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FoxtrotOscar1 said:
Get the cheapest (decent) short term accommodation you can for the minute. Move your s
t into a garage, lock up mates etc. Live with the minimum you can in the accommodation. You don't want to "get comfy". ( I dont mean live on beans and toast sitting on a deck chair, just not to fill the place with every little creature comfort you own)
Think.
Take time and think.
That's all.
Once you've decided what would please you most. Do it.
Move your st into a garage, lock up mates etc. Live with the minimum you can in the accommodation. You don't want to "get comfy". ( I dont mean live on beans and toast sitting on a deck chair, just not to fill the place with every little creature comfort you own)Think.
Take time and think.
That's all.
Once you've decided what would please you most. Do it.
t into a garage or lock up? What odd advice.CX53 said:
This is the bit that popped out at me the most.
When in a relationship, we spend most of our free time doing things as a couple or spending time with that person, making plans, having to ask first before making your own plans incase she's made plans for the both of you etc. Imagine what else you could do with that time!
Fancy a road trip this weekend? Get in the car, and off you go. Want to buy something expensive for yourself? Well go ahead. Gym 5 times a week? No problem. Beer with the lads Friday & Saturday night? Why the devil not.
While I 'get' the whole travelling thing, I agree perhaps it's better to use contracting to do it so you're building money up rather than dwindling it. That's what I would do anyway, probably with a week or two holiday somewhere first.
Just ask yourself what it is you've always wanted to do but couldn't. Enjoy the experience before another one comes along (which can happen sooner than you realise!) and get involved.
Best of luck
What a strange outlook on relationships! Some people are in relationships where you don't need permission to do things last minute, to go to the gym or go for beers. Clearly if that's you, perhaps a change is in order.When in a relationship, we spend most of our free time doing things as a couple or spending time with that person, making plans, having to ask first before making your own plans incase she's made plans for the both of you etc. Imagine what else you could do with that time!
Fancy a road trip this weekend? Get in the car, and off you go. Want to buy something expensive for yourself? Well go ahead. Gym 5 times a week? No problem. Beer with the lads Friday & Saturday night? Why the devil not.
While I 'get' the whole travelling thing, I agree perhaps it's better to use contracting to do it so you're building money up rather than dwindling it. That's what I would do anyway, probably with a week or two holiday somewhere first.
Just ask yourself what it is you've always wanted to do but couldn't. Enjoy the experience before another one comes along (which can happen sooner than you realise!) and get involved.
Best of luck
Everyone is different,but for me (when I split with long term partner) the last thing I needed was time mooching around milling things over,generally dwelling on it.
Pour yourself into your work for a bit - if work sucks take the opportunity to make some changes and find a path that you enjoy.
Pour yourself into your work for a bit - if work sucks take the opportunity to make some changes and find a path that you enjoy.
Barmyfluid said:
Everyone is different,but for me (when I split with long term partner) the last thing I needed was time mooching around milling things over,generally dwelling on it.
Pour yourself into your work for a bit - if work sucks take the opportunity to make some changes and find a path that you enjoy.
Or if work is 'tolerable', throw yourself at hobbies and enjoy life for evenings and weekends. You dont need to travel all over the world to enjoy yourselfPour yourself into your work for a bit - if work sucks take the opportunity to make some changes and find a path that you enjoy.
johnwilliams77 said:
What a strange outlook on relationships! Some people are in relationships where you don't need permission to do things last minute, to go to the gym or go for beers. Clearly if that's you, perhaps a change is in order.
Nothing to do with permission, but being a team. I wouldn't dream of dissapearing for the weekend without mentioning it, and if I mention it I may find out she has been thinking about arranging to visit my parents or her parents for example, or spend the weekend with friends. Things need discussing and agreeing upon, and before you know it, time spent doing things as a couple leaves you little time to do everything you would do if you were on your own. It's not a bad thing, but I'm just pointing out the positives to take away from the situation in the short term, and it could be quite enjoyable. It's nice being part of a team, but also nice to be selfish too!
Edited by CX53 on Monday 27th June 10:43
Some great advice on this thread, excellent idea to hit the gym, do what you want to do and most important never say 'no' when someone asks you to do something. Another thing is when you're ready, like I mean when you're enough past the ex that you don't have her in your head 100% of the time, start internet dating. Alot.
I found nothing bought me to the other side quicker than realising just how many decent women there are out there. Good luck..
I found nothing bought me to the other side quicker than realising just how many decent women there are out there. Good luck..
Contractors can pick up and stop work within a very short time frame and having time off during isn't an issue.
Like I say, it's all about mindset. Either you have it or you don't.
Travelling with work is not in the least bit similar to travelling on your own free will.
OP - Good luck what ever you decide to do!
Like I say, it's all about mindset. Either you have it or you don't.
Travelling with work is not in the least bit similar to travelling on your own free will.
OP - Good luck what ever you decide to do!
Edited by anonymous-user on Monday 27th June 10:53
zedstar said:
Some great advice on this thread, excellent idea to hit the gym, do what you want to do and most important never say 'no' when someone asks you to do something. Another thing is when you're ready, like I mean when you're enough past the ex that you don't have her in your head 100% of the time, start internet dating. Alot.
I found nothing bought me to the other side quicker than realising just how many decent women there are out there. Good luck..
Remember: she will be internet dating too so you might spot each other on the respective websites. Not a big deal but it may result in 'you're on the hunt quickly text', but, if she's looking, then she is on the hunt quickly too (unless she says a 'friend told me she seen you on POF)I found nothing bought me to the other side quicker than realising just how many decent women there are out there. Good luck..
johnwilliams77 said:
CX53 said:
This is the bit that popped out at me the most.
When in a relationship, we spend most of our free time doing things as a couple or spending time with that person, making plans, having to ask first before making your own plans incase she's made plans for the both of you etc. Imagine what else you could do with that time!
Fancy a road trip this weekend? Get in the car, and off you go. Want to buy something expensive for yourself? Well go ahead. Gym 5 times a week? No problem. Beer with the lads Friday & Saturday night? Why the devil not.
While I 'get' the whole travelling thing, I agree perhaps it's better to use contracting to do it so you're building money up rather than dwindling it. That's what I would do anyway, probably with a week or two holiday somewhere first.
Just ask yourself what it is you've always wanted to do but couldn't. Enjoy the experience before another one comes along (which can happen sooner than you realise!) and get involved.
Best of luck
What a strange outlook on relationships! Some people are in relationships where you don't need permission to do things last minute, to go to the gym or go for beers. Clearly if that's you, perhaps a change is in order.When in a relationship, we spend most of our free time doing things as a couple or spending time with that person, making plans, having to ask first before making your own plans incase she's made plans for the both of you etc. Imagine what else you could do with that time!
Fancy a road trip this weekend? Get in the car, and off you go. Want to buy something expensive for yourself? Well go ahead. Gym 5 times a week? No problem. Beer with the lads Friday & Saturday night? Why the devil not.
While I 'get' the whole travelling thing, I agree perhaps it's better to use contracting to do it so you're building money up rather than dwindling it. That's what I would do anyway, probably with a week or two holiday somewhere first.
Just ask yourself what it is you've always wanted to do but couldn't. Enjoy the experience before another one comes along (which can happen sooner than you realise!) and get involved.
Best of luck
I just told my mrs that I'm going to France on Saturday if we win tonight
CX53 said:
Nothing to do with permission, but being a team. I wouldn't dream of dissapearing for the weekend without mentioning it, and if I mention it I may find out she has been thinking about arranging to visit my parents or her parents for example, or spend the weekend with friends. Things need discussing and agreeing upon, and before you know it, time spent doing things as a couple leaves you little time to do everything you would do if you were on your own.
It's not a bad thing, but I'm just pointing out the positives to take away from the situation in the short term, and it could be quite enjoyable. It's nice being part of a team, but also nice to be selfish too!
Speak for yourselfIt's not a bad thing, but I'm just pointing out the positives to take away from the situation in the short term, and it could be quite enjoyable. It's nice being part of a team, but also nice to be selfish too!
Edited by CX53 on Monday 27th June 10:43
2secs on iMessage. "We got any plans this weekend?" We usually don't and take it as it comes
We tend not to have a huge volume of dates we are committed to so its never been an issue for me
johnwilliams77 said:
Speak for yourself
2secs on iMessage. "We got any plans this weekend?" We usually don't and take it as it comes
We tend not to have a huge volume of dates we are committed to so its never been an issue for me
So you're saying you'd have the same amount of free time for yourself if you were single than you do now? 2secs on iMessage. "We got any plans this weekend?" We usually don't and take it as it comes
We tend not to have a huge volume of dates we are committed to so its never been an issue for me
Personally I do enjoy spending time with my mrs at weekends because we're so busy during the week as well, so I would have quite a lot of free time if I were on my own!
CX53 said:
So you're saying you'd have the same amount of free time for yourself if you were single than you do now?
Personally I do enjoy spending time with my mrs at weekends because we're so busy during the week as well, so I would have quite a lot of free time if I were on my own!
NoPersonally I do enjoy spending time with my mrs at weekends because we're so busy during the week as well, so I would have quite a lot of free time if I were on my own!
I am saying that the advantage you're giving for being single is not an advantage if I were to become single. I have plenty of time to do what I want to do which includes plenty of things myself or with friends or weekends away with other half (tends not to be booked months in advance). Others may have more commitments with weddings, couples meals etc but I am fortunate to have a decent balance, it seems.
johnwilliams77 said:
No
I am saying that the advantage you're giving for being single is not an advantage if I were to become single. I have plenty of time to do what I want to do which includes plenty of things myself or with friends or weekends away with other half (tends not to be booked months in advance). Others may have more commitments with weddings, couples meals etc but I am fortunate to have a decent balance, it seems.
It was quite obvious what he was saying, you must just be the standard PH wI am saying that the advantage you're giving for being single is not an advantage if I were to become single. I have plenty of time to do what I want to do which includes plenty of things myself or with friends or weekends away with other half (tends not to be booked months in advance). Others may have more commitments with weddings, couples meals etc but I am fortunate to have a decent balance, it seems.
ker which comes along to say something stupid and suggest he's under the thumb. Thanks for your input though, let's just tell the OP being in a relationship is fantastic then shall we...
A big advantage OP is time. Enjoy time to do whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it, and being a contractor can really help take you t different places and experience different things to keep your mind occupied. Good luck with the Aus job!
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