Divorcing empty nesters...
Discussion
anonymous said:
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My driveway slopes down towards the road slightly, I was half tempted to let it roll out handbrake failure style!Sorry for your troubles; I struggled with my breakup and it was nothing in comparison compared to what you (and other posters) have been through. Complicated though - over a year later and we are still living together.
austinsmirk said:
just ploughing through this reminds me of a tale of mad women in the last stages of marriage.
My brother in law went on a stag day/night. must have come home in a state, banging about. his first wife is not there in the morning, had gone to work.
thinks nothing of it. doesn't speak to her during the day- this is pre-mobile phone days.
so Dave thinks, right, I'll do something postive to redeem myself. I'll paint the outside of the house.
He is up a set of ladders, painting the fascia boards or something, when her car, an MG soft top to give it context, rolls onto the drive at speed.
doesn't slow.
She drives the ladders out from beneath him completely with her car.
parks the car and just goes in the house.
I'm pretty sure they were divorced soon after. Oh and although this is 30 years ago: not much has changed, she kept the farm.
Would he not have fell straight onto the car?My brother in law went on a stag day/night. must have come home in a state, banging about. his first wife is not there in the morning, had gone to work.
thinks nothing of it. doesn't speak to her during the day- this is pre-mobile phone days.
so Dave thinks, right, I'll do something postive to redeem myself. I'll paint the outside of the house.
He is up a set of ladders, painting the fascia boards or something, when her car, an MG soft top to give it context, rolls onto the drive at speed.
doesn't slow.
She drives the ladders out from beneath him completely with her car.
parks the car and just goes in the house.
I'm pretty sure they were divorced soon after. Oh and although this is 30 years ago: not much has changed, she kept the farm.
Therefore parking him and the car in the garage?
Bloody hell Tonk, that is some grade A nutbar stuff.
If the MIL stays any longer, park your car so that she has to park on the sidewalk/just off the drive, then have it towed when she it out again.. surely reasonable if someone is blocking your drive in?
Hope you can get out of this situation quickly mate, my relationship wasnt anywhere near spiteful or hateful, but just looking back it was already way too much to bare, cant imagine open hostility like this
If the MIL stays any longer, park your car so that she has to park on the sidewalk/just off the drive, then have it towed when she it out again.. surely reasonable if someone is blocking your drive in?
Hope you can get out of this situation quickly mate, my relationship wasnt anywhere near spiteful or hateful, but just looking back it was already way too much to bare, cant imagine open hostility like this
austinsmirk said:
just ploughing through this reminds me of a tale of mad women in the last stages of marriage.
My brother in law went on a stag day/night. must have come home in a state, banging about. his first wife is not there in the morning, had gone to work.
thinks nothing of it. doesn't speak to her during the day- this is pre-mobile phone days.
so Dave thinks, right, I'll do something postive to redeem myself. I'll paint the outside of the house.
He is up a set of ladders, painting the fascia boards or something, when her car, an MG soft top to give it context, rolls onto the drive at speed.
doesn't slow.
She drives the ladders out from beneath him completely with her car.
parks the car and just goes in the house.
I'm pretty sure they were divorced soon after. Oh and although this is 30 years ago: not much has changed, she kept the farm.
Sod divorce, i would be pushing for attempted murder and settling for a plea of ABH if I could not get GBHMy brother in law went on a stag day/night. must have come home in a state, banging about. his first wife is not there in the morning, had gone to work.
thinks nothing of it. doesn't speak to her during the day- this is pre-mobile phone days.
so Dave thinks, right, I'll do something postive to redeem myself. I'll paint the outside of the house.
He is up a set of ladders, painting the fascia boards or something, when her car, an MG soft top to give it context, rolls onto the drive at speed.
doesn't slow.
She drives the ladders out from beneath him completely with her car.
parks the car and just goes in the house.
I'm pretty sure they were divorced soon after. Oh and although this is 30 years ago: not much has changed, she kept the farm.
Mobile Chicane said:
Three sides to every story: his side, her side, and then there's the truth.
Yes I get that some wimmins can be difficult, but if she hates him that much that she wants him out of her and her son's life completely, then there has to be a compelling reason.
Of course. But whether it's a valid reason or not is another question.Yes I get that some wimmins can be difficult, but if she hates him that much that she wants him out of her and her son's life completely, then there has to be a compelling reason.
grumbledoak said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Yes I get that some wimmins can be difficult, but if she hates him that much that she wants him out of her and her son's life completely, then there has to be a compelling reason.
Sure. It's called 'spite'.
Mobile Chicane said:
Three sides to every story: his side, her side, and then there's the truth.
Yes I get that some wimmins can be difficult, but if she hates him that much that she wants him out of her and her son's life completely, then there has to be a compelling reason.
Whilst that is true, I've witnessed and experienced how women (and men) can turn from normal to batsYes I get that some wimmins can be difficult, but if she hates him that much that she wants him out of her and her son's life completely, then there has to be a compelling reason.
t mental once the relationship starts its decline into war. The crazy often has not bearing on the facts of why the relationship started failing - it's all about hurting the other side and getting the most from them.A very sad state of affairs and I wish all those going through these difficult times the very best.
TheLordJohn said:
There's some days when I am fairly sure I am towards the end.
I reckon if I asked "Is this marriage over?", I'd get a yes...!
20's, married 3 years.
Then don't you think you should do something about it? Work out with your wife if it's fixable - or even just whether you both want to fix it?I reckon if I asked "Is this marriage over?", I'd get a yes...!
20's, married 3 years.
I know it doesn't feel like it when you're in your twenties, but trust me, life is short.
Mobile Chicane said:
Three sides to every story: his side, her side, and then there's the truth.
Yes I get that some wimmins can be difficult, but if she hates him that much that she wants him out of her and her son's life completely, then there has to be a compelling reason.
Could the desire to "get back at him" seem compelling during a break up?Yes I get that some wimmins can be difficult, but if she hates him that much that she wants him out of her and her son's life completely, then there has to be a compelling reason.
FGB said:
TheLordJohn said:
There's some days when I am fairly sure I am towards the end.
I reckon if I asked "Is this marriage over?", I'd get a yes...!
20's, married 3 years.
If you have doubts after 3 years I'd say you married the wrong person.I reckon if I asked "Is this marriage over?", I'd get a yes...!
20's, married 3 years.
Get out asap!
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