's only been a few months

But I'm now in a relationship where things are more equal. Similar pay, similar possessions.

But to be honest, I didn't do badly out the divorce. The Ex wanted out, what she put in (plus some interest) and half of the joint stuff we'd bought.

Which I agreed with. So I ended up with a semi furnished house and an HSV. But lost a Hilux and had to re-mortgage.

[ATG]

croyde said:

Awful attitude that solicitors prey on.

Croyde, there are plenty of decent and honest solicitors out there, so how about winding your neck in a bit?

[RDMcG]

The Moose said:

Do you mind if I ask why you'd agree to part with 100% of the assets? That seems like cutting your nose off to spite your face.

Feel free to tell me to sling my hook - I'm just curious.

Ita a fair question. I had seen over the years lots of divorces where the children got caught in the middle, especially if they had to move from the childhood home. In my case I had a good ability to make money so it was in one way a chance to renew myself. I had a couple of lean years living in a small apartment but it was exhilarating to focus just on career and see what I could do. In the end it meant that I could later face my son in adulthood and know that he would be less ambivalent about the divorce; like all kids he examined the circumstances minutely over the years, and I wanted the story to be a good one for him.

In the end all of that wrangling is not worth it to me; it would have been an ugly fight,and this was avoided too. I was able to build up a reasonable life afterwards and pretty much recovered in four or five years. Knowing you are broke has a great ability to get you focused. No regrets, no bitterness.

[The Moose]

RDMcG said:

The Moose said:

Do you mind if I ask why you'd agree to part with 100% of the assets? That seems like cutting your nose off to spite your face.

Feel free to tell me to sling my hook - I'm just curious.

Ita a fair question. I had seen over the years lots of divorces where the children got caught in the middle, especially if they had to move from the childhood home. In my case I had a good ability to make money so it was in one way a chance to renew myself. I had a couple of lean years living in a small apartment but it was exhilarating to focus just on career and see what I could do. In the end it meant that I could later face my son in adulthood and know that he would be less ambivalent about the divorce; like all kids he examined the circumstances minutely over the years, and I wanted the story to be a good one for him.

In the end all of that wrangling is not worth it to me; it would have been an ugly fight,and this was avoided too. I was able to build up a reasonable life afterwards and pretty much recovered in four or five years. Knowing you are broke has a great ability to get you focused. No regrets, no bitterness.

Fair enough and good on you

I'm not sure I could do the same - I guess you never know until it happens.