Funeral attire

[Countdown]

And remember, in terms of dress code, there's a world of difference between "sombre" and "sombrero"....

[wildcat45]

The Mad Monk said:

Are you sure it was the bloke who died who was flamboyant?

I'm beginning to wonder....

[Mastodon2]

Surely at a funeral there is only one item of attire you need?

[blearyeyedboy]

If your own kilt won't work, would it be less hassle just to wear a dark suit and black tie than to specifically seek out a black kilt to hire?

I know you could get a kilt but you're unlikely to offend anyone in a suit and it might be easier to arrange?

[Troubleatmill]

As a sweaty

Kilt has to be a personal connection.

i have never worn mice to a funeral

I cannot see me ever wearing it one.

[Turquoise]

Troubleatmill said:

i have never worn mice to a funeral

You're probably not alone in that.

[jjones]

Can't you just get a nice black skirt from M&S?

[ruggedscotty]

HD Adam said:

Whilst not an expert on Highland dress, I'm pretty sure a white skirt would be acceptable.

The hire shop should be able to put you right or maybe even the funeral directors.

Sorry I read this as white Skirt....

need to skim read better

[Hilts]

Brads67 said:

The lighter sporran will be fine.

Black kilt will look great and you can go black shirt and silver tie to match the sporran as well.

Thanks for all the advice, yes I'm going with a black kilt.

g3org3y said:

Are other attendees wearing kilts (serious question)?

My wife is Scottish so I've attended various funerals and weddings in Scotland over the years. Kilt (and associated ensemble) is traditional Scottish dress, commonplace at weddings. Never seen anyone wear a kilt at a funeral (sombre dark version or otherwise) though.

As expected, regular dark suit (+white shirt & black tie) is standard.

You don't want to stand out for the wrong reasons IYSWIM.

Yes there will be a lot in kilts, my friend was in a Scottish regiment.

Never worn a kilt to a funeral before although my uncle wore his recently at his wife's funeral. I thought it was a bit odd at first but as the day wore on I got it.

sparkythecat said:

Crikey, a full kilt is made from 8 yards of tartan, so I'd have thought it would stretch over even the most massive paunch.

Fond of the of neaps and tatties are You?

Thanks, that cheered me up a little it just needs the buckles shifting a bit I think but not sure, there's not much give in them, just a few holes, however even that was priced at more than a basic kilt hire. A full remake was coming it half the price of a new kilt!

Countdown said:

OP - I'm guessing that both you and the deceased have (or had) very strong scottish roots.

If "Yes" then wearing a kilt would be a appropriate way of recognising that. If "No" then there's a risk that your wearing a kilt becomes the focus of the event rather than the remembering of your friend.

Yes, you are correct.

Corpulent Tosser said:

Entirely up to you but I have never worn my kilt at a funeral.
If you are hiring an outfit I would go for a day outfit rather than the Prince Charlie which is more formal and usually worn in the evening.

I'll see what the kiltmakers say but I think the Prince Charlie is going to be OK.

[Hilts]

Mastodon2 said:

Surely at a funeral there is only one item of attire you need?

Some good gallows humour on this thread thanks

[HD Adam]

ruggedscotty said:

HD Adam said:

Whilst not an expert on Highland dress, I'm pretty sure a white skirt would be acceptable.

The hire shop should be able to put you right or maybe even the funeral directors.

Sorry I read this as white Skirt....

need to skim read better

You've edited me but as we are talking kilts.....

[Hainey]

I'm Scottish. I buried my father the week before last.

I wore a black suit, but I couldn't have cared less if people had came in their gardening clothes.

Attendance, the opportunity to shake their hand and buy them a drink and thank them for being a part of my dad's life is what mattered to me. I wouldn't have cared had they been wearing a boiler suit.

[Brads67]

Hainey said:

I'm Scottish. I buried my father the week before last.

I wore a black suit, but I couldn't have cared less if people had came in their gardening clothes.

Attendance, the opportunity to shake their hand and buy them a drink and thank them for being a part of my dad's life is what mattered to me. I wouldn't have cared had they been wearing a boiler suit.

This

[grumpyscot]

Du1point8 said:

For funerals, its always been dark attire (navy/black/etc), white shirt, black tie and depending on the weather... an overcoat... Thats for males, females get away with a lot more
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Not any more - last four funerals I've been to insisted on "very colourful- no sombre clothes". In fact, last two didn't even have any religion - played into some lovely songs (Beatles "Blackbird" was one) and one even had a jazz band playing!

Defo days of mourning in black clothes is over - I've even made a statement in my will that here's to be "no religion, no sad songs, and absolutely no sombre clothes". My Dad's done the same - he wants played into "Do you know the way to an Jose - an old favourite of his, plus "What a Wonderful World", and "Chatanooga Choo Choo".

[Marlin45]

Turquoise said:

Avoid Hawaiian shirts.

At the funeral I attended last week they were positively encouraged

[Peanut Gallery]

I was at a funeral yesterday, he was English, but had moved to Scotland and wore a kilt on many occasions.

I wore my kilt, and there were many other kilts around. Your presence is of far more importance than your attire, just be sensible!

I also hope to have a "wear the brightest clothing you can find to my funeral" in my will.


Talking of getting your kilt adjusted, have you searched for kilt extenders?
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Kilt-Strap-Buckle-Extende...

[Fitz666]

It would never even cross my mind to wear my kilt at a funeral, it just seems (to me anyway) disrespectful, always a black suit for me, and I love wearing my kilt.

[anothernameitist]

Funerals in France are different in the countryside at least, everyone clock off from work, or what ever they are doing if retired etc.

Off to church and cemetry in what every they were wearing.

No wake straight back to work.

[markmullen]

sparkythecat said:

Hilts said:

I have a kilt and the necessary accoutrements.

However it no longer fits me so time for a change ie I may have put on a little bit of weight.

Crikey, a full kilt is made from 8 yards of tartan, so I'd have thought it would stretch over even the most massive paunch.

Fond of the of neaps and tatties are You?

They're sized, it's not like a bath towel where you keep wrapping it around until you run out, then tuck the end in, the front and back (called aprons) are sized to fit right, and the whole lot fastened with buckles and straps.

[Vaud]

glenrobbo said:

I have told everyone that when I shuffle off this mortal coil, I expect everyone to come to my funeral in fancy dress or they won't be allowed to the party. Nothing worse than a depressing morbid funeral with a load of long faces and teary eyes.

Mine too (or rathe I have said no dress code, but no black) .

Lots of (terrible) jokes.

Lots of booze.

Celebration of a life.