Divorcing empty nesters...
Discussion
Sheepshanks said:
I've fallen out with colleagues who've done that sort of thing, but sweeping generalisation, I do think a lot of wives are close to taking the mick in terms of soaking up everything their husbands have but giving little back.
In the main they do an adequate job but you'd have to think that if you were performance reviewing them at work then it wouldn't go very well.
I find it odd how we're quite happy to continually strive at work, to 'up our game', 'continually innovate', 'outflank the competition' (and all the other wIn the main they do an adequate job but you'd have to think that if you were performance reviewing them at work then it wouldn't go very well.
k words I hate) but yet we fail to apply the same logic to our personal relationships.Mobile Chicane said:
I find it odd how we're quite happy to continually strive at work, to 'up our game', 'continually innovate', 'outflank the competition' (and all the other wk words I hate) but yet we fail to apply the same logic to our personal relationships.
It's almost like you're saying people have to try and put some effort in k words I hate) but yet we fail to apply the same logic to our personal relationships.
Another good comparison is friendships. If neither side takes the effort to get in touch or meet up fairly often, then the friendship is going to disappear in time.
garyhun said:
escargot said:
ali_kat said:
Is it not worth paying some bloke to wine her, dine her etc & get her to fall so hard she moves out?
What sort of advice is that? 
As GaryHun suggests, its advice from a different aspect
Countdown said:
The reason they've split up and married again? Looks to me like its mainly boredom, midlife crisis, and a need to prove their manliness. They've both got a bit of spare cash (one has 5 cars including an RRS as a daily and a 911 for the weekends), both susceptible to a bit of flattery from somebody young, female, and "nice on the eye". In one case he's kicked his wife and (grown up kids) out of the house and moved Trophy Wife in. That's a bit 5hitty in my book but it's his life.
fking snakes with dicksEdited by Adam B on Monday 26th September 21:42
oldbanger said:
it happens. Believe me, I have done it a couple of times.
My personal experience is that a guy earning less will still want to be treated as the big man with the big job. Empirical evidence shows that men who earn less than their wives do less childcare, housework , cooking etc on averagethan their earning counterparts.
It can feel like being a single parent with a grown up son, to be honest.
Interesting, thanks for your reply.My personal experience is that a guy earning less will still want to be treated as the big man with the big job. Empirical evidence shows that men who earn less than their wives do less childcare, housework , cooking etc on averagethan their earning counterparts.
It can feel like being a single parent with a grown up son, to be honest.
At what point in the marriage does everything you don't do get thrown in your face on a daily basis?
I, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the st like the bh that I have become...
I, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the s
t like the bh that I have become... TheLordJohn said:
At what point in the marriage does everything you don't do get thrown in your face on a daily basis?
I, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the st like the bh that I have become...
If you're posting on the net, instead of telling her to F'ing behave herself, then I'd suggest you've reached a point where things need sorting out.I, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the s
t like the bh that I have become... I wish you all well on this very sad thread
TheLordJohn said:
At what point in the marriage does everything you don't do get thrown in your face on a daily basis?
I, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the st like the bh that I have become...
Doesnt sound niceI, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the s
t like the bh that I have become... TheLordJohn said:
At what point in the marriage does everything you don't do get thrown in your face on a daily basis?
I, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the st like the bh that I have become...
Perhaps you keep too much to yourself, in the interests of peace/quiet (and your own sanity?). In any (rare?) time of 'normality' is it not possible to - gently - explain your concerns and frustrations ?I, personally, feel as if I do quite a lot compared to a lot of men.
However, I don't feel the need to remind my wife that I walk our dog every day (usually more than once), done the washing up, put the dishes away, hoovered up, cleaned the rabbits out etc.
If there's ONE thing she's done that day she finds a way to use it against me in a conversation.
Not to mention the two houses we now own, thanks to me.
I keep all this to myself and just take the s
t like the bh that I have become... Robertj21a said:
Perhaps you keep too much to yourself, in the interests of peace/quiet (and your own sanity?). In any (rare?) time of 'normality' is it not possible to - gently - explain your concerns and frustrations ?
Can't raise any criticism at all, of any sort, without being met by a louder and louder (and arsey) response. I've just given up. Literally given up.
TheLordJohn said:
I'll start slowly dropping bits into conversations, here and there.
But, honestly, the slightest mention of a criticism or 'another point of view' is met with absolute hostility.
What would happen if you just left for the weekend?But, honestly, the slightest mention of a criticism or 'another point of view' is met with absolute hostility.
As in pack a bag now and come back Monday morning.
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