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sc0tt

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18,032 posts

200 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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I'm in a strange position.

I split with the missus last night. I started going out with her 11 years ago. We had a house, split before and she bought a flat. I spent all my money on crap and travelling. Good times.

I'm 29 years old. Good job contracting but don't have much to my name. Probably £7k.

I'm not sure if I am fortunate or not. I can do anything. Go anywhere, or rent a flat and carry on plodding along doing what I am doing.

Pretty gutted today but I think it was mutual from the pair of us.

What would you do? More travelling?

I've got until Saturday realistically as I'm sat in my old dears one bed bungalow until she returns.

Thanks for listening

EnglishTony

2,552 posts

98 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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My sympathies.

I'd do some travelling, perhaps get a job overseas for a bit.

anonymous-user

53 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Everything for a reason I believe.

Go travelling some more, put some distance—literal and metaphorical—between the two of you. Who knows what's waiting for you out there.

I'd be inclined to do Europe first.

leggly

1,780 posts

210 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Go for it, whatever you decide. Good luck and enjoy the ride.yes

Robertj21a

16,475 posts

104 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Definitely go travelling. Anywhere you've always fancied visiting ? - if not just get away somewhere that gives you time to think and consider your future. Don't just sulk and p*ss it up the wall.

ali_kat

31,988 posts

220 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Will your Mum let you stay there a while longer - a month/3?

You could do with some time 'out' to think & decide before coming to decisions

Vitorio

4,296 posts

142 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Go and do the things you didnt do because you were together, go travelling, get a motorcycle etc...

Find out who you are on your own, and what makes you happy!

sc0tt

Original Poster:

18,032 posts

200 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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ali_kat said:
Will your Mum let you stay there a while longer - a month/3?

You could do with some time 'out' to think & decide before coming to decisions
Just a 1 bed place unfortunately.


Sheetmaself

5,663 posts

197 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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My advice would be try and live on her couch, put the £7k into starting a business in something you find exciting and put all of your energy into this.

If it doesnt work youve had a crack and you been doing something to take your mind off of the situation in the same way travelling could.

If it does work happy days grow the business and either sell and lve off of the funds or keep it going wih minimal input from yourself and now go travelling.

Very simplistic view i understand but if your just after a new experience this could be it.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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I'd save up a bit extra, get a few contracts in for a while and build up some cash then go travelling.
Sorry to hear about the split bro.

mitzy

13,857 posts

196 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Scott

Sorry to hear this babe, PM me or the old man if you need to talk.

Hugs x

Mitz

R1gtr

3,423 posts

153 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Sorry to hear that, break-ups are always st!
You got any good mates in the same boat that would want to go travelling or have a spare room you could use for a few months until the dust settles and you decide what you want to do?
Also get something in the Diary to look forward to, a Concert,holiday, trip to Goodwood, moto gp race etc, anything you fancy?
I bought a road bike (push) after a break up and absolutely love getting out cycling in Scotland
Keep the chin up

sc0tt

Original Poster:

18,032 posts

200 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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mitzy said:
Scott

Sorry to hear this babe, PM me or the old man if you need to talk.

Hugs x

Mitz
Ta

We have an opening in the Philippines I may explore further tomorrow at work.


Fleegle

16,688 posts

175 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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sc0tt said:
Ta

We have an opening in the Philippines I may explore further tomorrow at work.
There's many openings in the Philippines. Just make sure i's not a ladyboy like the last time

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Unless of course you want a ladyboy, I'd try anything once.

Brads67

3,199 posts

97 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Why are break ups always st ? I imagine some are the best thing to ever happen to some folk.

Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life mate.

Buy a cheap van and bugger off. You`ll find your way.

ali_kat

31,988 posts

220 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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sc0tt said:
Just a 1 bed place unfortunately.
Darn

sc0tt

Original Poster:

18,032 posts

200 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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My current position is eating Doritos and drinking beer on my mums sofa.

hehe

Not sure about a caravan. And chickens.

TheLordJohn

5,746 posts

145 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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Get yourself around the world smile Enjoy it.
You've been afforded the very rare chance to step off the 'rollercoaster of life'.
Usually, once you're on, that's you!

InductionRoar

2,001 posts

131 months

Sunday 26th June 2016
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I would think yourself lucky that you weren't married. Most people your age in a long-term relationship would be in a much worse position than you are now.

Essentially, you have a clean break and whilst it's not the best at the moment it could have been a lot worse.

I would continue with the contracting until you decide what is best for you and you are in a better frame of mind (and better off financially) to change anything - if a change is needed at all.

Good luck.